A question about friendship

If she is really a true friend of yours she should totally understand why you give the dog away. It's not like you just let the dog go to the pound or to just any body, you did find her what sounds to me like a very nice owner.

Thought Bubble: *My dog has pups. I give you one. You already have 2 kids. Why am I even offering you a puppy, anyway? You get pregnant with a 3rd baby, and the dog goes insane. You get rid of her. Would I be mad, disappointed, or even the slightest bit peeved that you needed to find your dog a new home? Hell, no! I'd take it to the animal shelter for you, if that's what you wanted! Being your best friend, you know I already love you and your kids, and I would hope that I'd be the first you call for help with the problem, so why in the world would I be mad?* Don't sweat it. If she's truly your best friend, she'll completely understand why you had to do what you did. Especially since you found your dog a great new home, I honestly don't think you have a single thing to worry about. And if she cares so much more about what happens to a dog that she gave away, rather than the children involved in the story, then she shouldn't have gotten rid of the d@mn puppies in the first place. (Sorry, been there. Wasn't pretty.)

nope ur friend should not be upset with u, i wouldnt i would her, she would understand your problem

In all honestly, if I was the one who gave the puppy, I'd feel bad. I think the best thing to be done is to inform the person who gave you the puppy that you're giving it up. For instance, in your situation, it seems very valid that you have to get "rid" of the puppy because you're getting stressed about it already. But since it looks like you already gave the puppy away, do tell your friend so she wont feel much worse. Don't worry, she might not like be others who will get mad. She might understand you for all you know. Good luck!

At first i might of got a bit upset at you and then once i heard the reason i would of understood . i would of been why didnt you come to . i might be upset if i was still close to the pup and got to see it often . i would tell her and i dont think it will be a huge deal and if she is mad it wont last long.

If I were your friend, I would be hurt that you didn't feel able to be honest with me and tell me when you first thought of re-homing the dog. I'm sure she would have understood your position.

if i were your friend, i would really have been so disappointed especially if i get to know about it later. but if you try and open up the matter to me the earliest time possible and explain everything, i will surely understand. and besides, you found her a home where she will be really loved. that, i will be thankful of. anne

Hi ravinskye, Honestly, I will be sad but I will also consider your reasons and as long as the dog is in good hands, I will be fine after!

If shes a true friend she would understand that it was to much for you to handle, and why would she be mad then?. I would tell her like look i loved the dog so much but she went crazy,was doing this and doing this and at 8 months pregnant its really not easy to be gettng on ur knees to clean up after the fact. I wouldnt upset about it, i understand and atleast you did the responsible thing and gave him /her to a loving person instead of dropping him off at the pound.

ABSOLUTELY! I am a dog lover. You never take in a pet you do not plan to raise from the time you get it until it passes away! I would never talk to a friend that did that again after that. If they offered me back the dog, I would take it. But to get rid of it and not give ME back the dog I allowed them to have, or have the dog trainer come in to help the dog readjust? Nope..no loyalty to the dog..why would I expect them to be loyal to me? The way a person treats their pet has alot to say about their character, I feel. Sorry. The dog could have been retrained. YOU were this dog's family. How do you treat others? This was only a jealous dog that needed reassurance. In time it would have been a wonderful pet again, with love and attention. Life is not always planned or easy. This friend offered this puppy and her friendship to you with affection. When you got rid of the dog..it was like you spit in her face. That's how dog lovers feel in these situations? I would also be upset.

Yes, maybe a little! However, I could forgive you if I'm your ture friends when you tell me the cause! I think you'd better not get rid of the dog ,you could put the dog to other people to adopt for only one year after your child growing up or you could give the dog back to your friend and tell her ,you will get back again,just now it is nor easy for the dog in your house now!

This would be no problem with me. But, if this friend is very close, surely she already knows if she hasn't seen it at your home. We sometimes have to do things that we might not want to do.I certainly understand your reason for giving it a new home. You didn't go dump it on the road near some person's home like they do here around ours! Two have showed up lately. My husband started feeding one and he has really become a good watch dog. But the other one I want him to take some place else! I just do not like dogs that are under your feet all the time.

I think your friend would understand the situation. We can't always keep everything that is given to us. Just be honest with your friend...let this friend know that you were worried about how he/she would feel. And, make sure you let this friend know that you have placed the dog i a loving home.

oh,i think i can understand you if i were your friend.and you really have done what you should do for the god. you didn't throw it, you only want her to look after well.so you find a more suitable host to take good care of her.so i can understand this...

I would not think that she should be too upset. Especially for that reason. The only thing I might have done differently is offered her the chance to have the dog back first, but if she is a friend, she should understand.

it is really difficult to tell your friend that you have sent the dog to other person. It is not manners to abandon the present which your friend sent to you. But if you explain this situation with your friend, I think she can understand. after all, you arranged the dog's new home, not abandone it and never care about it.

I think that you did what was best for you. I have a dog that I got last year. We've had her since a puppy as well, but lately I feel that she isn't getting enough attention. My boyfriend takes care of her the most and loves the dog, which is one of the reasons that I haven't found a new home for her. I love my animals, but if for some reason I didn't think they were getting 100% best care, then I certainly would find them a new home--- that i KNOW would take care of them. I think your friend should hopefully understand since you found the dog a nice home. If you had put her somewhere that she wasn't being cared for, or took her to a shelter or something, then she might be a bit more upset. Good luck to you.

I think I will because I have the same experience.But I still think that you should tell her in the right way.She will more upset if it was discovered by herself.

well i would just explain to them why i had to give him up, but at the same time if someone gives you something it becomes yours so you are free to do with it what you want, especially if she didnt tell you you had to keep it. thats like if someone asks to borrow money and you dont ask what they need it for then when you find out they used your money on something unnecessary you cant be mad you gave it to them they can do what they want.thats why if you give someone something and their are certain conditions to it then you should let them know before you give it to them ,so they can let you know if they can meet those conditions or not, then you can choose to give it to them or not.

i would be upset but i would understand why you did it. you probably loved that dog very much but with a third child coming it would be very hard to take of everyone. plus the dog would of gotten jealous and might of tried to do something to the child or it might of wanted to run away. when it does that will make you worry about more things and you dont need that right now with everything thats going on i your life. i think you did the right thing :)