live for ourselves

i do do things for others, but now only up to a point, you are right we can wear our selves out doing for others, some will constantly call you needin rides, borrow money, borrow groceries, it is easier for them to get it from you, than get up and go to the store and get it, plus saves them money. If I know you are having problems and say your car is broke and you need a ride to the store, I will take you , or to the doctor office, if you are going to the same place as I, then I give you my appointment date and ask that you schedule your appointment on the same day, if possible. I do not care to help anyone but I have seen at times where too many try to take advantage of you, to see how far they can push you before you say enough is enough. But I do try to help when it is something that is accetable, and not unreasonable. We all need to help each other get through what comes daily, but AI refuse to be used anymore as over the years I have given so much and you know what when you call them for help, they are too busy, too sick, or gas cost too much, so you need to watch who you help and are they capable of going or doing themselves and if they are, then let them. Cause after awhile it get old hat to constantly be giving our rides, sugar, etc. Helping is good, but only to a point that you are not being used.

I guess it just depends on the person. I'm a person who loves to help others and don't mind. I do get burnt out and have to take a break.

In some respect, we should be able to live for ourselves and not for others. We all have our own lives to live. However, no man is an island, meaning our actions have an effect - directly or indirectly - with other people whom we interact with. You have raised a nice topic.

It's interesting that what we do may not be popular with others. Others may not understand why we do what we do. It is normal. We please those we feel we must please. Life seems to be a series of choices. Our nature will determine the choices we make. "We cannot make a crab walk straight" - anonymous We will always be what we are, but we can learn to change our mindset. When we learn fast, we may be able to understand why others are the way they are. We may learn to meet them half-way or we may totally disagree with them. Learning to feel in a way that is both advantageous to all concerned in a given situation is probably the single most important knowledge one can have.