Put on the spot

Next time tell him to stop by a place of business and borrow the phone book for a minute and write it down. He doesn't have to be so insistant, if you can't find it then you can't find it. Geeze... I hate that too and yes I get upset over things like that.

yeah I get upset, but I also get upset when I need something right now, and they won't give it to me, lol, it does work both ways. One of my faults is that I do not have a lot of patience.

All the time by my Ex Husband and he used to get nasty with it to and then if I was not able to find it of course it was my Fault and of course I had lost it I hated it and now I do not let any one put me on the Spot ever again Love you Sweetie

Not usually but I didn't just have big surgery either. Hopefully your husband will understand later you were trying to catch a nap and didn't want to be bothered at the time. I don't blame you. I'm lucky in that respect since my husband rarely calls during the day and never asks me to do anything except make sure his softball uniforms are clean.

If I'm not awake or super busy doing something important, I get pissed whenever someone wants me to do something on the spot. Last time hubby was like this with me I told him to divorce me and marry a dam octopus if he wants it done now.

Hi terryZ, Some people doesnt want to be stress or they cannot take some situation that somebody is asking them right now even they are still busy w/ something.And thats me i cannot concentrate and stressings like" ohh yes i need it now while i am in the telephone". I should hang up first and find it.or i will tell him i'll find it then i call him back.I get mad if he is also being pushy w/ something i cant do right away..The last time he ask me something do to and he is getting mad but i cant give him right away.I said you should lower your voice and temper. You dont own me to do that kind of things, and infact your asking me a favor to do it for you,so be polite..hahaha..Thats what i said to my partner the last time. You should let him know that you dont like it if he is doing things like that.For me its working since i told him that he stop doing that kind of things anymore...You take care your self..And have a nice day! Greetings from Che!

I do, and I tell them I do not know right now. I give suggestions, but I prefer that they let me look around for whatever it is. I do not think it is that important, and they can wait for a little while. If it were extremely important I feel it and have the information right away.

Yes, Terry- nothing is worse than when someone demands something right away. Gosh, especially if you're half asleep and still tired. My hubby does taht too. I love when he calls me and I'm already on the phone but I can see it's him because we have call waiting. Still, I don't switch calls right away and then my cell phone starts ringing and it's him. I feel like I'm being stalked!

Yep - especially when they are the ones who probably put it somewhere it shouldn't be! I would probably have said a few words I don't even know the meaning of! lol Hope you guys have kissed and made up now! Hugs xxx

It depends on who it is. I get that with my grown children and that is when I get really angry. It's like, who do you think YOU are?? It's especially with my oldest, who thinks the world revolves around her and everything is for her and her alone. Even her sisters get tired of the things that she can demand, at times.

When somebody wants something right now I instantly get into a raging temper. People, not just husbands, seem to think they must have what they want right away as an undefinable and natural right of theirs. The thought of that alone annoys me. If I could possibly just not get it for them I always do that. If they insist and I cannot deny the request I think of a way to get back at them. Its my temper raiser.

i understand totally my boyfriend has a problem with doing that alot. he could be at work and he'll call me while i am cooking or taking a shower and he will want me to look for something for him. and if i say well i am cooking or taking a bathe he will get all made and just be like dont worry about it , as if it was all my fault. and then there we go being mad at each other.

My boyfriend does that all the time, He has his own biz, and i allwasy do the paper work for him. Sometimes he wont come home till like 8 or 9 at night and he will had me the paper work, and expects me to do right then. I tell him if he has work for me he should come home at a better time. Im to tired by the end of the day to do his paper work. He gets really mad at me but, he eventually gets over it. I hate being put on the spot as well.

Oh my goodness you don't even understand. I am with you though. My husband calls me for those things all the time. The first thing that he says on the phone is I need you to do... I'm like, do you know what I am doing right now?? I am a stay at home mom of a one year old. He thinks that just because I am at home that I'm not busy. There is diapers, feedings, bathing, all of us moms know. So I get upset and start yelling and then we both get angry and then its you don't love me, if its such a problem. I'm like its not a problem but ask me if I have th etime to look for it, before you just say I need it now. It is rediculous.

Terry, my kids do that to me all the time. They want something now, not later, NOW. It drives me crazy. Can they not see that I am busy at this time? Where are the manners and patience I thought I had taught them? It is very frustrating. If they will only wait a few minutes the situation could be taken care of simply. They seem to think that they have to bully their way through life. I don't know how to get them to understand that they are only triggering my temper.

That happens to everyone and that was one of those moments that you were caught off guard. He kept asking cause you always know where everything is and he doesn't. So don't be ill at him for asking. It just happens, have a good one.

I don't think anyone likes being put on the spot, as you word it, but some people handle it better than others. I am not one of those people. I am more like you and I lose it. It's like, why can't you wait 10 minutes? "You've waited this long, another 10 minutes ain't going to hurt", that is usually my favourite saying to this person. But it usually riles the other person when I say that, but come on, you can wait a bit longer.

hi terry I think we have all been there at one time or 'another. my husband used to think that I should always 'know where he put something and he picked a time when I was just recuperating from a hysterectomy to ask me to get a paper he had misplaced. well I was thrown for a loop as I had no idea where he had put it. and so I did just as you did, I yelled at him and hung up. the funny thing was the blasted paper was in his coat pocket all the time, and he had just got stressed and forgotten he put it there. lol. he did apologize to me afterwards and I also for having lost my cool and yelled at him.

I would do what you did, if its that important they could get it themselves.

Yes especially if I can't find it or if I was just dozing off. That is enough to make anyone mad. LOL! I hate being woke up for a phone call I dont care who it is.