Why do women let their' husbands tell them what to do?

First, I would say your best friend and her husband are lacking of knowledge about what is the meaning of marriage. Marriage is a sacred thing and husband and wife need to submit and love to each other. It's a give and take, respect each other and many more good things to share to each other. You've asked why in the world do women...... My answer is most of us (both men and women) didn't make a deepest study/self investigation or I can say "Background Investigation" to know your partner in life to be and added to that most of husband and wife didn't undergo a marriage counseling before they've got married. Sometimes we look only in outside beauty, we didn't check the inner beauty of a person and it's too late to know we failed. For all out there who is still single, I do suggest better to know deeper who's he/she your partner to be before to decide to marry him/her. And most of all, If you will choose your partner He/She must have Christ in his/her heart. God Bless!:)

ok lets look at another referance in the bible then, it says that men are the head of women and christ is the head of men.. we were created for men as helpers... or what not it says that right as god was about to create eve... that is why

Unforuately wome have always been the more accomodating gender, and men have taken advantage of their nurturing instinct. My usband and I d not beliee in the domination of women, or the domination of anyone else, for that matter. We are equals in every way. I even kept my name when we got married.

First lets us get the bible out of the way. It is a or series of writings written by men running a male dominated society and trying to keep it that way. It was not of course written by god or inspired by him even if he exists. Everybody is different some people are naturally dominant and some submissive. It may be your friend is submissive and somehow enjoys the feeling she gets when doing what her husband tells her. Over time her feelings may change and she may stop liking it. That does happen and if that happens in her case she will do something about it but until then there is not a lot one can do except stand by

The real question is HOW are you ANY different than her husband by telling her to get out of the relationship??? You are sitting there as judge and jury saying how horrible that is but she may be a lot happier person than you. One of the biggest problems with marriage these days is people are more worried about who is saying to do something than they are being worried about it being the right thing to do. AND if they weren't so worried about where the instructions were coming from and worried more about pleasing their partner, there wouldn't be a 50% divorce rate. What I say here applies to both men and women. You complain that she's being told what to do by her husband and then you act like him by telling her what to do and telling her to leave the relationship? Exactly how are you different? You're not...is the answer. But, since you think you are "enlightened" and smarter than others you impose your sense of morality and ethics on others when they "could be" the happiest couple alive. And by the way, the Bible does NOT say submit yourselves to one another in an equal way. Do you REALLY think the people who wrote the bible thought marriage was 50/50? If you do, you're ignorant of the facts. The smartest thing I've ever heard a priest say about marriage was that "People spend too much time looking for the perfect spouse and not enough time trying to become the perfect spouse." If there is love, REAL love, both parties make an effort to do that. They don't worry about it if someone is "telling them" what to do and worry more about pleasing their partner. This works very well if they have a partner that worries about pleasing them! So, all of these "enlightened" and contemporary politically correct women out there sit there baffled by their lack of ability to find the perfect man...other people are living happy lives for the most part and raising normal families while these "enlightened" folk are still worrying that someone asked them to do something for them. Try letting go of your ego for 10 seconds and see how satisfying life can be and how wonderful it can feel to please someone instead of worrying so hard that you're being "told what to do". Jeez

bull crap.

I think certain types gravitate towards each other. He is a controlling type and the girl is a submissive type. Provided he is also nurturing and plays the role of the head of the family adequately and also provided the lady is happy to live in his shadow with no wish to ever shine then they may be able to be happy. If he tries to keep her down and doesn't allow her to grow and doesn't give her love and nurturing then she will probably shrivel up and be miserable.

Let us get the bible out of the way. This a book or series of writings written by men in a male dominated society and trying to keep it that way. All of us are different and some are naturally dominant and some submissive. It may be that your friend is submissive and enjoys the feelings she gets when she is told or ordered to do something and does it. As peop0le grow older they do change and it may be that one day she not longer gets a thrill from that situation and gets out but until then you and only stand by in case help is required