How can you define "true friends" and "real friends"?
By bombshell
@bombshell (11256)
Germany
July 1, 2008 2:07pm CST
it does not come out of my mind about this question of mind.does anybody can define about this?thank you.
7 responses
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
A true friend/real friend is a friend who know's you inside and out, the one who will rescue you in times of hardships and despair, and the one that will let you know what you're mistakes are... she/he will not tolerate you if you did something wrong... and the one that will surely praise you if you are right.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
1 Jul 08
IMO real friends are true friends. A real friend has already proved to me that they are true friends. Online friends to me cannot be real friends as they have never had to prove that they are true to me.
@cuterose (1698)
• India
2 Jul 08
Real friends and true friends are the same. We cannot differentiate. But we can differentiate real friends with fairweather friends. 'A friend in need, is a friend indeed' is a popular saying, implying that people become friends when they need something from you. Whilst this can indeed be true, the reverse is also significant. When you are in need, then you find out who are your real friends.
An acquaintance found out recently that she has a chronic medical condition. Nothing visible and nothing to stop her living a normal life, but something that will occasionally flare up and cause discomfort. She also found out something of the difference between real and fairweather friends.
She informed them simply because she is an open and honest person. There was no seeking of particular help. Perhaps a little sympathy, but no special treatment or additional attention.
When she told some friends, they responded with concern. They listened without asking anything in return. They asked how they could help. These were real friends.
Others, who she also believed to be friends of the same sort, responded first with selfish concerns. They asked if it was infectious in any way or that might somehow catch it. Then they melted away, despite reassurance of their safety.
Fairweather friends are those who are most likely to appear when they are in need or, at best, when you are not in need. Real friends don't care about your need. They will help where they can and know that it's ok if they can only offer a little sympathy.
This must be something like what it is to have cancer, HIV or AIDS. Those who were friends when all was well suddenly show their true colors, whilst some from the core and some from the periphery fly the true flag of friendship, offering and giving what help they can.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
3 Jul 08
thank you very much for your effort to reply my topic and have a nice day.
@anonymous101 (487)
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1 Jul 08
This is gonna be a short answer but true/real friends are friends you can trust to give you an honest straightforward answer no matter how much it will hurt your feelings because in the long run they know it will be in your best interests also there the friends that you can bring yourself to tell them something that might hurt them because you know it's best for them. I think this honestly the most important thing with friendship, honesty.