Men Make Better Friends
By kerriannc
@kerriannc (4279)
Jamaica
July 1, 2008 4:26pm CST
Friendship between Women:
A woman didn't come home one night The next morning she told her
husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man
called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew anything about it.
Friendship between Men:
A man didn't come home one night. The next morning he told his
wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her
husband's 10 best friends, eight of which confirmed that he had
slept over, and two said that he was still there.
This is the difference between males and females. While the male will cover for their friends even when the lie is staring them in the face, the female will always let down their friends. I always wonder why. So is it true that men makes better friends?
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19 responses
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
good day...Men make better friends than women for many reasons. One Men tend to be protective of their friend even when they're on the wrong side. They do not want to see their friends suffer and let them correct it when it comes it. They don't want to see their friend miserable. As for woman (correct me if I'm wrong) they tend to expose the mistakes, they can't stand mistakes such as cheating and tell it to the unknowing wife rather than warn the man and let him correct it. I don't know why, maybe because they are woman and they also feel cheated when their woman friends are being cheated at. They tend to uphold say their honesty and credibility rather than stick their necks out for their male friends who committed mistake. Maybe I'm wrong but it did happened to me and I lost the woman I love because of that.
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
good day... Yes you've exactly said what's on my mind. I've learned from it and the hard way too. I've said this because when I'm in a situation where I've learned that my male friend is cheating with my female friend I won't spill the beans just yet, I'll talk to my male friend and tell him to go straight, correct the mistake, give him a chance to redeem himself and when he won't then that's a different story and I won't be apart of his deceit any more for any longer because I also care for my female friend and she deserves to know the truth specially when there's no hope of reconciliation. By the way thanks for the best response.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello there Blackmantra, talking from experience. Yes it is true there are females who love to run to their friends and spill the beans instead of coming to you the individual and let you know that you are hurting her friend. Sometimes person can be vindictive when they are jealous after their friend and the least imperfection she see she spill. I am sorry that you have been through this experience but I guess you also learn from it too. I believe in talking about some thing first and if this person tends to ignore then I will expose but then I am a family person and always look at what will happen to the family if things become disastrous. Sometimes friends tends to do things without thinking and then after they see what happen becomes sorry when it is too late.
All the best.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello there Balozi, I am so enjoying your comments. You cannot say it much better.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
2 Jul 08
Dear friend,
As you quoted it is true that men make better friends and I do also hope that all women are not same may be majority are like that. Anyhow in my own personal experience I make friends easily with men with women it takes time may be remain even not as friends. Those men friends are much understanding than the female friends I have, May be I go much friendly with men than women. The best female friend of me is my mother.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello there Shamrack, mothers are the best friend isn't it. My mother was my best friend too. Yesterday makes four years since she past away and I am still missing her. They are the best.
@angel3 (49)
•
2 Jul 08
well all I can say is I dont have ten best friends only about 3 female friends and I have 3 male best friends.
AS for loyalty and trust and honesty all come into play in this little tale.
What is the friends name who you stayed with?
I know this is a generalisation, but I have stayed out one night when in a relationship but I have always had a friends name to give that person and.
Men Love to gossip more than you know take it from a woman that knows I worked tending bar and they love to chatter as long as it doesnt involve them they talk more than Women.
I have to be honest I would be lost without my best friends and I know that if I was in a relationship now the guy would be loved by my friends and he would know who to call if I was out over night!
Mind you if I had a hot guy I would be home early in the bed next to him!! lololol
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Would it be lying for a friend or watching out for a friend. That is what friendship is all about looking out for each other.
@nupats (3564)
• India
4 Jul 08
hi dear i dont think so women are very honest and that is why her friends did not lie and even if her husband asks her then maybe she will tell him the truth instead...but the husband has no way to prove his innocence bcoz he is actually stuck bcoz of his friends lies..
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
This is so true nupats. But you can even see that he is at home and one of his friends is saying that he is still there with him.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
2 Jul 08
Nice laugh. While I feel that this is the general case that men do make better friends SOME women are also there. But I feel women are less outgoing in their lending a helping hand when there is a sudden demand than men on acoount of their responsibilities. In our country at least, by and large the woman has a greater share of household responsibility regarding children and domestic chores.She cannot be as thoroughly helpful as a man in going out at the beck and call of a friend.
In the joke that you shared however, I attribute another reason to this. There may be a fear of being caught on the woman's side and because woman is naturally very smart in defending herself she does not want to take the risk by telling a lie. There may be one or two women who would NOT lie on any account.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
You know Kalav, when I first reading it first I was thinking that men always watch their buddies back even if they are caught telling alie but reading what you wrote makes me start to think even more deeper what this piece is really saying. Thanks for you insight.
@knight_rlc26 (362)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
for me yes, because friendship in men is not typically a emotional or affectionate one than women. men always knows what they will do in terms of this kind of situation inorder to hide a possible trouble and if there is a way to lie in anything else its better to lie... hehehe' unlike in women that there are just honest... hehehe' they are more on emotions...
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Yes men really know how to hide their feelings. It is a trait that we the females need to practice so that we are able to match them equally in this department.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
2 Jul 08
It is not always true. i have seen myself how so called great friendship of men can be just purposeful. they will just act so sweet to take advantage. when they are done, they will through you.when they need money, they will call you sweet names. Later they just forget to call you.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello subha aren't these features in both sexes. Remember we are human and have some traits that we don't enjoy in each other. We learn from our mistakes so when these friends comes along we should just let them know how we feel.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Wow this one is hard to answer, im sitting here thinking of whats the best answer but i do not know.lol
i mean i know the guys around here have the saying bro's before ho~s.ho~s meanin girls. it just rhymes i guess .lol
hha im still tryn to asnwer and i have nothing.
OKay i have lied one time to friend husband for her i knew she was cheating he asked me. i said no because i was her friend not really his. since then i have grown up and i relize how much i despise cheating.
Now i tell my firends if your ganna do it. do it when im not around dont tell me about it. i dont wanna be in that situation... i think thats the diffrence. for guys to get girls is cool.
us girls are not like that.
haha if that was even understandable.
i couldnt come up with a great answer sorry:(
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Just reading your opinion makes my day. This is what friends ought to be watching each other back.
@rededdlog (118)
• Kenya
2 Jul 08
True. Oh very true. This is the most interesting comment I have read in a while.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello there Rededdlog how are you doing. I can just see you laughing when you are reading above isn't it.
@prettyrose529 (93)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
it just goes to show that women are more honest than men.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Is it about honesty are that men are always there for their friends. I should think that this is what friendship is about.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
Well, as to my observations, both gender easily associates with other people and make friends with them depending on the qualities they have. There are those people who could have friends who are willing to sacrifice for them.. There are also those who willing to be a friend just for fun times but they are not there to back you up when needed. However, there will still be those who are concern beyond what we expect like they don't cover up our wrong doings because they want the best for us.. To sum this up, I would it depends on the qualities of friends that men and women have.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Hello raynejasper welcome to MYLOT. Your opinion is so truthful. Friendship does depends on the qualities that each person have. Thanks for your insight.
@funnyguy123 (13)
• India
2 Jul 08
No I don't agree at all. It must be just a case of a man and a woman whose friends are referred. But there might be another man and woman in whose case the result may be different. It is just that the man's friends and woman's friends in this case are of different nature.
OK coming to the point, there are many cases where man's friends cheat on them. But there are least heard cases where women cheat on their friends. It is just the case of person not the case of gender. There are good friends in women and also in men.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
I am not disputing that my friend. I am just saying that men tends to watch their friends back while the female is quick to spill the bean. That is the difference between men and female.
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I agree, why? Men are just simple creatures. They don’t gossip, they don’t care about gossip. When there is trouble with friends, they want to help and don’t ask why?
They don’t have the gut to tell the truth to destroy another family. They want the person to find out on their own instead of be the one to spill the secrets.
I wish I had more men / guy friends so they can help me understand my husband better.
But again, not all men are equally sensitive. My husband on the other hand, would not even bother calling my friends; instead he will not trust me and end of story. I have not done anything to promote his distrust; he just thinks that all women cheat because his ex girlfriend cheated on him.
I am probably on my way to the divorce court, because I had enough of his jealousy
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
2 Jul 08
Hello there Ch88ss, well you are not going to the divorce court. Just hang in there and make him see and feel the love, respect and admiration you have for him. Yes it always takes the wrong one to mess up another trust. He will soon comes around when he is ready.
Take care.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
2 Jul 08
I guess you can always depend on your male friends in case there is problem of this kind, I have a friend that always finds himself at the side of another woman. And his wife never caught her, never thought she was cheated. His male friends, never gave chances to her wife, to know that he was cheating. Until one day, a girl officemate of husband, which is a friend of the wife, caught him with the other woman, unknown to him. So the girl had to tell the wife about her husband, and made some surveillance and investigations. And that ended his womanizing...
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
2 Jul 08
Hello there Neildc what a way to end his cheating. Those were friends through thick and thin isn't it. Can you just imagine how she bragged at those little impromptu parties while they are all their laughing at her. It is a shame what men put us women through.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
2 Jul 08
hi dear
yes it is true authenticated by many and an established fact.
at the same time i am not here to create any controversy of any kind among my friends but like the physical difference between the male and the female there exits a
psychological difference.
females appear to be thinking about dress hair styles etc i mean things which are within the shorter range.
and males seem to have a broader horizon.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
There is no need for controversy this piece is not for that. I just recieve it and thought I could share it with you my friends. Thanks for stopping by.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 08
I can only think of 2 reasons why.
No. 1 - men think of the worst scenario. Maybe that friend has been spending the night with another girl - so better save his as*. You never know when you need such support, when your wife ask around next time.
No. 2 - men are better at scripting stories. Women are poor liars.
This is just my opinion - so don't blast me!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
No need for blasting my friend. Your opinion is welcome too. Thanks for responding.
@startstop123 (435)
• India
2 Jul 08
It is a fact that Men make more friends.
In general women maintain some barriers to talk with people. Men have no barriers and feel free to do anything. This is the easy way to communicate with people and make more friends than Women. Friendship between two men is like not involving any big emotions like sad and crying etc. They just make the things easier and happy. So their Friendship lives longer than the friendship between women. Hence I conclude that Men have more friends than Women have.