Would you rather put your parents in a home or have them live with you?

h dear come what may i will never put my parents in an old age home..they will stay with me in my house and i will personally take care of them..i dont care what others say if needed i will hire a full time nurse for them but never will i let them b left alone in their older days when they need love and care..they spent their entire lives caring for me and my brother and providing us with all we need i cannot do this to them....i love them too much..

Well, my 71 year old mother lives with me. It works out well. I can ride her butt to be active and do the things she can't do. My 12 year old daughter gets the extra love...lol. I'd have a hard time putting her in a home. I wouldn't want to be in one so I can't really imagine she would. Although she does threaten to run away to one occasionally and I do threaten her with "shady pines ma, shady pines." It's all good...lol.

My mom passed on many years ago but my dad is 74 and his health is fair but you never know...I know he doesn't want to be in a nursing home ever, and if I were capable of doing the care he needed, of course he would live with me. My best friend took care of her father-in-law who had Parkinsons for almost 2 years, until he became so incapacitated that he needed specialized care. He only lasted a few months in the nursing home. I really admire her for taking care of him as long as she was able.

Hi There, I will never forget that my parents took care of me when I needed them to. They may not have done a perfect job...but they did it. Therefore there is no question for me that they would live with me. I would not want them to go to a home. cheers,

Hello freedomg, I would never put my parents in any kind of home. I would have them live with me because i would never forget who raised me up to this point. I don't know where I'd without the care and support of my parents. Putting parents in a home is the same thing as giving up on them because putting them in a home is waiting for them to die. That's my opinion. I have nothing against retirement homes.

my family all moved in with my gram and took care of her . yes, it was hard work , but she was always good to us and our gram . she never wanted to be in a home and she said it would just kill her . i think it depends on the person and what is best for everyone , because it can be very hard , and stressful , and at times you will think she could have been care , and I am not a nurse . Right now i dont think i could do that to my parents if something ever happened. they took care of me and in the end you take care of them and become the adult .

My Moms side of the family has a tradition...each daughter takes care of the mother. My Grandma took care of her mom, my Mom takes care of my Grandma and I'll take care of my Mom when she gets older and needs me to. As for me, I have no daughter so maybe my Nephew will take care of me if I need it. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

I could handle my mother living with me when she gets older and cannot take care of herself. My dad however I would stick in a home. If you knew my dad you would feel the same way.

One of my 1st jobs was working in a nursing home. The treatment that the elderly received scared me! I told everyone I could never to allow me to enter one of these places. I ended up quitting. I would take my mom in a heart beat. If she needed special care I'd visit daily and monitor her care. My hope is that one day the elderly in this country will be honored and revered the way they should be, instead of cast aside. We need to remember that one day we will all be in the elderly shoes.

I feel they would be happier in a home with specialized care. Unless I don’t work and can afford to care for them daily. Otherwise they can benefit from staying in a home where they can also make friends with other elderly mebers. Since I think I will be working full, therefore, I won’t even have time to social with them as much. My parents would feel lonely at home without anyone to talk to as much.

I hope that when my mother can no longer live by herself that we can add onto our home and have her move in with us. The way I look at it, she raised me and did everything in her power to make sure I had everything I needed. I want to return the favor. I know she would not be happy in a home, she would want to be with her family.

That would be a very tough situation. From first hand experience, my husband's father had a few strokes over 4 years ago and was left completely paralyzed on one side with slurred speech, etc. We live out here in CA whereas the rest of the family lives in Louisianna, Texas, and those areas. My oldest sister in law lives in Louisianna also, so when this happened and after he had been in the hospital for some time, we made the decision to put him in the best nursing home to recover because that is where we thought he would get the best care. He is recooperating just great and talks great and has received some therapy for that side. We feel that was right for that circumstance - there are more details that I'm not gonna share with everyone. I guess it just depends on their mentality and how much actual care you are able to give them.

I don't think that I could ever put my parents in a home. I love them too much and they were always there when I needed them. Besides there are always stories about nursing home abuse, and I wouldn't want my parents to be put through that. And I wouldn't want my kids to put me in a nursing home.

My parents took care of me when I was young, so I would choose to return the favor.

I will always be with my parents till the end of their life.I will look after them and would not dare to put them in an old folks home.They are part of who i am now.

I'll never put my parents in someone else's care. I know that this is the norm in most Western countries, but in Asia, particularly here in the Philippines, we always care for our older family members. I think my parents would live with my older brother when they're older but I wouldn't mind taking them in as well. It's the least I can do to repay them for giving me a house, education, and clothes when I was younger.

I don't think I could put my mom in a home. It's my mom! The one who gave me life. The one who loves me the way that I love my children. I couldn't live with myself if I made the decision to put her in a home.

when my parents already old, i want them to live with me so that i can take care of them. they take care of me since birth and it's time also to take care of them. i want them to feel how i really love them. i'll do everything just for them. putting parents in an elders home make them only sick and even feel that we don't care about them. i want also to teach my future kids to love and respect my parents as they also love and respect us. theres no such other love and care than the one given to us by our parents...

I will let them live with me. Not only because i love them so much but also i need their accompany. I don't have enough time to cook delicious food, so they can and are willing to do it for me. I need their support. When i am sad or I fail to do something, they will encourage me and cheer me up. I can't live without them and they can't, either.

Before you decide to put your parents in a home... please remember, when we are child they took care of us. When we are sick, they took care of us. When we are sad they are the ones who cheer us up. I think no matter how bad our parents appear to be, deep inside they still loves us. Regards,