Not a good Day
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
July 2, 2008 6:43pm CST
My Day has not been to good today
I drove for the first time this Morning and it was not good, driving still not possible I came home in Pain so another week no driving
I came home, got changed into something Comfortable and was about to unpack the shopping as Gissi was patiently waiting for his Goodies, when there was banging at my door, ringing of my Doorbell and then banging again, I was not able to go to fast, as I opened the Door, there stood a Woman there very upset asking me if I had a Cat, I said no I haven't (my first thought was, i know Gissi is the size of one but looks nothing like a Cat) before I could say anything, she said that a Cat had just been knocked down, well I only knew 2 Cats, one is Daisy who belongs to my Neighbor and she never leaves the Yard, the other one was a white Siamese looking Cat who always came on the Yard, I told the Lady I would be out, just getting my Shoes on, I went out crossed the road and had tears in my Eyes, it was the white one who had been here since I moved here, I knelt down and I knew it was not going to live, the Driver who was a lady was going to take it to the Vet, she was so upset, I told her he will not make, I calmed her down and told her it was not her fault and to calm down before she got back in her Car
I knelt back down to the Cat, we where stroking him, I knew he had severe internal Injury, I felt myself wishing he would just go as he was in so much Pain, he had a few Cramp attacks, all we could do is stroke him, he died 10 Minutes later, there was 3 of us crying, we didn't know who the Cat belonged to, till one of the Postmen told us, I came in and got a Box and padded it with Towels, also we put a Towel over him, I then suggested to the other Lady to see if the Owner was in, if not to knock on a Neighbors Door as we had been told that she is at work, the Lady knocked on a Neighbors Door and was talking to them explaining when the Owners Door opened, the Woman came out and said I hope it is not my Cat, well it was, she opened the Box and she was shaking, I put my Hand on her Arm, she asked Questions, one of them was, how long before he died, was he in Pain, before the other 2 could say anything, I said that no he was not in Pain and he died within 2 Minutes, I looked at the other 2 Ladies and they understood, I did not want this Lady to hurt more, we told her though that we held and stroked him, he was not alone, I also think she was in shock, after a while she picked up the Box, thanked us, asked me if I wanted the Towels, I told her no, she went home, I came back in here in tears and I don't know why, but I looked at Gissi and said to him in Tears, that is why you do not run on the Road, because you die, I just had to say something I made a coffee and sat here in tears, I then decided to install the new Camera I bought on the Lap top to give me something to do, and guess what the Bl**dy Lap top crashed on me, I just cried this was the last straw, I was in Pain, I found out I am still not able to drive, I saw that poor Cat die, then this, I had to totally reformat the Lap top and now I have to install everything again, not a good Day at all
I better go to bed it is 12.35am and I have been up since 7am lol
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31 responses
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Oh Gabs ((((hugs)))) You have been through a lot lately hun. I understand you being fusterated that you can't drive, but you really need to take it easy. If you don't then you can cause yourself more damage. I know how hard it is to have to wait to do the things you want to do but you really need to and then to have to see that poor cat like that to top it all off? You need lots of hugs and I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Tell Gissi that his mum needs lots of hugs and if he doesn't I will sick my evil 15 yo on him!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
Lol thanks Sweetie and Gissi is being very good for a change lol
Yes it was a terrible Day
I have been through a lot worse Sweet believe me and I always came through it and I will always fight my way through
Love and Hugs to you and I hope that things get better for you soon
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Love and hugs to you too hun, I know I will get through this like I said I am very grateful for my friends here, I love you guys. Just knowing that I have the support of my friends helps a LOT. And I want to be able to also support my friends in their time of need as well. We all have a lot going on and when you have had days like you are having and a week like I have I know how good it is to have the support of your friends!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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@ellie333 (21016)
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3 Jul 08
Hi Gabs, I hope you slept well and have woken refreshed as today is another day. Yesterday did sound like a toughie and I would have been in ears myself over the cat, so sad, but I have lost two of mine now in the past to being run over. I hope you have your lap top sorted and give yourself more time before driving. I personally after each ceasarian couldn't drive for 6 weeks (I know different op but still surgery you have had) after minimum so don't push it, recover from your op properly before attempting again. I hope you are not as sore today though. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
3 Jul 08
Aw. I am sorry you had to go through that.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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4 Jul 08
Oh dear Gabs... you've been having a rotten time of it lately, but as with Mike, things will get better. As far as the healing goes, you have to think inwardly. You don't heal so fast on the inside as you do on the outside, sweetheart, and it's going to take more time. Driving and carrying shopping, no matter how far or how heavy, is going to be a big strain on you, so please take heed of what the doctors say. If you push it now, it will take all the longer to heal properly, before you can get back to doing what you're used to. You need to take one step at a time, just a little step... an inch, is good. Ok?
As for the cat, I know the one you mean. He was often in the yard when I took Gissi out. I think he came to see Daisy. It's sad that they can get run over out there in that narrow street. People must be driving fairly fast through there not to be able to stop. That poor woman when you took the cat back to her. I would think that upset you even more. But then... you did all you could, my dear friend. Take solace in that.
Brightest Blessings... get well soon. Love and hugs. xxxx
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Jul 08
Hi Darkwing, yes I understand that now and I will leave the driving for a while longer, I just do not like relying on People you know that
As for the Cat yes that was the one, I still miss seeing him, it was so sad, I certainly felt for the poor Woman as I know how bad it would affect me
Love you and big Hugs xxx
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@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Jul 08
Yes, I know you like to be independent, one because that's what you're used to, and another, because you don't want your disabilities to get the better of you. That's fair enough, but better to get there slowly and properly than to have to have things repaired and delay your recuperation, huh?
Yes, that poor woman must have been so upset, and I know how you are about animals, whosever they are. xxx
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Boy, you sure know how to have a crappy day, Gabs. Sorry to hear your still in pain, my friend. The poor cat thou. I feel for the poor soul. The owner should never have let it run loose. This is what happens when they think their cats and even dogs will be ok when let loose. I see so many cats along the side of the road and it just breaks my heart. Some, no doubt, are strays but I'm sure a few are housepets. As for your laptop..what the heck did you do to your brand new laptop to make it crash? Lord girl!. This puter of mine is a top-of-the-line Dell at the time when I bought it 4yrs. ago and has yet to give me any problems. -shakes head- You better go to bed before something else happens.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
Lol I never do anything by halfs lol you should know that by now
The Lap top is ok now it was the Camera I will be taking it back as it should never have done that, it was the same make as my Lap top there has to be something on the Installation Disc so it is going back
I did go to bed lol but could not sleep I went at 2am got up at 6.30 so guess who is of to bed in a bit
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@mummymo (23706)
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5 Jul 08
Oh Angel I am so sorry that I have only just gotten this! Why didn't you call me - you know I would have wanted to help and I can't even call now as I have to start getting ready soon to take niall to the airport to go and visit his dad! I do hope that everything has picked up now and you are feeling better - remember how much I love you - so much that I won;t even say told you so about the driving! xxxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 08
I know but you have so much going on right now and one of our Friends not so far away from you needs you more then I do right now she is so much Pain, my bad Days are nothing compared to her Pain, I cry and then go to sleep and wake up feeling cr*p and be Depressed for a while but our Friend is in Pain and I am glad that she has you there to turn to
I love you Sweetie you know I do but I can't keep burdening on you as you have loads to deal with xxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Jul 08
I didn't want to bother you Sweetie as you need your rest to as for the Driving well I tried and guess have to wait a bit longer now
Lap top is all sorted but that was just the last straw that Day lol, yesterday well I am not even going to go there lol tell you another Day
I love you to very much Thank you for being my Friend xxxxxxx
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
3 Jul 08
Oh Gaby, darlin I am sorry you had such a rough day,I hope tomorrow will be better for you. i wish i could give you a big hug(((((((( Gabs)))))))) . It seems like when it rains it pours dear . First the driving, then the poor kitty, the the laptop. I think it is time for some Gissi snuggles and a rest hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you sweety.
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
3 Jul 08
I guess this one really hit home on me Gabs, The last day of school J.C. was hit by the school bus when the kids left for school that morning. Beau alway put him on hnis chain before the bus got here in the mornings, because he was bad bad about chasing cars, trucks, what ever. so he was chained during the day and let off at night. Rob had just bought him a new collar Thursday and that night he shredded it so friday morning Beau couldn't fasten him up.
I bawled for a week and still get misty just thinking about it . He is the one someone threw out down here with a broken leg and Aarika rescued him and took him to the Vet.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jul 08
I am so sorry I know it is awful really awful when this happens, one of my Dogs got hit by a car, someone had left my Back Gate open and he got out, he was looking for Mike
Fortunately he only got hurt on his back Leg, it is hard when our Pets hurt or leave us
Big Hugs to you
He is a beautiful Cat
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
Hi Sweetie
I did not sleep well at all I think it was just to much and I kept imagining if that was one of my Cats or Gissi
My Son has the Cats since I moved
Gissi and me where snuggling a lot last Night as I just wanted him close to me and I kept seeing the poor Woman's Pain on her Face
Love and a Big Hug to you
Lap top is fine now lol
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Good gosh, sounds like you really need a hug my friend. AS this happened 5 days ago, you well know that tomorrow is another day and you have had a few since this happened. I hope that your heart is finding peace at this time and that your mind is at ease. Big huggers to you.
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@GardenGerty (160488)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Gabs, I know the day has been upsetting, but you must rest on a regular basis to regain your strength. You did a good thing for that lady, but she should have made sure her cat stayed nearby. Of course I am a fine one to talk, I have four kitties (rescued a new one) and they go outside. I think only one leaves the yard but she goes out the back way and over to the neighbor who feeds her goodies. I am glad that the lady stopped and did not leave the poor thing in the road. I hit a big black lab once, on a busy street here in town, as I had no choice, hit him or a dump truck he ran in front of me. I could not pick him up as I had my two year old in the car. I stopped at the vet, just a block or two down. Two of them went to look for him, but I guess the dummy got up, as they saw him just sitting on a porch, perfectly fine. I hate it when animals get in the road.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
The Cat only ever came over here as he was always here on the Yard I think something scared him to charge across the road like that as he was normally good going across I have seen him he would never run over always walk and if he heard a car he would not move
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
3 Jul 08
12:35am is not the best of times to be up for somebody who’s supposed to be resting herself. And I’ll be very straight here (like it or not)…going for the supplies I do understand but no need for you to have rushed outside to see a cat. I know you are kind-hearted but you are straining yourself a bit too much. Working on the laptop is strenuous too so don’t overdo it. These are boring times for you I understand, but its better to be fit at one go rather than risk your health. You will be in a better position to look after all the cats and shop to your heart’s content once you get your strength back (and I am being both angry and sarcastic here)
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
Sud, Sweetie, one thing I can not ever do no matter how bad I am is leave an Animal in Distress I just can't and to leave a Woman who is Heart broken over her little Cat
I know how I would have felt if it was my Gissi
I could not sleep last Night but I am going to bed in a bit as I am shattered lol
So, Mum, I am of to bed and you can stop being at me now as I am being a good Girl
Love you Sweetie and a big Hug
I am taking care honest
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
4 Jul 08
I know Gabs…its like neglecting a child on the road and then thinking about your own children
But one thing you know too and that is (and I’m repeating myself here)…you are one of the few online friends I genuinely care for. Please please be a good girl and take care of yourself.
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@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
3 Jul 08
It is so sad when an animal gets hurt and we can not do anything about it but comfort it in its last moments. It is so good of you to tell the owner that it did not suffer. I am also sorry that you are hurting so much. After my first shoulder surgery my doctor told me I could not do anything for a month. I waited the two weeks he put on me before I could drive and then like a dummy I went back to work. Fixing sprinkler systems while I still had my arm in a sling. Way to early for that. Take it easy and do not do more then the doctors tell you that you can. It is not worth hurting yourself over.
Love Ya.
Mark, Lori and the Girls.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 08
Well I am going to give it another week and try again I guess lifting the Shopping did not help either
I will be returning the Camera as it was a brand new one and the Tech Guy said it should have never done that as it was also the same make as my Laptop but the Lap top is sorted now lol it took me hours to get things back and I still haven't got it all back yet
Love you all
Gabs and Gissi
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@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I forgot to add. Uninstall the camera. Go to the website for the camera and get the latest drivers. Then reinstall it and use the new drivers. I have found that a lot of products like that all ready have old drivers and since you have a new computer you need to adjust for it.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Wow what a day you had! So sad you had to be there to watch the kitty die I know how ya felt when nothing else could be done for it.
So nice to find a box and all I hope the lady is going to be ok energies going to her to make out ok. sad to lose a pet as e both know! hugs and blessings
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jul 08
You know what I am like with Animals lol it was hard and he is missed not walking around on the Yard, it is sad, but yes the Day was terrible, because of my Lap top crashing is why I did not come back on later on lol I was using not nice language
Hugs
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Oh Gabby I hope you are better now. It sure was a terrible day. I hope you where able to take a pain pill and go to bed.
I am glad you lied to the owner of the cat, I would have. It was a the best thing to do for her she does not need to know what her baby went through.
I hope Gissi listened and understood what you said to him.
God bless and love ya
teapot
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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3 Jul 08
I am sorry that you had to see that with the poor cat, it is not nice, I went through it with a squirrel once. I nearly cried reading your story, must have been pretty traumatic for all of you and the poor owner. I am sorry that you have had such a poopy day, all the bad things always seem to happen all in one go and so hopefully this will be your lot for a long time to come xx
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Oh gabs thats is so sad. Im so glad you did what you did for that poor cat. I would have been in tears too. Your a good caring person. No you certainly didnot have a good day. Hang in there sweetie you soon will be back to driving. I hope your laptop is okay. It was good to talk to you today and I hope you feeling rested. I just woke up from a nap.LOL Love you and Hugs
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 08
It's ok Sweetie I am ok I still think about the little Cat but I know it is not in Pain any more now
I am not to good right now but I will get over it Sweetie, I am going through down time and I will snap out of it sooner or Later
Love you Sweetie and it was good talking to you to
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Aww Gabs, i know your day was horrible, and I so hope today is better for you. You will drive comfortably again, and the pain you are having will subside. One thing I want to point out to you is what a wonderful neighbor and friend you are. So loving and caring to both that poor cat and his human. I admire you for that. as for the laptop when ever you deal with computers they are a source of frustration and enjoyment, we kinda just have to roll with the flow when dealing with one. I so hope today is a brighter day for you my friend.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jul 08
Hi Angel I just can not help it, I can't see Pets hurt and just leave them, I don't like seeing People hurting
The Lap top is up and running again lol still loading things on here but I have all my main stuff back here and I have done my Back up Disc to lol at least I know now how to reformat it, with the Computer I have a Disc to reformat with this I don't have one so I am glad now that I know what to do
Hugs to you
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
3 Jul 08
My dear friend, what a terrible day you had - your first day behind the wheel after your op and it didn't go well, then the incident with the cat getting knocked down and dying in front of you (that must have been awful), and handing him over to the owner must have been worse. You did what you could for the cat, at least it didn't die alone. And in a strange way, you were able to comfort the lady who owned the cat by telling her what happened.
Your computer crashing the same day would have been the last straw! Some days suck, and that was yours.
I hope that tomorrow will be a better day for you.
@anjalirawat29 (119)
• Singapore
5 Jul 08
oh such a long post dear well just wanted to share my day actully my husband went to his hotel today very early morning and after that i had a very nice breakfast for me then i went to shoping i bought a lot of stuff for my family and that too on discounted prices....so my day was just perfect