Marriage on the rock

That would be very sad if I fell out of love with my husband. I don't think I'd stay for the sake of the children, because if I was that unhappy, I don't think it would be a very nice home environment. If I had a violent or mean husband, I would definitely not stay. Luckily my husband is lovely, and I've been married to him for nearly 29 years - and our children are all grown up, so I don't have to stay for their sake if he suddenly turns into a wifebashing, lunatic nutcase!

I have to admit this is a very hard topic cause I am in the same boat as your friend.. I have a topic started that might interest you if so just let me know there is some good advice there that might help you and you can give to your friend... It's not easy that I do know.. I am still yes thinking of what to do myself.. I hope though that you can find some advice here from people, i know alot of them have some great oppions that really matters!

i love my kids so i would probably try to keep things going first. but really i think i would feel guilty for doing that. i want my kids to grow up seeing a real loving marriage. so if my husband and i aren't able to do that i would rather get a divorce. atleast then they will see us being real and truthful. sometimes people fall out of love but kids need to see that they can still get along and find love again with someone else.

I wouldn't stay for the kids sake. All that does is hurt the kids in the long run. With all the walking on egg shells and the tenchin in the house is not goodfor the kids. I hope the best of luck for your friend.

Some people would find it hard to beleive but it does happen due to a lot of reasons the most common one being betrayal.personally i hold on for the sake of the children if they were too young and move out when they grow older.

I feel like marriage takes alot of work, and you get what your willing to put into it. You have to rememeber when you feel inlove with your husband and do your best to bring that back with special times together without the children. Im all for making it work and keeping your family together. The grass is not greener on the other side, there will be problems there too.

That is sad to know that you have fallen out for him. But worse it that you have children and for sure your children are the innocent party to be affected if you will separate right now. For me I would go for separation if there is a much valid cause for you to separate like infidelity, trust issues, and some other things. Just falling out of love may not be acceptable for me. Just be there for the kids I say and love them as you love your family. That should keep your marriage afloat at least.

My mom decided to give it a try with my father for me and my brother's sake but she only ended up having our youngest sister. I did agree with her because in marriage, the two most important persons are the husband and wife and they are the ones who will be living together forever. IF one falls out of love (whatever the reason is), it will be unfair for the other party if he or she is made to believe that he/she is loved. Someday, their children will grow up and have their own family, leaving both parents by themselves. What would happen to the couple if the children who are the reason for keeping the marriage is no longer around? Will they be treating each other nicely or they will start showing what they really feel? In some cases, the reason for falling out of love should be determined and the problems be solved at first. But if you are to ask me if I should stay married just for the sake of my children, I wouldn't because they will hurt them more if they would see me and my hubby into fight or not into talking-terms. It will affect them badly than seeing us separated but peaceful.

i wouldnt stay for the sake of the children because i would end up hurting myself and my kids even more. it is hurtful for kids to grow up in a household where the parents dont laugh, and they barely speak to each other. kids do understand more than we think they do. and if your friend just sits the kids down and talk to them about the situation then they will understand eventually.

For me and the place where i live, marriage is considered very sacred and marriage is for keeps. One is not allowed to just get into it or walk out of it as and one desires. I do understand that after some years you do get that feeling. All i can suggest is give yr marriage time. Try to work out things. Where there is a will there is a way. They say to stay in a relationship one can have 10000 reasons and to not stay again 10000 reasons. So be positive, try to revive old memories and there will be i guess not one but 100 reasons to keep the marriage going. Also since u have kids, u both are not just husband and wife but father and mother, another set of roles to be played. So tell yr friend to give it a thought very seriously. What God has united man shall not divide.

I guess it would be better to talk for your friend to talk with her husband and tell the truth.Make any compromise and try to save the marriage.But if she feel it still doesn't work and unhappy then i guess it would be time for her to give up.Staying in the relationship because of the children is always the common reason,but i don't think its right for the children to see their parents unhappy.Anyway, while they grow they would understand the situation.I've been with that situation.Saving the marriage and suffered alot just for our child but i had given the strenght to give up when my child personally told me to do so.The children will understand specially when they had witnessed the situation.