Do you accept pre-marriage S*X? IS God against it?
By XoyyoX
@XoyyoX (1055)
China
July 2, 2008 3:00am CST
I believe nowadays most people esp young guys have been engaged in pre-marriage s*X, no matter where we are from, USA, UK, China, India or somewhere else.
is it ok to have premarital s*X. u know this is a common question among teens and esp engaged couples. but want your ideas on the following questions:
1. Premarital s*x--is it moral?
2. Premarital s-x, is it recreation or re-creation?
3. IS god against it?
4. Are you against it?
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3 responses
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
As for me, I do accept it. There's nothing wrong about it though. It's just one of our natures as a human. We can't judge the partners as well. As long as they both agree to do it, thus, full consent, it would be fine.
As for your questions, I don't think it's immoral. Maybe only if it's forced (utmost intention to rape someone). Second question, depends on the couple. Doesn't matter which though.
For the third question, it's a matter of what you believe in. Lastly, I ain't against it.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
If they ask me, the more I'd allow them. Getting my consent shows more respect to me as their parent. I'd just ask them what moved them to decide to do it and most probably what convinced him/her to try it out. I'll share my input as his/her parent. Age won't matter, I'd talk to them depending on their level of understanding.
If he/she does it without my consent, no point is asking me is there? I'll just remind them to be careful and take care of themselves and be responsible for their actions.
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Honestly I'm not sure how I feel about it. I know for myself I have much higher standards than I have for others. I have never done it, but I have also never had a boyfriend.. so I feel like I can't really judge something that I never had to really make a choice about. I mean, I really don't have a desire to, but I feel I can only say what I feel I would or wouldn't do. That probably is a different story when you are in a relationship and have to make decisions.
I don't like to judge people too much, but I do think it's wrong to have partner after partner and no love whatsoever. But I think if a person is dating someone and they feel like they are in love that they should make the choice for themselves, and deal with their own moral code.
I kinda feel like a couple should be married before they start planning for a baby, or at least have a strong committed relationship that has stayed strong through a lot of things. But at the same time, I am not against single parenthood, because if I don't find the right guy ever I still plan to have kids, because it's something I want. I think one stable, loving parent is better than a couple who fights all the time or is abusive or something.
I really don't know if God is against it, I do believe in God, but that is not something I have examined.. I guess because I have never faced the decision, also.. I wonder if my morals are actually the ideals that God gave me when I was born. But I do know this, God is the only one who can really judge anything that any of us do.
As I said before, I am not one to judge others, and it's not my place to do so. I am not a fan of massive amounts of one night stands or anything.. but in any case, it's not my place to judge. Now, if I had a son or daughter and they were doing this then I would definitely feel like I had to step in, to protect them, now that would be my responsibility.
@XoyyoX (1055)
• China
2 Jul 08
lol, it's not "my place to judge", but you did give me a long post and a suprise. thank you, greyfreak, hope you can find someone you fall in love with. you said you are not judge, but i feel you are best judge of all things, you treat things in a reasonal and calm way, i like your style, and i do learn a lot from words you typed here. good luck, greyfreak, hope we could be good mylot friends. thank you again for yor such a long response, i can never do that, i mean, that long post. thank you once again.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Jul 08
I don't see anything wrong with it myself as we are animals really, and no other animals get mnarried... I think we were given something that not only keeps the species going but is enjoyable so I guess i feel a little sorry for those who can't simply enjoy it for what it is but I don't mean running around in one night stands..I see it as an expression of love not just permanent marriage stuff...
@XoyyoX (1055)
• China
2 Jul 08
yeah, you are right, but if you are a mom or dad, would you allow your own child to do so? aren't you concerned with the teens' safety, i mean if the kids are under 18 years old, for safety, i mean both physically and phycologically. for young people, some of them do it just for fun or excitement, that's why so many single young moms occur.