third person
By rama108
@rama108 (123)
India
July 1, 2008 9:24pm CST
I have a problem. My brother-in-law who is not educated not even doing any job. Just because my husband feels he is to be looked after he is staying with us. My husband has other two brothers who are also well of to keep him. But my husband thinks only he is good in the whole family. He is praised by all for this.
I do not like this brother in law because he shows extra interest in my daily routine. He should know what ever I do, or planning to do. I feel he should not be allowed this. He is elder to my husband.
2 responses
@qhwater (392)
• China
7 Jul 08
if i were in your shoes, i will not like him, either. i do not anybody would like him if she was you. but i think you'd better tell your hb about your feeling. and let him know that his brother goes too far in your home. i believe that your hb will trust you and do sth for you.
@rama108 (123)
• India
8 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing my feelings dear. My hb knows everything. He is only acting elder...responsible....etc. etc. after so many years of marriage I just learned how to cope with the things. I just do not talk when bro-in- is around. still you know some times I miss ...what to do he is always around like a watch dog. I am waiting. that is all.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
7 Jul 08
You sure have a problem here. This elder brother-in-law is taking the position of the interfering mother-in-law and your husband maybe respects him too much to tick him off. You will have to tackle this very carefully. First and foremost don’t show any disrespect towards him. You will have to convince your husband that you respect your brother-in-law and look towards him as your own elder brother and that your husband should not worry about his brother’s welfare. Only after this, you should gradually and gently tell your husband about your irritations so that your husband may one day tell his brother not to interfere in your personal life.
