how many times a month does your parents have a fight with each other?
By jijomathew
@jijomathew (519)
India
June 28, 2008 12:55am CST
hi friends!well if you ask me,my parents were married 21 years ago.an arranged marriage and both of them are totally different charecters.they have different hobbies,different likes and dislikes,and even they have different opinion.
still they are able to maintain a good relationship,but they usually have a fight 3-4 times a month.i dont know if its way too many or average.sometimes things get even get a little complicated,but they really unite and solve problems together,and also buy presents for each other if they are in a very good mood.they dont know how to sing but they sing "happy birthday" on each others birthday.they are the best parents which i could ever get and i really thank god that he has given me very good parents.
so how many times does your parents have a fight with each other?
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17 responses
@Jasperman (10)
• China
28 Jun 08
Hey, man! Maybe the times my parents have a fight with each other are less than those of yours, but, to tell the truth,I am really envious of your family. Beacause i think the fight can strengthen the relationship of your family members. i wish you well and happy, my friend!
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@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
hi jasperman!maybe fight can help to keep a very good relationship.thank you for wishing me luck and best of luck for you too.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 08
my parents do fight but not verbally or physically. They avoid seeing each other and would declare cold war for weeks. They do this often and only reconcile when something urgent comes up that needs both attention. Weird isn't?
@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
well not paying attention to one another is a really strong thing to show hate ,doing a fight still have a love inside it,but i am happy that your parents relationship is going really well.best of luck and have a nice day.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jun 08
as far as i can remember..they seldom fight and never hear them yell to each other since i guess my mom dont pay any attention to what my father been doing(when he gets drunk)and just shrugged it off..and at present i know why shes like that...its too personal to tell..by the way theyre separated now and havent seen my father for 15 years i guess..
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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28 Jun 08
To be honest, I think that since I left home my parents hardly fight at all. I guess that they must still row but they never tell me about it. My Mum and Dad are pretty close, I used to bring a lot of trouble home when I was young and this caused them to always be at each others throats because one of them would defend me. My parents have been married nearly forty years now and as far as I know are happy.
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@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
hi i am happy that your parents are quite happy and remember if there is no fight between a couple ....well its not possible,dont blame yourself.
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@meghna000 (34)
• India
28 Jun 08
In a relationship of anykind rows are quite common. And there a saying...what is love without fights? So 3-4 times a month is indicative of a very healthy relation I think if they dont go out of control.
As for my parents...they had love marriage and yet they fight everyday. After all these years they have started resenting each others choices and sometimes blow up the house leaving me devastated seeing their condition. That way you are very lucky.
@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
yes you are right what is love without fights.i am happy that your parents have started to respect each other and resemble each others choices ,but my paremnts have not even thought of it yet .i hope the situation improves soon.well have a nice day.
@YOULANLIU (311)
• China
28 Jun 08
That is should be related with the different characteristics of different couples.Some of the couples usually quarrel or even fight with each other while they can still be a good life together.There are also some couples ,they will not be able to endure the pain quarrel.This kind of marriage will soon come to the end.Certainly,my parents sometimes quarrel,but they have never fight with each other.In China,the man who fight with his wife will be considered very incompetent.
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@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
yes you are right there are different peoples in the world some dont fight and some only know to fight .they are weak by their mind.some couples relationship will not survive long.i am happy that your parents are having a good relationship with each other.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
31 Aug 08
I won't say my parents never fight....but most often it is private and we never witnessed it. But sometimes it would come out in the open and one of them would sulk. We never really bothered about it then because it wasn't anything major that would cause us concern. As we grew up we realized that most of the major arguments were held within closed doors and were solved right there. My parents knew how to solve things in a mature manner even when they were really mad at each other.
But sadly, that's not the case with my husband and me and we argue very often.
We argue over lots of things (but I have just one basic point...but it comes in the form of different situations and so my husband doesn't understand it just yet)...and it happens almost every week or so.
@saiwailaozei (363)
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29 Jun 08
yes,even maybe it's not a marriage with true love, but indeed a very moved marriage it is. because in these days ,as for your parents' case,it's quiet hard to keep staying together for such a long time.your parents are the great modle for most people who's married. it's natural for you to be proud of them.
as for my parents, they really love and care about each other all the time.they married just for true love.however,it's cannot be avoided to have some fights occasionally.but it never bring a negative impact on their love. even sometimes quarrel can help them know each other better.
i'm very glad to talk about such a topic, thanks for your nice topic.good day!
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
29 Jun 08
who knows. i never really paid attention. people in my family always did their own thing. so i wasnt aware of it...i was more into my own life...
@TheManager24 (1302)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Good thing I never saw them physically fight. I think they argue, nothing is perfect, but they managed to talk things on a more personal way. 
@jijomathew (519)
• India
28 Jun 08
well i am happy that your parents did not had a fight till now maybe they are "made for each other",but some couples in this world are having a very hard time .anyway,take care.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
29 Jun 08
My parents were both passed away but when they were still alive they seldom argued or fight.My dad was really the best which i can see also from my husband right now.He never start a fight it was my mom and he just try to ignore her.He just stay calm and quiet trying to avoid the arguement and left .He would came back when my mom was already feeling better and calm.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
My parents are divorced, and haven't spoken to eachother in years. If they still spoke to eachother they'd do nothing but fight. LOL I'm glad they're not talking.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 08
My parent have married for 30 years, but they always have quarrel. The quantity can't be counted by month, should be counted daily.
May be that's their communication way. Even though always have quarrels, but that's doesn't mean they don't care each others. Actually the way of the quarrel like showing they are caring each other.
@amenpukhraj (25)
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28 Jun 08
My parents used to fight with each other but not anymore now.When i was young they fought alot on that time,but now thanks to God that they don't fight anymore now.But i know one thing that on that time my father used to start fight with my mother .I remember that day when i was young and i wanted one toy and i told my mom and my mom asked to my dad and he said no but my mom purchased that toy for me.When my dad knew about it he slapped my mother and fought with her.But still they love each other alot.I want them to be happy forever. luv u mom n dad
