OMG...My cousin's boyfriend just called me sexy!

I wouldn't tell her anything. Odds are he was just joking around.

I do not think it matters if you tell her before the baby or after. It still will be a shock either way. If he is the cheating kind I would tell her because if he isn't trying to get with you it will be with someone else. Do you think he was joking? You would feel bad if you didn't tell her and she found out from someone else he was cheating and you knew all along.

i think you probably will have to keep that to yourself. he'll either deny it completely or say he was joking around. and maybe he was joking. if you think he may be a cheater keep an eye on him. if you get any evidence then let her know.

Hello! I don't think you should tell her. Why are you going to tell her, first of all? What if it was just a joke? What if he was trying only to compliment you? He thought you'd like the compliment, so he said that. There's nothing wrong in just saying, but be careful: if he tries anything else, then you tell her. But for now, you should keep cool. Just because he is with her, doesn't mean that all other women must be ugly to him. It just means that he must be faithful to her. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Why was he at your house anyways?. I mean she doesnt live there right? you said hes at her house now. and just because hes called you sexy doesnt means he has any means of sliding anywere. take it as a compliment and get on with it. See the reason i say thse things is because, you dont know what he ment by that. wether it was a sexy, oh id like to hit that, or if its just his was of complimenting you. or if he was joking. You go and tell your cusin. they argue and whatever whatever. all because it was a joke or a compliment. why would you want that when shes about to have his baby. and as for the people say you did somthing, if there were other people there why would they say you did somthing unless u did do somthing?. not saying you did. im just saying why woul they lie like that?. i would shake that off, and forget it. if he does somthing like come to your house trying to get with you. then i would say somthing but.9 times out of 10 there was no harm done there. it wqs just a joke/compliment. i kow guys who say sexy all the time in replace of someones name so. you never know dont jump to conclusions. because your ocnclusions might just mess your sisters"future plan

I suggest that for now until the baby is born just try to stay away from him as much as possible without it being so obvious that your cousin would notice. After the baby is born and she is out of the woods I would DEFINITELY tell her after all family is first. Just be gentle remember a lot of women are prone to post partum depression. This is my humble advice. Hope it helps. Good luck. BTW that man is a JERK!!

Well, theres no way you could tellher about that little compliment its not something you could boast to her. Just keep it to yourself.

You don't tell her even with the best of intentions.

try to tell her it as a simple story... like telling it no malice on your your words and expression. then let her judge it.just be honest for everything that had happen. then follow it up with other funny stories...

Hey latoyahall, he just said you were 'sexy' and that meant nothing as far as I am concerned because guys have a habit of calling any girl 'sexy', 'beautiful' and 'hot'.It really doesn't mean anything unless he goes over the line like touching you or say something a little bit more absurd. Just out of curiosity, are you trying to tell people that you are sexy because I see no reason why anyone should make a big deal from being called 'sexy'? Respectfully, koharukusumi

Don't tell her yet. You do not need to ess her right now. She needs to get over the whole experience of having her c-section and caring for her baby. Remember men come and go, she don't need the stress right now. Tell her when it feels right after the baby is born. C-section is very dangerous so please no stress of a man before. She needs to remain strong for her baby. If your cousin things you were hiding anything from her just show her this website and the date you asked us for advice. I hope I could help Peace Thanks B

I know how you feel my sisters husband hits on me all time and i have told her but she doesn't beieve me at all.

If he is a serious man, how he can say that to you. If he is not a serious man, I can't imagine your cousin's situation. But it is too cruel to tell her now. It's better not to tell her.

Dear Latoya, First off, wow. I'm sorry you've been put into this awkward posistion. What a loser. Your cousin has a right to know what her boyfriend has done. He has violated a trust between the two of them. At this point she is very pregnant and extremely emotional. That being said, I honestly believe you should wait to tell her. Wait until not only after the baby is born, but wait until she is out of the hospital and mostly recovered. Don't make too big a deal of it, you can mention it casually, and say something to the tune of, "Just so you know, the other day your boyfriend called me sexy. I think he was just playing around, but I wanted to be the first to let you know, in case anyone else mentions it, and makes it out to be bigger than what it was. I just thought you should know." Be prepared for an angry outburst, there is a good possibility she is going to be angry with you, but it's better that you say something before someone else does. Usually omitted information is sent right back to the person you didn't want it to get back to, and if this happens she is going to be very angry with you, and ask you why you didn't say anything. By doing it this way, you can tell her and make it sound very casual, your not lying, and your not omitting anything. Hope this helps, and good luck. Carla

Just remember that men's minds don't behave quite normally when they have doubtless been deprived of the usual comforts for a while. This is often likely to happen around the birth of their child. I would just be amused and ignore it. His mind probably isn't wandering seriously but if he DOES get a little more friendly than he should just give him the right kind of friendship back. I'm sure it's only a temporary lapse due to a little enforced 'starvation'.

No, I wouldn't tell her anything. You didn't do anything wrong . Her boyfriend is the one that tried to flirt with you in the first place. I would just let it slides. She will probably find out whether or not her boyfriend is faithful to her sooner or later. The women ALWAYS finds out. I could relate to you with one of my cousin's ex boyfriend. When my cousin's older sister (my other cousin) got married. We were at the wedding reception and I was getting kinda tipsy but still aware of what was going on. So my cousin's boyfriend at the time, was holding me innocently so I could walk and keep my balance and then he turns around and while he held me, he kissed my head. I didn't know what that meant at the meant. Maybe he liked me or something. So I didn't tell my cousin. Several years later when my cousin and I kept in touch, she said she had broken up with him because she found out that he cheated on her with one of their friends. She finally saw his true colors. I confessed to her that he kissed my head and she said she would have been pissed but it's over now.

Okay so i red your second part.... If she doesnt care that he has another family. and that he is a cheater, why would she care he was looking at your butt??. either way she says she loves him. having another family and stuff is way more severe then him looking at your butt...

I wouldn't tell her.. I would tell him then if she asks tell her that you took offense to him calling you sexy.

How about telling her the truth so she knows what kind of man she is living with,baby or not, he should not be coming on to another woman when his girl friend is having his baby. he should be focussing on her, and not on you.

Honestly, it's just a word. I did read a few of the comments here so I know a bit of his history, and like you, I think your cousin is stupid for being with him... however.. he didn't actually make a move, he just said a word. When my husband and I first got together his word for every girl was "hun" and of course that's his word for me. I heard him call a girl on the phone hun, and I knew the girl so I knew he meant nothing by it, but I did tell him it bothered me so he stopped. But a word isn't worth getting upset over. Now if the next time you see him he does try something, then you should tell her and leave it up to her. She may not believe you, because I know girls who date guys like that. You could have a video tape of him coming on to you and she would not believe it. Or worse, she'd blame you! Maybe your cousin is different, who knows. Anyways.. whatever you decide to do, don't worry about the baby. You will not make her go into labor, trust me on that!