It's really good to hear your voice...
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
July 1, 2008 7:50pm CST
If you know the song "Lips of an Angel" you'll probably understand just what I mean. My ex-hubby just called. He said he just missed me and wanted to hear my voice. He asked if I'd be able to come visit sometime this week, just to hang out and talk like we used to.
I do miss that and it was good to hear his voice too. Stepson's girlfriend said I had that silly-happy look on my face while I was talking to him. Those 5 minutes really made me feel so happy.
Maybe I'm crazy, maybe I'm just lonely, but I do miss my ex and sometimes wish we'd never gotten divorced. But in a way I'm glad we did...it made us grow up and maybe if we have a future together, we'll appreciate and cherish each other more.
I don't know what kind of responses I'm looking for, I just needed to say what was on my mind right now...
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12 responses
@prettyrose529 (93)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
aww... that was so sweet of your ex-husband. and if you still like/love each other, then go for it! take him back! and i can bet you that what you said is right, you'll be able to appreciate and cherish each other more because you've realized how bad it feels to be away from each other.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Oh, prettyrose, sometimes I wish it could be that simple!
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
2 Jul 08
It is good to verbalize what you are feeling so that you can make an informed decision about where to go from here. You need to visit him and then make a list of the pros and cons about both your relationships. Are you really ready to leave where you are now to go back to where you have been before? Think long and hard first Miss Foxy. Is he really capable of changing? Explore the reasons why you got divorced in the first place and be sure those reasons no longer exist. Please be careful with your heart.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Thanks for understanding! It's been a bit over 7 years since we first separated so I know we've both done a lot of thinking. Am I ready to leave this to go back there? I don't know. I used to take chances whenever the mood struck, but after getting burned by too many bad decisions I've gone in the opposite direction and have a hard time doing things even when I know they are right. So basically, I never feel ready to do anything LOL. Is he capable of changing? Do the reasons we divorced exist anymore? We both changed, our divorce forced us to change. The reasons are serious and petty but all really come down to immaturity and selfishness. It's hard to figure out what all that means but I will be careful with my heart.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Its good to know it went out fine with and your ex-hubby Foxyfire. I know the song Lips of an Angel and I really like it because of the strong masculine voice of the singer and the story, is about cheating? Lol. Your ex-hubby is became a part of your life so it is fine to be happy after talking to him.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
2 Jul 08
You mentioned your step-sons girl friend...does that mean you are married now? If so, you'd be entering dangerous territory. It sounds like you still have feelings for him. If you are both unnatached and think it's worth another shot then it might be worth it, but if either of you is in a relationship, chances are somebody is going to get hurt. You need to decide if hurting someone is worth some time reminiscing with your ex.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Jul 08
No, I never married again. I did have a long term relationship...with "stepson's" father. I'm still here with them and our boys together but it's more like a room mate situation. I sleep in my room, he sleeps on the couch, we pretty much go our own ways and don't talk unless we have to. I still call his son "stepson" because it's easier than explaining the exact relationship and because after almost 7 years of struggles he told me I'm more of a parent to him than his father is despite all the nonsense he put me through.
@sirfsuraz (468)
• Nepal
2 Jul 08
you loved him before and you got divorced. Was it your love marriage with him?If so then you might have probably loved him by several aspects on his side. You might have divorced only because of few, very few, reasons. You still do love him, and that happens to every person. Only the difference is that how much you've hated him for the reason of divorce.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Yes, we loved each other. "Love" doesn't even seem like a big enough word to cover it. I don't hate him for our divorce, it was both of us being stupid. Even in the midst of the bad we knew we loved ech other...that's why it hurt so bad when we kept messing things up.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
2 Jul 08
You sound very mature for a giddy schoolgirl, lol.. You do sound as if you have the right ideas about the growing up and looking for a strong future together, ah, but you still sound like a giddy schoolgirl.. Feels almost good, doesn't it.. I hope you the best of luck and a great bright future together if it is what you want.. Think it over really well, and if this is what you want, then go for it and have fun..
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Giddy is a very good word for it! I still feel that way just thinking about it. Giddy feels so good but then my grown up side takes over...it's so confusing. Yes, I'm one of those people who pretty much needs a big flashing sign to point me in the right direction...I think too much and second guess my feelings.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Jul 08
It's plain to see, foxyfire, that receiving that phone call was really something that lifted your spirits. In my opinion that's a good thing! Sometimes distance does give us a chance to grow and mature. If doing what your ex-hubby has asked will make you feel good I see no reason why you shouldn't.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
2 Jul 08
An ex-girlfriend of mine used to tell me that. I love the sound of your voice. Its nice to know you're that well loved and it shows a genuine interest when someone compliments you on your voice.
I do like to hear my friends and now that I no longer have a love in my life I do miss these little love things we tell each other.
I'm happy for you.
Thats a nice experience.
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i love the song and i love the video and i can totally relate to the song. got it playing in youtube for the past two hours and i'm not showing any signs of tiring from it.
@petiksmode (2983)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i get to hear this song almost everyday it is included in one of my playlist....just like today...
in regards to you situation...missing your ex is always a natural feeling...i have broken up with my bf over a year now and still there are moments that i do missed being with him...same goes to my very first bf...so i think it is just okay...
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
Yeah I understand what you mean, foxy. It's not that simple. Been there done that. Not divorce though. Hehe. My ex called me last February and I kinda felt the same way. "It's good to hear your voice again. It's been 3 long years." Blah blah blah. Don't get me wrong, we're really good friends now. Sometimes in our days we need something like that, a good old reminder of what once was a good thing but should only remain in that distant past.
@ettedualc (45)
• Trinidad And Tobago
2 Jul 08
It is normal to want to-be with or around some-one who once had a realy special place in your heart.It is human nature to love and express it although, at time we try to hide how we feel about some-one, and then there is a strugle with self and what your mind and heart is still holding onto.it sounds to me as though you have some doughts about if you mad the right dession in getting a divorce it is never too late to make things right. you may never get back together, but hey who knows what tomorrow will bring. may-be you need to get out there and give someone else a try to love you.
