im afraid....
By adfrancisco
@adfrancisco (26)
Philippines
June 29, 2008 11:45pm CST
im 25 yr. old now and my last relationship was 3year ago... why, bcause my last relationship is my traumatic experience,,, i gave the best of my love to him, my respect,my loyalty and my honesty,,, i fought for our love when i got pregnant but unfortunately he cheated me that time and my baby died 1mnth after i gave birth to her,, still he cheated me... he always said he loves me but i didnt felt that, i can say that i'm most stupid person that time... when we broke up it was the horrible things happened to my life, i felt its my end and i want to die... but i told to myself that i'm a figther, although its hard for me doing this, still i fight for it for future until i realize that i already don't know what love is, how to love and to be love,,, i make flings, YES! but serious relationship is a BIG NO, NO for me.... but im still hoping soon somebody will teach me what LOVE is, how to love and to be love again...
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13 responses
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
hi adfrancisco, not every man is the same, so dont be afraid, try to love again and be also love. life is always like this, sometimes we hurted so much, but that hurt make us learn. so that the next time we love we really be careful and not do the things we did in our past relationship. thansk and enjoy life.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
30 Jun 08
true. not every man is the same. if you label them as one, you'll never find true love at all. open your heart to possibilities.
@beaniebabe (151)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
Iagree with the girls above,take the chance and you never know.. Good luck
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Love is not a course or a subject, it does need teaching. You love, you don't have to be teach at. You are capable of loving, you are just afraid to get hurt again. But being hurt is part of loving.
I feel so sorry for the child. But life has to move on, and so must you. Don't go for flings, I suggest. You don't make a game out of love. You must love whole heartedly so that you can be love back whole heartedly as well. Love and be love. Love begets love.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
30 Jun 08
that's really a traumatic experience. but you have to stand up again every that fall or else, you will remain in pain.
he hurt you, you did not hurt him. he should be the one feeling bad after losing you and not you feeling sorry for yourself. it's been three years and you have to move on. if you won't open your heart to another possibility of finding true love, you will never get the chance to know what real love is.
anne
@buldwgz (1489)
• United States
1 Jul 08
Aww, losing love is awful. Losing the hope of love may be even sadder. I am sorry to hear about losing your child as well. Don't give up, love will find you again. I had that same feeling before I met my wife. I never imagined I would even come close to finding it at all. That was 18 years ago and I can't imagine life without her. I stopped looking and it found me.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Jul 08
im sorry to hear about how horrible he was to you and the awful thing that happened but you will live and love again.. just got to heal then find some one worthy of you.. you will know when you find him..
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
30 Jun 08
i understand how you feel it hard when you give your all and then that persons doesnt treat you right. you become scorned and you dont trust any guy that you meet, and you dont know how you are supposed to be treated because noone has ever treated you right. but you will get through it, what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. one day you will find your soulmate and he is out there because everyone has one, your last guy just wasnt it. so that means that there is someone out there that is supposed to love you right and you will know him when he comes, i just hope that your guard isnt up and you let him love you and you dont push him away. but take it easy and just think about the good things that have happened to you and that are going to happen. hope you feel better.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
I have always said that love hurts and this is true in every case. Rare is the relationship where everything is smooth and perfect. Sooner or later something happens that turns your world upside down. I don't try to convince anyone who is convinced that their love is perfect because I know what the future brings, heartaches. I am afraid of love and I know how it can hurt. I used to have flings before but those are a thing of the past.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Hi adfrancisco,
I am sorry to hear about your daughter:( that is a veary sad thing that has hapend to you. and i bet that is the biggest thing that is holding you back. because of what he did to you while you were going through all this with your little girl.
but please try to relize,that not every man is like that. there are some out there that are wonderful and you deserve one like that. so if you quit trying and quit looking. you may just pass him up.
keep your eyes open just dont let yourself become so vonerable:).
wich you the best in everything you do...
@Elixiress (3878)
•
30 Jun 08
Don't be afraid, when the right person comes along again you will learn how to love again. I had a boyfriend and when I broke up with him, I said I would not get into anything serious, I started going out with another guy soon after, but he was the type of person that would move on after a month or so, so I thought it would be okay and just a bit of fun. But here we are 8 months later still together and I have learnt to love again.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I am so sorry to hear that you have went through all of this heart break in your life. You will be okay my friends . Time will slowly heal all your wounds and when the right man comes along you will know .
Not every man is the same, and not every man will hurt you . Love is a gift and when it comes you will know, so don't run from it .
I waa hurt too and I thought there was not gonna be a man out there that wanted what i wanted , or who want to commitment to me. Someone , who knew how rare I was and would treat me well . You know what I met him and I saw for the first time what true love was , and it helped me to let go , and get over the past .
Good men are out there and you deserve only the best , so please never settle for less.
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Getting over with the trauma is hard but you will get over it and him for that matter. Each sad experience that happens in our life only makes us stronger persons in the end. Sometimes these sad things that happened to us makes us appreciate what simple things we have in life. Yes, you will have that special someone who will love you as you would like him to. We all have to take chances sometimes.I wish you luck in finding that good and deserving man in your life.
@ifglan (1152)
• China
30 Jun 08
Yes,girls always be hurt by such men.We are all honest to them,and give our own to them,even the life,but some person don't treasure,they give the great pain as their gift to us.
I think maybe two reasons:
1.The man itself isn't with good character or personality.When we meet and then love by appearance or money or passion.We are hesitate to consider the person further,whether he is as good as we meet,we can know from his friends or his background of the family.So to know him,then decide whether to be together or not.
2.Maybe he is a very excellent boy that exeryone likes him,but why?That' mainly our fault.One should not give her 100% love to a man she loves,then she will probably be hurt.Cause the man has got a faith in his heart:Whatever i do,she will always love me,she just can't live without me.So he will not cherish.
Anyway,please be happy,i know your feeling. :)
@omobaorun (74)
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30 Jun 08
Adfranciso,i'm a guy and i'd experienced some thing similar to yours,though she never had a baby for me,but i gave her allmy love and bcos of her,i offended some other ladies bcos i don't like double dating,but at the end what did i get,a broken heart,a nite of tears and hatred for all ladies EXCEPT MY MUM.
But,thanks to God,for his gentle holyspirit,that minister to me through some other fellow believers,that i just have to start from her by forgiven her and then i can start to love again,which is what i did after almost a year of our break up,and now,(though back as ordinary friend) but i'd find another person and i have believe that this will be better than the former one.
So,girl,do as i did,forgive him,no matter how painful or hard it'll be for you to do,after that,you'll see that you'll start to love again and you'll even seea better person than he is. CHEERS!!!
