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Does everyone deserve to be happy?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
July 2, 2008 3:39pm CST
Does everyone deserve to be happy,
even if they are happy at your expense?
My philosophy has always been that everyone
deserves to be happy. But if you think about it,
that's not really true.
There are some really bad people on the planet
and their idea of happiness usually involves
other people's misery.
Why should they deserve happiness?
And sometimes you don't want a person to be happy
for your own reasons. Like your spouse's ex-girlfriend.
You don't want her to be happy, especially if her idea
of being happy is to steal your husband for herself.
What do you think?
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13 responses
@ramyashreesk (1021)
• India
3 Jul 08
[i][b]Hello beautyqueen, yes everyone deserves to be happy. But life is not fair with everyone. Every human being has to undergo his/her karmas done in past life as well what we do now, in this kalyuga.That is why do as much good as you can to get liberated from this earth.Lord Buddha says "Be Good and Do Good."Look at this, my co sister has twins, we live in joint family and am not blessed with a child, whom do i blame, my karmas.She is a happy soul, but what about me don't i also deserve to be happy? or should i be unhappy all the time just because i don't have child?
Take care, blessings! [/b][/i]
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
6 Jul 08
My beliefs say something similar.
"Do unto others as you would have them
do unto you."
It does not mean that others will
reciprocate your kindness or generosity.
But often I find that if I extend a friendly
hand of peace, then others do the same.
They are just looking for someone to make
the first move.
You deserve happiness.
If having a child, will make you happy,
then pray about it.
Wish for the child out loud and the universe
will hear it and make it happen for you.
But you must use your words and not simply
wish in your head.
I waited ten long years wishing for a child
and then one day, said out loud.
"Why can't I have a child? Why can't that be me?
I would be the best mom and I am not even allowed
to have one child."
I said these words out loud to an empty room with no
other humans around.
Less than four months later, I conceived my daughter.
Sometimes the universe hears.
For me, being a mommy brought me happiness.
Be well.
Much happiness to you, mu friend.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Yes of course all of us deserves to be happy. Although like what you have said sometimes other people become happy at our own expense but its natural and if you look behind that person will not achieve total happiness without having your forgiveness.
I myself does not care if I will suffer from misery just to see thousands of people happy. Because I know that someday when the right time comes I will also find my own happiness here on earth. Another thing is if you continue to bear that hurt in your heart you will find it hard to be happy. So better set it free and continue life and enjoy!
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
2 Jul 08
Well I had it happen before to me. My ex husband went back to his ex wife or girl friend from high school. I don't think he is really happy though.Due to the fact that before we went to court to have the divorce he told me it wasn't working out between them like he though. I didn't want to be the woman that he cheated with while he was with her. I think it is awful myself. Of course the last time I seen her I was in Walmart shopping with a friend of mine she was at another cash register and gave me a dirty look I just smiled and did both of my hands at my face like take a picture it will last longer.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Good for you!
Neither one of those people
deserve anything too good
after the betrayal that they
dealt to you.
You are better off without either one.
That's just my opinion.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Some people are that way.
They don't mind seeing others suffer
or they go out of their way to make
people suffer.
I have never understood why!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jul 08
no bad people who live to only hurt others do not deserve to be happy unless they really change theirways. all good kind people do deserve to be happy and all people who are tryingreally
hard to be good people they deserve to be happy too.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Yes, so true! If a person is good
and tries hard to be good then their reward
should be happiness.
And I do believe that.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
I think that the innocent deserve happiness. Those who have knowingly done something to cause someone else to suffer do not desere happiness in my opinion. Why should those people be happy when they have doe something to crush someone else's happiness?
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jul 08
Hello dear beauty queen.
Happiness, personally, may have a different conception when it involves a different person, as can be seen from your discussion.
You are right each individual has his own idea of happiness. Some may feel happy when he is able to do something helpful while some may feel happy when he makes the others unhappy. But we have common knowledge about happiness. That is, so long as we can be of some help to people, so long as we can live a decent life and have a well-paid job, we feel happy and we are contented with our life and work...Thanks and good day.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 08
Yes, everyone deserve to be happy. Noone is born to be unhappy, everyone also have their rights to be happy.
But everyone will have certain down period, but they will have their own way to get back happy. Do not make u=your happiness disappear because of someone else, it's not worth.
Be happy always! Be optimistic! Have a nice day!
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Happiness is for everybody, if it is for me, it could have been reserved for me alone, but it was not. Happiness is like air, it is for free and for everyone! You cannot say to a bad person don't breath the air of the good people and vice versa. So happiness is like air, everybody inhales it. And like it, we need to share it! Happiness shared is doubled. We can be happy anytime and anywhere we want.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I get what you are saying and no I don't think everyone deserves to be happy . There are some really sick people out there . It is sad with life that sometimes the people wo deserve to have happiness the most are the ones it rains on the most .
Oh , I have been in that boat before when I curse out all my ex 's and people who just plain suck.
@me2guideu (11)
• India
3 Jul 08
happy is not an expense one. its presented in every bodies thinking thought. basically ifs present in our mentalities.
