stuck between your mother and your mother-in-law
By maryann82
@maryann82 (133)
Philippines
July 3, 2008 2:11am CST
i've been married for a year now and my husband and i decided that we rent our own apartment so that we can start our own family the way we want it. I'm presently pregnant with our first child which will be due on august. My mom is a nurse and using her knowledge in her profession and her learned knowledge in raising kids she gives me insights and some tips to get me through my pregnancy and help me in the future in raising my own. so as i tried following what my mom has told me my mother-in-law gets in the way and always tell me that's not how it should be done here, that's not right, i didn't use that on my kids and etc. so knowing my present situation what can you guys suggest to help me through this "i know better than your mother" war.
1 response
@puppabear (94)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear of your present situation, the last thing you want to do is be stressed out during a pregnancy. I would suggest letting them both help in their own little ways. What I mean is, let your mom give you all kinds of advice and you take in what you want to. Then you do the same for your mother-in-law. This way you are not hurting anyone's feelings. I know it can be very stressful but you have to realize that they are just as happy as you are about the baby. They are just trying to be helpful. Good luck with everything I hope this gave you something to just think about.
@maryann82 (133)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
but what would you do if they're both stressing out that they want you to follow exactly what they say... out of respect i can't just tell them to chill and let me do the things the way that i can and know will be best and that their words are just suggestions and shouldn't be orders????
@puppabear (94)
• United States
4 Jul 08
Sometimes it is just all in how you come across saying what it is that you need to tell them. You can quite nicely put that you really appreciate their input but every has a chance to learn things on their own, and you would just like that chance. Again, Good luck and I hope what advice I gave you might help.
