Will You Still Love Your Partner....

This is how i see things. Each person has its own bubble. This bubble is personnal to yours. I've been with my bf for 5 years and there are still things i keep for myself and don't want to share it with anyone else...not even to my parents or bestfriends. It could be a memory or something you've done but only the person itself knows about it. I am sure there are personnal stuff wether it is serious or not that you keep it for yourself. I believe that each person on this planet has a personnal bubble. So it is normal for your husband to have things that he wants to keep for himself. However, if the secrets might hurt the relationship later on, it is better to tell it off. As for myself, I won't be hurt if he tells me his dark secret. I may be shock for a moment, but it will fade away soon or later because i truly love him. The past is the past. What i want is the best for the future. I left my bitter past behind and move on forward. But if it's something that goes against the law, something which is immoral or it is destroying him mentally of physically, I will probably look for help and do my best to help him. In the western culture, cousinguinous relationship may sound taboo. Personnaly, I don't see anything wrong. I live in Canada and my mom's friend married her own cousin...and it was an arranged marriage. They have 3 children together and they live peacefully. My best friend had a crush with her cousin but then it was taboo to her parents so she had to move on. But it looks like you did your best and you must have a serious reason to divorce. As long as my boyfriend doesn't cheat with me at this moment, everything will be fine with me. The only thing that will shock me is to know that he has a child with another lady and that he didn't tell me but, it's the past and I'll help him raise the child if needed. Humans do mistake..even God.

At first i would be unhappy abour it. I may even get angry at him for keeping secrets from me. But then i'll realize that i have secrets of my own too. I believe that we all have secrets. some secrets may be better kept untold. Others forever hidden. But in your case, his past is what made him who he is and so it is just right to divulge it. Too much secrets may be the worst thing ever. (^^,)

I feel every person has his or her secrets in past life, but I feel when you are together and at that time you are loyal to one another and there are no secrets between you two, then past is past , I feel one should life in the present.

I think this will be still hard for me. it may be a some case in childhood. may be there were some pioints which can be considered. even if i love him, it will give me some limit.

YOu are right in your observations about your partner (ex-husband). Relationship thrives on mutual trust and belief. If that trust gets broken, the relationship becomes shaky. I can understand that your partner not sharing secrets with you, was hurting you and you could not come to terms with it. It was not fair on your partner's part to do so. I would also like my partner to share her secrets with me and vice versa.

i will be mad but also try to understand what happen..because when you love someone you are ready to forget all the bad things and stay with that person forever and let noone harm him/her. But it depends on the situation.

In Hinduism we believe that our relationship is for at least seven births. I love my wife and will love her for at least seven births.

Ill do the same what youd did. Trust is something in love. He should have told you everything, not installment. Be brave, many good men will come along.

I don't think that I could love someone with as dark a secret as that, especially if they had not told me until we are married, I would be too scared that they had more secrets they had not told me. I understand that you don't go round telling everyone you know that sort of thing, but if you are in a serious relationship with someone then they should know, definitely before you walk them up the isle. I would have left him as soon as I found out for the reasons that I stated above that I could never trust him to be completely honest with me. I am not sure if "mad" is the word, I would not be happy about it, but I am not sure if mad would be the right word to use to describe the emotion, more disappointed and betrayed.

Past is something we can never change in our lives. It could've been controlled when you were still there but most likely you won't be able to take much manipulation over it most especially if it somehow involves your emotions, urges or even the heart. These are things we sometime regret in our life and wished that never happened most especially if we finally found the one we would like to spend our life with. I would say that if I were in your place, I may get hurt too. I wouldn't really think of him violating my trust. It is possible that he just wanted to present himself as clean as he could for me to make me realize he's the right for me. No matter how dark it was, I would think that his past is also one of the things that brought to where he is right now- to me. And whatever his past is, it only molded him into the best person he is right now- the person I truly love. Just my two cents. Cheers!

Dear, past is past. Remember well: FREEDOM IS NOT WORTH IF IT DOES NOT INCLUDE THE FREEDOM TO MAKE MISTAKE ! So my friend, try to understand him. It was his past and when one is young such craziness do enter the mind and causes us to do many things unknowingly. You just have to give him a second chance. Maybe he hide this only to let his future be wonderful with you...try to talk to him..give him another chance..building a relationship may take years but breaking it takes just a few seconds. So be very conscious on your each decision dear...best of luck..

It would depend on the secret and when it occured. If it wasn't too serious and was before I knew him then it wouldn't matter. I myself have a secret my partner doesn't know. Its not overly serious, but is something I wish I could tell him about. But, I'm afraid it could damage our relationship, so I've kept quiet.

yes.

Personally...I wouldn't want to know. I don't think people need to dig up the past if things are different in the present.

i thot you agreed to marital vow of for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer and you said i do. so why leave now.

it's past...we must not live for the past but for the present.and not even for the future because we just don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow.but then it's your own prerogative,and i respect that.it's different from mine where in i found out just recently,that my husband had a relationship with another woman for 4 yrs now.and no law of divorce here in my country.i just don't know what's the right thing to do.i'm in confused and in pain till now.

I believe that my relationship with mu husband is for at least seven births, so I will love him for at least that period.

i guess its understandable as to why he kept his secrets from you.. he didnt trust you. and apparently for good reasons.. considering you spewed them out for public record when it suited yer needs. disgusting really.. if someone entrusted me with knowing painful, deep dark details of their past.. *I* wouldnt take advantage of that trust and use it against them at a later date thats for damned sure. that sort of confidence should be considered sacred.. sad you dont understand that concept.

Trust is a fragile thing indeed. I would feel violated and hurt if my husband did it. You see there are people who are really not honest. You are just unfortunate that it happened to you. Anyways..it's all over right? And i'm sure you are over him.

I think you have done the right thing but couldn't you have settled it out side court?