Friends discussions, do you respond to them??
By DonnaLawson
@DonnaLawson (4032)
United States
June 30, 2008 1:01pm CST
How many friends do you have in your friends list?? Do you get notifications when they start a new discussion?? Do you respond to their discussions?? Most likely we all have a very long list of friends in our friends list, but when they start a discussion, do you respond or do you just start discussions and wait for them to respond to yours?? I have a very good long list of friends and I have responded almost 1200 times to others discussions, but when I start one of my own, I get very few responses.. Do you think that your friends should respond to at least some of the discussions that you have started, especially when you have responded to almost all of theirs.. Do you consider these fair weather friends.. Or do you just respond anyway?? I am wondering how everyone else works on Mylot and am cusious about these things.. I take the Mylot experience seriously and am more than willing to be fair but when you feel as if someone else is not being fair, do you keep them on your list.. If you have over 100 friends that you do respond to on a daily basis and you start a discussion, don't you think that you should get more than 10 responses.. I am talking about my experiences and am rethinking the way I am working on mylot, but would love to have some input on this thought.. Have a wonderful day and happy posting..
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53 responses
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I don't respond to all the discussions my friends start. Only if it's something I am interested in myself. Most of my friends here already knew me. They know that while I appreciate the few dollars that will be earned here, I am more interested in the discussions themselves. I don't place expectations on them either. If they want to respond to one of my discussion, go for it. If you don't, that's fine too.
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@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I'm sorry I didn't get back sooner. I don't actually get in here every day. I don't get online every day.
I do understand what you are saying. Why does someone invite you to be their friend and then never post or say anything again?
I don't have hundreds of people that are friends here. I have a few that I have known for quite some time, and some that I met here. Some I have only seen respond to that initial post and never heard from again. Some post to most of my postings. Those are the people I have gotten to know better and can actually now call friends.
The others, the quiet ones, only time will tell. Did they want to make a friend or did they simply find something I said interesting.
Hugs
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Thanks for the comment.. I haven't been on here for about a month but am trying it again.. I have just had too many things to do and could not find even a few minutes to get on Mylot.. I am trying to make sure that I do respond to all of the comments that I have posted, then I will get back in the swing of things.. Thanks again, Donna
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
But how would you feel if you had responded to maybe 100 of their discussions and they had never cared enough to respond to even one of yours.. This is the reason for the post.. No responses at all from certain friends.. I do love to respond and have on a daily basis, but I would love the recognition for the posts which I start.. Thanks so much for the comments and have a great evening..
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I have about 43 three or so friend and I try to respond to as many of their discussions as I can especially discussions that I have a lot I can say,and I do like when my friends respond to my discussions even though I do not think they are bad friends if they do not,but I do wish that some of my discussions would get more responses from someone,even if it is people who are not on my friends list.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Responding to one of my discussions isn't a requirement to being one of my friends, but an occasional response is a requirement to staying on my friends list.. I agree with you, It would be nice if my friends responded to my discussions.. In life and on Mylot, a good friendship can't be sustained if it is completely one sided.. I can't in all honesty, sit back in a corner and take what ever tidbit that someone tosses me and still stay a friend.. A friendship is not one sided..
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Yep a in a mylot friendship it is not one sides,and it has to go both ways,and it is not fair to our friends if we sit back and expect them to respond too us,if we never respond too them,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting my friend.
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@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
I respond with my friends discussion if i came acrossed their discussion or visiting the friends discussion panel but only if i can relate with their topic and if i had something to share but if not i wouldn't push myself to respond even if i dont relate and also because i have only limited time now unlike before that i make sure i can reply to all of them when i still have a internet line at home but now i am using the internet cafe i just only respond to discussion that i see and i can't relate depends on my time limit. I dont expect also that my friends will always respond to me as well if they can't relate and i understand that but i really appreciated if they do remember me and respond once in a while which i am also trying to do the best i can do inspite of limited time.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
You are right, we do have different capabilities.. But it isn't right to be one sided while on here, because we are supposed to be here for each other not just for our own individual selves.. Thanks so much and I do appreciate the response.. Have a great evening..
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
1 Jul 08
Hi DonnaLawson, 
I have just over 100 friends on my list, and there are many that I 'never' hear from. They've invited me to be their 'friend,' and then once I accept them, 'nothing.' I'm never sure why this is. I've made some very good friends on here, and there are several I've gotten to know quite well. I do enjoy hearing from my friends in my discussions, but don't wait for them to respond to mine, but will do as many responses to their's as able. There are some friends topics that I just don't have anything of value to contribute to, regarding certain subjects. I appreciate having you as a friend, and hope I'm 'not' one of the ones you're referring to here. I was offline with computer problems for over 3 weeks, not long ago, and have been having some health issues as well. Right now, I'm at my sister's for a week's vacation, but have just stopped in here briefly, and this caught my eye. Have a wonderful day, and take care.
I have just over 100 friends on my list, and there are many that I 'never' hear from. They've invited me to be their 'friend,' and then once I accept them, 'nothing.' I'm never sure why this is. I've made some very good friends on here, and there are several I've gotten to know quite well. I do enjoy hearing from my friends in my discussions, but don't wait for them to respond to mine, but will do as many responses to their's as able. There are some friends topics that I just don't have anything of value to contribute to, regarding certain subjects. I appreciate having you as a friend, and hope I'm 'not' one of the ones you're referring to here. I was offline with computer problems for over 3 weeks, not long ago, and have been having some health issues as well. Right now, I'm at my sister's for a week's vacation, but have just stopped in here briefly, and this caught my eye. Have a wonderful day, and take care.2 people like this
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I do appreciate having you as a friend on mylot.. I understand being without the internet for awhile, I was without it myself for 3 weeks just about a month ago.. I got everything straightened out and when I came back online, I had 999 messages in my inbox.. It is overwhelming some days.. Such as tonight, I have been typing all evening and I still have 43 more messages waiting on me.. Everyone talks about the friends that they have on here but if you have a friend, you help them just as they help you.. I do have a couple of the people on my friends list that never respond, I didn't know if it was just me or if they never responded to anyone else, or maybe just responded to certain people.. I do believe any friendship is a 2-way street, you be there for me and I will be there for you..
I have alwasy enjoyed your discussions and hope to continue.. It wasn't you.. Maybe I just needed to vent.. I do certainly hope your health issues get resolved in a good way and do enjoy your visit at your sisters..
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Hey
I have less than 100 friends here on mylot . Most times I will through out the day she is my friends have started any new ones and I will comment on them . There are many who are active and many who are not . I like to answer atleast everyone sometime or another . There are a few that have very awesome post that I just have to go check them out .
Happy mylotting to you
CHEERS 
I have less than 100 friends here on mylot . Most times I will through out the day she is my friends have started any new ones and I will comment on them . There are many who are active and many who are not . I like to answer atleast everyone sometime or another . There are a few that have very awesome post that I just have to go check them out .
Happy mylotting to you
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Thanks so very much, I also love to go surfing on Mylot and find posts that I just can't pass up, but also have the friends that I love to respond to.. I just found a discussion abour Christmas in July while looking on Mylot, of course, I couldn't pass that one up.. I do find a lot of the discussions that are posted by people who are not in my friends list.. I do invite them to be my friends and then respond to their posts.. Have a great day and Happy Mylotting to you also.. Donna
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
30 Jun 08
You wil find some really nice people here on the lot and also some very alluring topics .
Christmas in July I will have to check that one out . I can't believe July will be here tomorrow . Time goes by way to fast .
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@msedge (4011)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I tried to respond to all my friends discussions but only if i have something to share with the topic and i responded also to some who are not on my friends list but the topic they have show interest to me.I have started some discussions and i only got few responses also but it doesn't matter to me .I just keep on posting and responding to others topic.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I also try to respond to all of the discussions that I get in my mail box, whether I have much to say or not.. I do give everyone the courtesy of a response of some sort.. I have had to skip over a few because I just didn't have time to finish all of them but never have I skipped over one just because I didn't have anything to say.. I seem to always have something to say, but I guess that is just me.. I have been accused of being extra talkative before, so I guess it is true.. Thanks for the response.. Have a wonderful evening and have fun Mylotting..
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Hi Donna,
I have 90 friends in my friends list. I do have notification turned on for some of them. When I became friends with some of them I didn't realize how much they wrote, so I disabled some of the notifications when I ended up with over 400 notifications in my inbox. lol I try my best to respond to discussions I think I can contribute to. When I log into mylot, I go to discussions my friends started and do several (as much as I can right now).
I think to be fair, if you are answering their discussions, they should answer yours too. After all that is what this site is for. lol I agree with you on the 100 friends issue. Yes if you have that many friends, and you only receive 10 replies, I don't think that is a fair trade at all.
I only get 2 replies sometimes and that bother's me, but I let it go, sometimes the replies aren't even from my friends. lol
I hope this helps you out some
Have a great day
~Icy~
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Hi Donna,
You're very welcome.
I don't take claim to my sig, so you can use it too 
~icy~
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
3 Jul 08
It does help to hear someone agree with me on this issue.. This is too one-sided and friendship doesn't work that way.. I appreciate your thought and the response.. I do enjoy hearing from you.. I love your signature, do you mind it I steal it, it looks like such a great ending to a post.. ~~Donna~~
Oh well, for some reason, yours looks better, even with the extra embellishments that I added.. Have a great day..
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I have some of my friends notifucations on so that I am able to receive their discussions in my inbox which I like since I don't have to run all over mylot trying to find a discussion to post to. I need to turn more on now that I have my other PC fixed since I now can do more post per day then before. I fee we should support our friends buy posting to their post and it should be vice versa. I know we may not always agree on some discussions but that is what makes it fun learning about the differences we all have the different views and values. Or even the same on some instances. Like a big happy family here. I love it! When I am troubled Mylot and its members always open their arms and give me comfort and afvice when needed and a laugh or two to ease my troubled mind. It is great.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I know the feelig of all the friends on my firends list I only have a few that takes the time to leave a repose on one of my discussions. But I guess we have to live with it, take it or leave it..as the saying goes.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I feel also that we should post to our friends discussions and they should post to ours in return, not all but some on them anyway.. That is one of the problems that I am having, the not getting any post in response to mine when I know that I have posted so many to others.. I do love being on Mylot and have found many friends on here.. It is a great place to chit chat with others.. Thanks so much for the response.. Have a great evening..
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Since I added you to my friends list, you have responded to everyone of my posts.. I do appreciate it and will give you the same consideration when you post.. Thanks so much, Donna
@saivenkaat802003 (4823)
• India
1 Jul 08
And it really nice to see that you respond to more than 1200 posts of your friends.. great work.. i don't have the notifications on position, because of two reasons.. Inbox will be floodedw with mails, and secondly.. you can't have the entire look of the topic, what others have responded to that particular post from responding from Inbox.. It gives in me the dissatisfaction in me.. I go straight to the posts read the responses by others and comments and react to it accordingly.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
That is a good sound way of working on Mylot as I do know how your inbox can be flooded, mine is right now.. Thanks so very much for the response and have a great evening..
@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 Jul 08
I have more than a 100 friends on mylot. Have turned the notifications on for all of them so my inbox is busy everyday. I make it a point to read each and every notification. Of course there are some subjects that I am not interested in or know nothing about that so I do not reply them. For the rest ofcourse I reply to all my friends and would expect the same from them. Of late I have no complaints of not getting responses coz half my friends to reply to my discussions.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I don't imagine that it would be easy for everyone to respond to every discussion, and I don't respond to everyone that I receive in my mailbox.. I do go through each and every email notification that I receive and I answer about 95% of them, there is an occasional one that I honestly can't think of any response, so I do delete them.. But I do reply to my friends discussions, I owe them that much or I shouldn't be calling them a friend..
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Thanks so much for the comment.. I am trying to catch up on all that I have missed, I haven't been able to get on to Mylot for about a month.. So, if you get this and had forgotten about posting, this is what the late response is about..
@gemini_rose (16264)
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30 Jun 08
I have 178 friends on my list, I know at the minute a lot of them are not active but I have all my notifications switched on and if they do a discussion and it comes through then I answer it if I can. Sometimes though I am not sure that they all come through, as sometimes I answer all the ones in my emails and then I go on the myLot site and go through discussions on there and find some that I have not had.
I am sorry that you are not getting many responses, I may have to go through the discussions on myLot as I have not had loads from you so I may not be getting them all. I go through and answer all my emails from myLot everyday and so whatever discussions are in there will get answered. x
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I am in the same boat, I find ones that I haven't received notifications for and when I check my list, they are there and the notificaitons are turned on, so I am not sure if there is a problem somewhere or not... I don't normally start discussions, so when I did start one, I thought there should have been more responses than there was.. I do love the give and take of Mylot but I don't like to always be giving and not getting, you know what I mean.. I am not trying to be mean in any way, I am just trying to get a grip on the emails that I do receive, sometimes they are overwhelming and I can't keep them caught up.. Thanks so much for the comments, I do appreciate them.. Donna
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I think I have less than a hundred friends, and I try to respond to their discussions when I can. Like you, whenever I start a discussion I don't get many responses from friends either, but I like the friends that I have, they are always nice and friendly to me. I haven't taken anyone off my list yet, and I won't, unless they make me mad or something...lol.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I don't really want to take anyone off of my friends list as I have had a lot of the same ones since being on Mylot.. But it is frustrating to start a discussion and have no one respond.. I am trying to houseclean so I can make the best of the Mylot experience.. I may need to add more interest also.. Think that I will do just that.. Thanks for the comments and advice, have a great day... Donna
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Jul 08
yes, i try to respond to all i receive. sometimes if it's something i have no expertise on i don't. i enjoy hearing from everyone. greetings from tennessee.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Well, are you a Tennessean also?? I am in Knoxville, TN and have been all of my life..
That is the way with most people on Mylot, if they are interested or know about he topic, then they respond..
Thanks so much for the response, I appreciate it..
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Well, it is great to see another Tennessean on here, Hope you enjoy and have a wonderful day..
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Jul 08
i'm glad to meet a fellow tennesseean on here. i live in martin, nw part of the state. we have utm here. hope you are having a great weekend. jo
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Aug 08
glad to hear from you. i have heard my kids mention going to that flea market when they would be up there. i don't know how often her folks go. there last name is boring.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I bet I would know them if I saw them, I set up there each Sunday so I do see and talk to a lot of people.. Have a great evening..
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Antiquelady, I just found this part of this discussion, I honestly wasn't ignoring you for the last 4 months.. I sell anything and everything, I have always been a fan of the good old timey flea markets and don't care much for the "New" flea markets, so I look for a huge variety of anything that even resembles something with resell value.. I do love to do this type of work and yes, it is work, very hard work, but it is also so much fun that if you get it in your blood, it is hard to quit doing it.. Have a great day, Donna
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Aug 08
what do you sell? i use to sit up at flea markets when i had my antique store. alot of work but alot of fun.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I don't respond to all the ones on my list all the time due to the fact it isn't always a topic i want to respond to. But I do have one person I added not to long ago all they do is start discussions and very rarely responds back if at all to those that hit his/her list. Tacky tacky.... It is nothing for them to start 10 or more discussions a day and their friends list hits his/hers like they get close to if not more than 50 responses to each discussion. I have been trying not to comment on that one for awhile even if it is a topic I like. If it is a really good topic I'll hit it if I have something to say I know could help someone. But people that just start discussions needs to realize a discussion means you say something people respond and then you respond back. I think what I am going to start doing when it comes to adding new friends is when they request to be my friend am going to go look and see if they respond or just start discussions and if they are the type that just wants to start discussions then I probably will not add them.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
1 Jul 08
Just a reminder I am not perfect and I don't hit all mine wither but then again I am not tossing out discussion after discussion. I have some friends I have had on for couple of years that I have kept even though they don't seem active. I was gone for almost a year if not a year from mylot and some didn't delete so ya know. But yes I have deleted from my friends list and am gunna.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I agree with you 100%.. That is exactly what I am talking about.. It should be both ways a give and take sutuation, not just a give, give situation.. Thanks so much, you have really hit the nail on the head.. I am doing exactly what you said that you do.. I am just waiting and also deleting some that haven't been active at all since joining Mylot.. Thanks so much for the great response... Donna
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I have many friends on my list but alot of them are inactive. I do have all notifications turned on and sometimes it can be a bit too much but I manage. I dont respond to everyone of them as if I dont have anything new to add I will skip by it. I dont focus on whos responding and whos not as I understand each person has there own reasons for what they do. I just have fun and enjoy myself here.
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
30 Jun 08
All you can do is have fun and not worry. Sometimes you just cant respond to everyone. And thanks I decided to share my cute boys pics.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I was more or less housecleaning when I noticed that I had quite a few friends who posted and never replied when I posted.. I do always have a full mailbox and do try and answer all of the discussions with more than one or two words, so it is time consuming.. I am just trying to maximize my experiences on Mylot and not sure if I am doing it the right way or not.. I have been typing all day and feel as if I will never get caught up on this.. It is overwhelming sometimes, but I do enjoy it and want to keep enjoying it.. I am trying to make it a better experience for myself on Mylot.. BTW, I do love your new pic..
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I believe that I have 8 pages of friends as of now, but I keep adding more as I go along.. I am probably getting in over my head as I do honestly try and comment on all of the discussions from my friends and there are so many that I can't keep up with them.. I feel as if the more that I do, the more I am helping someone else to have a better mylot experience.. I guess that I am finding our that I can't answer all of them and have a bit of home life also.. Thanks so much for being a Mylot friend and commenting on my discussion.. Have a great day and happy posting... Donna
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I just went through and deleted a bunch that haven't been around in a long time. I get email notifications for all of my friends- all 8 pages worth but most of them don't post anything. The ones that do post, I go to their discussions and post my thoughts unless I can't relate to what they are saying. Then I will leave that discussion alone. Other than that I try to respond to everyone but sometimes it takes a little while because there just aren't enough hours in the day.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
1 Jul 08
That is one of my problems also, I honestly do not have enough time to respond to all of the ones on my list but I always request more frineds anyway.. I am going to delete a few of the ones that are not active on here anymore, I may make it a bit more manageable if I do that..
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
1 Jul 08
I always respond to people who are kind enough to answer me - and I try to reply to anyone on my friends list who posts a new discussion. However, I find new discussions which haven't popped up in my email, so I'm assuming some of my friends don't have their notifications turned on. It does make a full email list when they're turned on - but that way I can answer everybody.
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I have been typing like a maniac and still have 53 emails in my inbox.. But hopefully, I will get all of them responded to before my husband throws the computer out the window.. I do like to respond in kind to anyone who responds to me.. Thanks so much and if you are not on my friends list, I will be requesting you as a friend, if you don't mind.
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@nemesis123 (129)
• India
10 Jan 09
now i understand why i got less response for my discussions ......thank you for telling me and from now on i will response to as many discussions of my friend as i can
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
10 Jan 09
You are getting it now.. Good going.. You chat back and forth between friends and make as many friends as you can and you will do good on here.. The part about leaving a best response, after you start a discussion, wait for a little while before leaving one, wait until you get as many responses as you can..
