How do you know you are really for a Baby

@patzel88 (3310)
Philippines
July 1, 2008 8:23am CST
A question to raised ask by my youger sister who recently married and busy with each respective career. How can really an early couple acknowledge that they are ready for a baby?
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8 responses
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
nothing really prepares you for parenting except when both parents are willing to be part of nurturing the children.
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i will. work and career can be replaced anytime, but not the opportunity to nurture a child.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
in which who will take the risk of their career to nurture their child.
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
1 Jul 08
I think one will never really know when one is ready. When one has married that should in itself mean that you are so secure in your partner that you can have a baby with him/her. But is it the right time? There will always be insecurities I think. If you want a child - I'd say go for it.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
yes insecurities is what my sister feel. that might be lose her career if she got a baby.
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
2 Jul 08
That may well happen also. I think one should be willing to make sacrifices for ones child, but not sacrifice everything. It is possible to have a great career whilst having small kids. It just takes a bit more planning. here we have had members of parliament while having toddlers. It works great it seems
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
most married couples plan it before having a baby so i think they are ready enough if they go with the plan.some couples wanted to have a baby at once so i think they are also ready for that. since they had planned the wedding i am sure that they can be readily enough before planning for a baby. matured people do that. based on my experience they need to grow as a pair first then after a year or so it is time to have a additional in their family.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
yes i guess to give time first to each other before planning a baby. for they may know their likes and dislikes.
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I think that every couple is never fully prepared to have a baby. There's always excuses - "we're not ready financially" or "we're not ready to stop being selfish"... I've heard a lot of them. I think that if a couple really loves each other and are excited about having children or want to experience that joy, then they are as ready as ever. You can be as prepared as you want to be and it still won't fully prepare you for the adjustment a child brings into your life! But it's so worth it! Children bring so much joy - happiness you just couldn't experience without having a child! Being a mommy who got married at 19 and is now 25 with a 7 month old, 3 1/2 year old, and almost 5 year old - enjoy your spouse as much as you possibly can before having children - because once children come into the picture life revolves around them and you miss out on a lot of "alone" time with your spouse - unless you have a lot of support of friends and family who you trust to watch your children. I love my children and every minute spent with them, but my husband and I also miss one on one time and experiences we never got to share prior to having children. Don't get me wrong - we do not regret our children ever...just wish we would have done more together while we were young!
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
yes you are right i felt that in my life too. it really miss the one on one life. when we have a children we never give mportance for our needs instead we are focusing the needs of our children.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
When I got pregnant I'm not ready yet to be a mother. I have many worries...but as time goes by I learned to accept it...and I'm glad because I love my baby so much.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
you are right theirs nothing to compare when you have a baby, its a gift that all of the family welcome the new born baby.
• United States
2 Jul 08
I don't think anyone is really prepared to have a baby. They may feel ready and want a baby, but it doesn't mean they are ready. Speaking from experience, the pregnancy helps you get ready.....ready or not. I think it really depends on the maturity of the to-be parents.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
yah it deals the adjustment and maturity of the couple. it doesnt mean that if you have enough money you are ready to have a baby, its the matter of obligation and how responssible parents are you.
• United States
1 Jul 08
Usually, when the couple is married, done with their educations and have a decent financial stabillity to care for the family as a whole, then it's time to have a baby if the couple chooses. But also, it's importnat to discuss together how you'll choose to raise the baby, if you can before the little one comes? The best way to know is that when things are stable and you really want to "parent," then you are ready!!
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i guess you are right its a matter of parenting and the responsibility.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
1 Jul 08
This is personal choice that they have to make together after considering all of the ramifications and changes that will take place on such a journey of discovery.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
it is not easy for them to lose their career and my sister is not quiting for her job but in the other hand she loves to have a baby.