do you have a dominating friend?
By pradysgirl
@pradysgirl (246)
India
July 2, 2008 5:07am CST
Yes , I have a bossy friend, she tries to dictate me how things to be done . I cannot refuse her as it may hurt her. she expects me to tell her each and every thing happening in my day to day life , like where I am going today, with whom?. once she got very mad since I went to one of my other friend without letting her know, she cried like anything and made it a look like a serious issue . that day I felt very bad, I could not sleep the whole night thinking of this incident. she wants all the attention . I dont know what her problem, she is married with two children , we live in the same block . cannot avoid her, as our daughters are close friends. so what is the solution, I cannot tell this on her face, she has been like my second husband ................
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5 responses
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
2 Jul 08
wow that is real demanding of your friend! i'm sure i can't stand even talking to her. what is her problem??? i mean even your spouse shouldn't expect this of you.
if she is my friend, i'll tell her straight in the face. yes she'll cry and make it like you've hurt her so deeply. but the fact is why should you be tortured by her just so that she doesn't get hurt. does she care that she is hurting you?
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@zeusonfire (470)
• India
2 Jul 08
well i ahve a lot friends both on net and normal school and college and neighbours of which some are of my age while some are of different age i.e both elder and younger.
Comming straight to the point that u have raised,
this is a very tricky situation like u can't loose a friend but she is troubling you.
The best thing you should do is to plan and tell her indirectly. like to tell her abt some X whom u don't like (and tell the things that she does to you which you don't like in place of that X).This is only best possible way.
She will change only when she understands that you are not liking that type of behaviour.
@pradysgirl (246)
• India
2 Jul 08
the thing is most of our friends in the circle are common friends, I cannot talk of someone in a third person context, she is too intelligent in these matters. that is what making the matter worse!!!
@knight_rlc26 (362)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
i think, you tackle that issue and confront him... that sometimes he's too offending and he is hurting you... so maybe he could have adjust and knows that he was out of the limit of your friendship. he's doing that to you because maybe he thinks that it fine for you because you dont complain. therefore, if really mind his friendship, you should talk it over and have your position with regards to that issue. its not only for your good but for the goodness of your friendship as well...
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
Hi There,
That is certainly a problem. I have been in the exact same type of situation before. It is not an easy one to fix I am afraid. The only thing to do is to tell the friend as difficult as that may be. It will just lead to resentment if you do not.
cheers,
@cheney (199)
• Hong Kong
2 Jul 08
There must be some defects in her personality. I am sure she used to lack of love during her life. She needs to realize her problem.
