my mother and i did not form close relationship
By selenechen
@selenechen (14)
China
June 29, 2008 4:05am CST
when i was a child my mother was often away from home. when she was at home she aways complain of me. in my memory, she never said she love me. my mother and i did not form close relationship. sometimes i am assailed by doubts whether i really love her.
3 responses
@anujain75 (1059)
• India
29 Jun 08
I think you should be positive.Mother's cannot be bad. All mother love their child.It is child's misjudgement that she does not love us.
When I was child my mother often stay away from home for business.Salary of My father was not sufficient,because a large amount of my father's goes to my brother's treatment.So my mother start business.She did not give us same time as she gave before.We really felt sad.
But she is doing this for her children atleast she wants that her children should led a comfortable life.She can stay away from home for sake of her children.Sometime out of frustration she say something which heart us,doesnot mean that she doesnot love me. you should consider your mother's situation.
After marriage we realize what is mother.Both me and my sister stay 2000kms away from my parental house.we talk everyday with each other.Otherwise we feel something missing.
@selenechen (14)
• China
29 Jun 08
i am envious of you!
many times i was beaten black and blue by my mother with club. i know she was in bad mood resulting from my willfuless and obstinacy. and i know how much she owe to me. but all will take time.
when i had my baby in 2006, i made up my mind that we would never fall into this kind of trap.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
29 Jun 08
A lot of people grow through bad memories of thier parents. A few people I know have had worse memories than you can have mentioned above. The thing is that wew have to learn from tht and make sure that our kids do not have to experience what we did. Also if your Mom is still around why dont you try and improve your relationship with her. Both your loves may change for the positive.
@selenechen (14)
• China
29 Jun 08
thanks for your advice. i have been had a try. all my efforts proved of a little avial.but it is just not at all well.
@calajane (1003)
• Poland
29 Jun 08
I always feel very sad when I read testimonies like that. Me and my mother are really close and no matter what bad I'd do I always knew she would be on my side, defending me from all those other people and I always knew she would be there to hear my side of any story before making judgement. I really can't imagine things being any other way. I'm really sorry to hear you don't have such relationship with your mother, but I believe it doesn';t have to stay that way. Maybe all you need to do is talk to her?
