How do you treat your sister?
By kharen
@kharen (1488)
Philippines
June 30, 2008 1:53am CST
I have a younger sister. I'm 12 yrs. older than her. I love her yet I don't know how to make her feel that all I want for her is to grow upright and persevere unlike me who has been brought up not really in the right way 'cause i'm totally so lazy and maybe what we call a "spoiled brat". It's okay that she gets what she wants but it's just that I want her to have some limitations. She doesn't know how to listen and all she wants is to watch DVD and play and draw. She doesn't treat my mother with respect but we don't know how to tell her she's doing a wrong thing. When I teach her right manners she doesn't listen so I have to yell sometimes and sometimes I act like a meanie just for me to get her to listen. Then sometimes she calls me "Quennie!". She tells me why I feel like the ueen of this house yet I really don't want her to think that about me..
How should I teach her the right things in the right way?
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8 responses
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
30 Jun 08
That is good advice the other person gave you! I would say also, that you can talk with her as a sister and teach her what respect is, although I am sure you already are doing that! If so, she will learn it and probably outgrow her youthful attitude!
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@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
30 Jun 08
I treat my sister very goodly.She is the one whom I love most.I always want that she should get each and every happiness.
@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Try not to scold her..get her attention in different way but not by scolding..sit beside her while she is playing if she doesn't want to bring her barbie down then let her but continue on talking to her..if she did something wrong ask her why did she do it? does she think it is right? what did she felt after doing so did she became much happier? In teaching right manners just be an example to her..when she grows older she will eventually follow what you had taught her.
@franze_jeanne (116)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
well, the two gave you good advices....just spend more time with her...be an older sister to her...exercise your authority over her - always remind her that you are the 'ate' (older sister)...love her all the more... :)
@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Sounds like you're going to have a tough time with that sister... Best of luck to you.
I'm the younger sister (and therefore the baby in the family). My sister was 16 when I was born, so we never grew up together as sisters, really... she moved out before I ever started caring about having my own room or my own toys. We've never had a fight- I'm serious, never. We've disagreed on one or two things, but we've never gotten upset about that or raised voices about it. It's amazing. She's more like a best friend/confidante, and I'm very proud of her (she's an actress).
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I have a sister 14 years younger than me. I tried a few years ago to adopt her as my mother was not bringing her up right. She was quite over weight for being only 9 years old. She could fit into my clothes, and I was overweight myself, so she was really big! When she lived with me she lost about 30 lbs, just from playing outdoors and eating right. I didn't have her on any strict routine.
But she had a lot of other issues as well, such as bed wetting, stealing, and self esteem. I did everything I could to help, but not much was working.
In the end, my mother refused to let me raise her (although she was all for it at first). We had a huge family blow out and I haven't spoken to any of them since. It was a really really bad fight, and to this day I can't forget the things she said to me.
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@elenahap (104)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Jul 08
I believe you should try to be the sister you want her to become. Be her role model, give her the example.
Stop telling her what to do, but just show her passively. If you shout at her she will never do what you tell her even if she sees that you are telling her something good for her.
Anyway it's the easier way, and also you yourself will not get so much tired from trying to advise her.
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