Too much information LOL

I am absolutely up the wall LOL I try to listen and truth be said she is now slowly recognizing my working time - I tell her that I'm working on the computer small fib - and letting me be, but she would be much happier if she was talking to me/ or someone all the time. What dreams she had last night, how she cooked lunch while I was out, what she used and how it came out, what happened to her tooth brush, etc. etc. etc..... grrr As I said I love her and I was the one who invited her over to stay for that long, because I was a bit worried with her. I am really glad she is here and that I can take care of her, but it's going to be a very long six months LOL Mind you, I still wouldn't mind that she lived here with us, I"m always worried about her with her being so far away. I feel powerless when she's ill knwoing that she is there all by herself at her age, but in that case we would need some ground rules. Truth be said if this was back home it wouldn't be so bad, because she would be able to go meet her friends, and to her gym and swimming classes, or just go out by herself, but in here she can't do any of that so it's a bit more complicated.

Hatley I am sure you are right. ALthough she was always like that even when younger and with many other interests so it's kind of half/half. Part lonely and part her personality as well. She is here visiting but back home she does have a more active life .

You are describing a very lonely woman without much going on in her life. why not see if she could get interested in some sortof social club, check on the possiblities in her town and call her and suggest she get out and make some friends as you cannot possibly fill all the void in her life. this is'mnaking you both feel very uncomfortable. suggest that to her as she is lonely. I do know the feeling.

LOL you would be the perfect person to be with my mom hehehehe she doesn't like to be alone either, but I can live with that. DO you also talk non-stop? That's the part I"m having trouble with:)

Yes , I think my mom feels the same. I can understand it, it's just a bit harder for me to be a part of it for that long because I am a person that really loves the sound of silence at least for some time each day :)

I do talk alot. I don't like quiet so I try to fill the void.

Yes, you got it. It's the details that get me. A conversation that could last an hour, with her last at least 3 because of all the unneeded information she adds. LIke you, I love her dearly, but I don't want to know all the little details, just give me the main points LOL

Yes.. time and distance.... Since I have so many other wonderful memories from my mom I kind of blocked that small detail. But it's coming to me LOL That said, I would invite her over again and again. It's a small price to be with her and feel less worried about her :) The thing is.. she will never run out of stories LOL But that's ok. I will talk to her and explain that I do need some specific time just for myslef. But that I'm there for her the rest of the time. I'll just have an overload of information, but I can live with that LOL

I understand what you say, and agree with it. But you might not have understood the situation, she talks all our waking hours. She doesn't stop. Not while we're cooking, not while we're eating, not while she's watching her favorite tv shows, not even when I go to the washroom, she's right there on the other side of the door telling me about this and that. Everyone rests a bit each day. I did this with hubby's grandma, I do it with his aunt, I do it even with the lady that lives two doors down - she's old and alone and I'm the only person that takes the time to stop by and talk to her. But I am having trouble with the non stop part of the talking. I'm a chatter box myself at times. But not non-stop :)

My mom was always a bit like that but I guess I forgot about it being far away for so long. Although I am not much of a "sit and talk for hours " person I would love to sit down with my mom and listen to all the news, but so many details.... and even about people I don't remember anymore... grrr I need my space LOL

Sometimes that can be a little too much, and I can understand that. Not remembering people because it's been so long and then hearing about them, I know that I would confuse me. I'd be thinking "wait, was that the one with the red hair?" lol. Well Have a Great day.

Yes ! Exactly. I know my mom is quite old and she needs some extra attention, but I still need my time.

hehehehe maybe I should do that. I need a break too:) However I am enjoying having her here, in the sense that I feel better knowing she is here with me and if something happens to her I am here. But at the same time it hasn't been easy. Little things that seem not to even been important are driving me buts and I"m finding that she became a bit selfish with age grrr :)

You're right. In my case, because I do have this strong need for my private time, it was easy to understand my kids. I don't interfere on their time while at the same time they know I am available if they need to talk or just be with me. But things are different too, of course. After all, I have my computer, my books to read, my drawings.. all those things. My mom doesn't.Even reading which was something she loved is very difficult because her eyesight is so bad. So that limits her options to entertain herself, of course.

thanks so much for best response much appreciated.