Is your husband /wife your best friend
By wendyloo
@wendyloo (184)
France
June 29, 2008 3:18pm CST
My first marriage lasted only a few years
My husband now, I lived with from the day I met him,our friend sent him to visit boxing day 1979 on a blind date.
We married a couple of years later and next week have been married 27 years.
We have worked together every day of that time and only have the odd cross word.
I can honestly say that we both agree that this success is due to the fact that we are best friends,,I feel that you have to have more than love to survive these days,we both even know what the other is thinking about..... spooky
What do you think
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23 responses
@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
yes, my husband is my best friend..we met on our college days..we became friends..and soon became best friends..and now became my husband..for four years of being together, before getting married i can say that we know each other well..it really help..to build friendship before going in to a relationship..friendship is a good foundation of a strong relationship..
@msedge (4011)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I believe that friendship is the best foundation of love.My husband and i started as friends until our feelings had developed into love and decided to get married.Like you my first marriage was a failure but this time i could feel that this will last for a lifetime.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Well, I feel that the only way 2 people can really stick together thru thick and thin is to be Best Friends and Lovers. I feel my husband and I can talk about anything, and he is always open to something new. My marriage is also based on a Relationship with God and remembering to put him first when there are problems most people could never handle. For me, if a person you are married too is not your Best friend before you get married, then maybe they are not the one for you.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi wendyloo,
I will consider also my husband as my best friend..We can talk anything in life and I can vent out to him with anything..We are just newlywed and I am praying that we will be able to maintain the great relationship that we have...We started to become friends for a long time before we became lovers so it help us a lot in developing a very strong foundation of our relationship!
Congrats for your 27 years with your husband...That's a great work!
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Yes, he is totally my best friend. I would even call him my soul mate. We've had moments where he has verbally responded to my thoughts. Like, I was thinking something and he answered me like we were having a conversation. This has happened numerous times. It's kind of weird, but just goes to show how close we are. We can be intimate with each other and we can also joke around and have fun like friends. It's a good way to be. We'll have been married for 7 years in December.
@sweetmummy (20)
• India
29 Jun 08
He is one of my best friends besides my sister and brother and my friend with whom I have been friends since my kindergarden days.
@overwhelming (4)
• China
30 Jun 08
Fostering firm love is something like making friends.We can find honesty,sympathy from our friends.It can also be applied to two ture lovers.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Isn't it wonderful to find a person like that!
Good for you. My spouse is my best friend.
We don't always get along, cause he's bull-headed
and stubborn and takes everything too personally.
But that doesn't stop him from being my best friend.
Friends don't always have to agree with each other.
As long as they love each other and care about each
others welfare.
@ryzach (1544)
• United States
15 Jul 08
My husband is like my best friend to me. He makes me laugh, we have fun together and we have been married 20 years this August. It just doesn't seem that long. They have been happy years, even though some of them we have struggled financially but we have made it through that. We have our occassional spats but all in all it is all good. Yeah he is my best friend.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
That is right!!! My husband and I were now together for almost 11 years. We also have hard times but we make it because we are friends and we know each other's weaknesses and we have big room for consideration. If both are working hard for the relationship, it really pays but if only one is working hard while the other is not willing to do it, there is no success. I can say, if husband and wife are best friends, it would really help a lot in a relationship.
@lisa1105 (108)
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29 Jun 08
i think your right, you have to be friends, ive been with a man for 4 years now
and i think of us as best friend and of course theres love but like they so
somtimes thats not allways enough, and theres been lots of times when weve both
said the samethin at the same time or hay ive just thought of something and he has just said or doen it.
@tennis_boy (102)
• Pakistan
29 Jun 08
well how can i tell im not married im just 19.....but ill always marry that girl whom i know and who would be my good friend
@Wolfechu (1193)
• United States
29 Jun 08
Mine certainly is. I don't have a huge circle of friends to start with, at least not locally, and neither does she, really. To be honest, we actually prefer that, we're not the gregarious types offline. But we're perfectly happy with each other. Oh, and the cats ;)
@KellyMate (361)
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15 Jul 08
I am not yet married, but my boyfriend is my best friend, i can talk to him about anything, even girl stuff, its great to love someone soo much, i mean if you cant tell your best friend something, who can you tell?
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
I think you are very lucky which can also be said about your husband. My wife and are are polar opposites and I married her anyway. What was I thinking? I probably thought I was smart enough to dominate and make her over. And I bet she was thinking the same thing about me. Still, I loved her more than God himself. We rarely agree on one thing so we don't take a consensus, it is understood that she is right all the time. This is our solution to our lack of agreement, we only have one opinion, hers. Cheers!!
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
30 Jun 08
My soon to be hubby is my best friend, my rock , and my whole world . We work together as a team and that is how we have got through many good times and bad times . Together anything is possible . It is the best way to be a lover and a best friend .
Have a great start of the week
Cheers 
@SwtJenlove (1090)
• United States
30 Jun 08
my fiance is my best friend. we have been together for 11 years this september 11th.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Yes my husband is my bestest friend. I really don't have any friends except my husband.. I really think that since i am married that my only best friend should my my husband with excections of a few couple friends.. I believe that if you are married you should have single friends anymore
@cherry_chanz (229)
• India
30 Jun 08
i think Friendship is the most beautiful relation on earth...and when ur partner is ur best friend...ur life rocks....u share ur each n evry joy n sorrow with your partner...i think its wonderful to have him/her as ur best friend...afterall he/she is the person you are gona spend ur life wid...
