What should i do?
@latriciajones (846)
United States
June 28, 2008 11:35am CST
ok guys, here's the thing i allowed my brother who is 21 to come and live with me almost a year ago. My intentions were to get him from under my mother's wings so he more responsible. We live in a 2 bedroom apt. so me and my 4 year old son and my boyfriend sleep in the same room and my brother has the 2nd room becuase i didnt want him to have to share a room with a 4 year old. But since then i havent worked and my boyfriend is paying all the bills, we have a brand new two month old baby, so now my room is even more crowded with four of us and our belongings.
My brother normally gives me $50 every two weeks just for living here. Now since he living with me he has had for jobs becuase he likes to play around at wok and do stupid things that get him fired. so sometimes he can barely give me the $50. Then to top it off me and my boyfriend are the only one's that buy grocery. And what makes me mad is the fact that my brother is the one that eats up the most, but he never gives no more than the $50. I am at the point now where i want to say something to him and let him know that he has to contribute more because times are hard and i have my own family to worry about. and i didnt think he would still be living with me. And my kids need their room back.
So what would you guys do? would you say something to him? And also is it wrong for me to take my kid's room back and make him sleep on the sofa?
1 response
@enihpesoj_zetroc (190)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
i perfectly understand what you feel with this 0ne trish,we are alm0st in dsame sitwati0n but mine is n0t that c0mplicated coz i d0n't need t0 w0rry ab0ut my bf.anyway,y0u really need t0 have a seri0us talk with y0ur br0ther.explain t0 him that y0u and y0ur kidz are dependent with y0ur bf and s0 it's n0t right that he is adding up his resp0nsibility.c0z u als0 c0nsider the feeling 0r what your bf w0uld think knowing that y0u have a n0t s0 resp0sible br0ther with ya.ask him h0w he w0uld feel if he were in y0ur bf sh0es?..and make him understand that he is n0 l0nger a kid and that he needs t0 gr0w up and have a sense 0f resp0nsibility t0 himself.f0r that t0 happen,he sh0uld be m0re independent.but d0n't f0rget that tell him that y0u l0ve and care f0r him..and when y0u do,explain t0 him that he needs t0 m0ve 0ut.i am sure he will understand,since he is aware 0f the kidz y0u have..[lol]..he d0esn't need t0 m0ve asap th0ugh,give him an ample time.let him find a j0b first then an apartment t0 m0ve in.y0u w0n't ask him t0 m0ve 0ut anyway,given that y0u have a larger h0use right?..g0odluck!
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
27 May 11
sorry for the late response. I just returned to mylot yesterday. i understand what you are saying because if it were my boyfriends brother I would definitely be telling him to talk to his brother about helping out or moving out. As you can probably imagine that since this was first posted I did end up telling my brother he had to move out, and luckily he was able to move in with my older brother who lived by hisself. But thank you for the input. It was exactly on point.
