Steamy emails

I'm not sure that he's been playing you for a fool. Have you been responding in a similar way? It's easy to get carried away in e mails. You aren't alone. However, as others have said, employers can be very funny about such activity and you may want to consider stopping the "raunchiness" and maybe cooling the whole thing off anyway. Put it down to experience and get on with your life.

Oh, dear - this colleague of yours hasn't been a very nice man. It was very unfair of him not to have told you about his family circumstances before flirting with you in emails - and the worry is that if you have been using the computers at work, the boss might see the emails and you might both be embarrassed. I think you should be firm with this man and tell him you are no longer interested in emailing him because he has a wife and children. It might be uncomfortable if you are working in the same place, but you sound far more mature and sensible than he is, so you will have to be firm. Good luck!

Wow, it always sucks when this sorta thing happends.. Did you know he was married? and had kids?. if you did that was veary wrong on your part. and on his part. he was totaly out of line. he shouldnt have been tlaking to you like that at all. lusting over another woman is stil cheating. if you didnt know he was marired then it was a normal thing. when people express certin feelings for you.and it is thoes feeling behind close doors you long for. its so much easier to believe what they say because you really want it to be true. i WAS the same way...but now i have became cold hearted in that sence. tell me you want to do this and be that to me.. we for now i dont beleive you.prove it to me and then mabey ill take it into concideration. im not like to to hirt others feelings, im just like that to keep from getting mine hurt. and believe me. its worked:")

Be advised that using your work computer is like having a spy 24/7 behind your back. The admin gets to read your letter. Its not only the guy who knows whats happening but the admin as well. You have been very foolish. You failed to consider whether or not the guy was really serious. You should have confronted him early on before you fell so deep into his trap. But all has been said and done. What you need to do is forget all about him and move on. Think that you deserve better than him.

I think you were foolish for trying to get with a married man. By the sounds of things he was trying to get some extra action on the side or he may even have just been pulling your leg as a joke. Either way you should just let it go and get on with your life. Maybe find yourself someone who does not have a wife and two kids.

First off, I would have been scared to be carrying on a fling over email, especially in the office. This is a reason to get fired. Most offices monitor emails and don't allow private emails within the office. Sounds like this guy was just having what he thought might be an 'innocent fling' and nobody would ever be the wiser. And now he's scared that his wife and kids might find out. Did you not know this guy was married at the onset? I do think he's been using you for his own fantasies. And now that he has you interested, he's wanting to bow out. First, I'd print out these messages for my own records in case something comes up.Then, I'd ignore anymore emails I got from this guy and steer clear of him. He is certainly not good news.

You are unwise to believe what this person is saying. You also should be careful if these emails are being sent and received via your work computers. Big brother is watching, and they may come back to bite you. To this person, it was probably a game, and when he realized that you were getting serious, he decided to back down. You were not stupid, but your actions were not thought through.

He is looking for a quick fling but nothing serious. Tell him if he was so concerned in thinking about his wife and children he shouldn't be so concerned with wantingto do anything with you. He wants his cake and to eat it too and is looking to make you a fling on the side while he goes home to his wife and children and pretends you don't even exist. I am not being harsh but it is just a reality that many women unfortunatley experience withh married men, and unfortunatley it may be tempting but it never turns out good.

oooh nooo! getting involved with a married PIGGY! Very sucky! You got carried away for sure! Did you not know he was married? Just forget all about it and avoid him.

Stick to single men, and don't date colleagues. It is just a bad idea, and, at many companies, grounds for firing. You are lucky to still have a job. Consider this a lesson and move forward-- and onward to a better class of man.