How would you feel?

Yes, my feelings would be hurt and I'd probably spend some time crying too. My family had some similar junk like this going on until finally I just went to my brother and his wife and talked to them face to face to find out why I wasn't being invited to things. And what I found out still floors me, there were some actual un-truths, polite term for lies, being told by a certain family member and they were keeping the family apart! So now, I go straight to my brother and his wife to find out what's going on in the family. Have you thought about talking to the sister's who didn't invite you? Maybe they are getting some wrong information and they don't even know you would be interested in coming over? I don't know your exact situation but what do you have to lose?

I've never been in your situation before but I believe I would be terribly hurt by this. It does sound like they are deliberately leaving you out. Since they don't seem to want to talk to you maybe you could just send them a note and ask them what the problem is, that you don't understand and would like to be able to see and talk with them. I hope I'm of some help to you and I wish you the best of luck. God Bless!!

Hi, If they did it purposely, surely I feel hurt and mad at them. Why they kinda isolate me? But if they do have valid reason and can't avoid, I'll forgive them. I'll try to fit into their life unless I can't comprise my needs as well. I guess just keep update your life to them, surely it will help in build strong bond again.

For me, my brother, sister and I, after we grow up sometimes can't be as close as we do before. Each of us have their own family, we have to cercerning our family and have little time to gethered and comunicate. Although we are like this, but we are still being well wiith each other, don't have much problem with our relationsip. It's just don't have much time for us to togethered. If we can living near, I think this can be changed but each of other lived very far away.

I know how you feel and yes feeling would be hurt. I was very close to my family. When I got into a relationship with my baby's father, the family totally shut me out. I didn't do anything do deserve that. My mom never liked his parents, therefore she didn't give either one of us a chance. Some adults need to start acting more like adults than the children the should be raising. It is hurtful for family to act this way.

Dear Idowrite 72, Without being accusatory, I would like to ask how long it has been since you called them? I would also like to ask you how long it has be since you invited them to your home for something? That being said, I would like to tell you that it has been my experience that things like this usually are two sided, and both sides seem to blame each other for not communicating with them. Someone has to be the bigger person in all of this, and I am sad to report if things are going to change, it may well have to be you. I would set something up, like a cards night, give them a call and ask them to come over. Make the first move. If they don't come to your cards night, than I would comfront them and ask them why they won't come. Tell them you love them and that you just want things to be the way they used to be. Tell them you feel excluded from activities, and have noticed that they don't call as often as they used to, and explain that you feel hurt and confused as to why this has come to pass. If they still seem to have a changed attitude towards you, give it some time and see how it goes. I hope this helps you, Carla

Yes, you are deliberately being left out though only you know better the reason for it. Now feeling bad about it…well we feel bad when we are kids, by the time we are adults and as we age further, we kind of understand and accept other’s behaviour towards us. We know that we cant change ourselves so why expect others to change for us? I would not have felt bad because I know that they avoid me, so I would expect nothing from them. Either you accept them for what they are or you stop visiting them altogether.

ive got no sister..just 2 brothers which the eldest had already passed away years back and i cant relate to you on that sense since i havent experienced it..if i were you i will talk to them and ask whats wrong or is there anything that you had done that make the avoidance or whatever..

Well it seems that something has happened,and why are you not close anymore? Do you still call them? It sounds like if you were close to them they would have invited you..Its strange how you use to be close but now you are not..Start thinking abour what happened to make you not close and when you figure it out ,do your best to fix it..Its sad not to be close to your sisters ,one day you all will need each other....Yes i would be hurt ,but i am the type that would be asking WHY..

I grew up in a family that was not the nicest of people and even among all the pain I still loved them because simply, they were my family. There was so much fear that I would have to let them go for the sake of saving my own peace of mind and being able to move on a develop my own life and friends and now family. It took a while because I just had so much anger but when I just approached them as people with faults I was able to hear my mom say she loved me and grin and bear it. It took over 20 conversations (keep in mind conversations with at least 3 months in between them) with her saving she loved me for me finally to give her a chance. I felt so wronged for having to deal with so much mistreatment from all my family but it changed when I saw her making the effort to reach out to me. What does this have to do with your situation? Well nothing to be exact but maybe it would do you good to take some time off and reach out to other people outside your family that you can have things in common with which does not happen over night. I think maybe your sisters will see that and want to know whats going on in your life and that they do not want to lose you. But even if not, just keep reaching out to them by gradual gestures just to show you still care and not necessarily blowing up their phone or pressing yourself. Its not worth the petty drama to fragment the family and you can be the one to set that example.

Yes idowrite I would also be hurt, and I would ask my sisters why they are shutting me out of their lives, and would also find out if that one sister might just be doing a little fibbing of her own as why else tell you about how you were not invited ets etc etc. I would clear the air with my sisters if it were me. talk to them, they will not bite, and find out the truth If they did really not invite you ask them why?

Hi idowrite72, Have you unknowingly upset them for some resean and forgotten? or there maybe some reason they could be jealous, have you tried talking it out with them, maybe write a note, life is too short and families are the only ones you have, they come first. Good luck Tamarafireheart