Is It Cheating if You Go Out...?

everyone will have a different take on this situation, it is one of those gray areas, on the very strict sense no they are just friends that is not cheating, but it is cheating in the sense that it is lying of the wife does not know that the husbands sees woman as friends, then he is cheating her out of honesty.

Hi There, I pretty much went through this exact same thing in my marriage. My wife had a friend who she went out with all the time. She described him as her best friend and always got mad if anything else was suggested. Half the time I did not even know when they were together. It turns out we got a divorce and guess who she has moved in with? I would have to say it is cheating as it is an emotional affair if nothing else. Hiding things from the spouse is a form of deception. cheers,

I dont see it as cheatig if it is a casual dinner with none of the "extras". The thing is he was in the wrong by not saying anything to his wife before hand. A good marriage has to have open communication between both people and if one is afraid to say something then there are issues that, that particular couple need to work on. I would let my husband go out to dinner with a female friend in a heart beat because I know my husband and trust him to the point that I know for a fact he would never do anything with her.

Okay here i go..... I do NOT think it is cheating, just to go out awith a firend and nothing else was happening. BUT would i be upset. yes if he lied to me about it and felt the need to keep it a secret. Because then he would be lying to me.. ~Now off the record. I think ive seen this episode. wasnt he inlove with this girl in highschool??. I would be heated! if my husband lied to me about going to dinner with a girl frome highschool he was IN LOVE WITH!!!. thats makes things totaly diffrent.

Well, it's hard to say. Some couple do allow the other to go out with friends but we are all different. In this particular case however, the man intentionally did not inform his wife, which is a clear cut sign of hiding something. Maybe he was thinking is she doesn't know, she doesn't have anything to worry about. But then, if we think about it, his wife may very well have something to worry about. He's keeping secrets.

I saw that episode last night too. I have to ask myself if I would be okay with my husband going to dinner with an old school friend that is a woman. The answer is no, I would not be okay with it. I would not be okay with it if he told me he was going too. The only way I MIGHT be okay with it is if we all went together. I figure even if your not doing anything considered wrong, just the fact that you feel like you have to hide it is a warning sign.

I woudlnt consider it cheating by any means HOWEVER that doesnt mean I dont think its shady..if there is nothing intimate goin on then it shouldnt be a secret IN FACT IMO its all the more reason to NOT keep it a secret..it saves from the b.s once the spouse finds out ya know...

for not letting the wife informed about the outing means theres something deep inside the man that likes to unravel to the woman he was dating..it could mean something that his wife will be hurt in the near future...so it i can categorize it as cheating..

If he doesn't tell his wife, he is hiding something. Which in turn is actually lying. I wouldn't consider it cheating at that point, but I do beleive that it is dangerous. If continued, it will eventually end up as cheating, so don't do it.

No if it's just a talk then it's not cheating at all so long as there is nothing romantic or intimate with them that is not cheating.

I don't think theres something wrong with going out with a friend but what is wrong is he is not honest with his wife.He should inform her where he goes and who he with.

in one way i think its cheating because playing with woman's heart is not good And in other way its not because some men can't depend on one

just a friendly chat is quite normal. if there is no secret feeling in the man's heart, there is no difference to tell his wife or not. each couple have their own things, husbands would not let wifes know everything they did. so do wifes. but if the man has a feeling for the woman, he should tell his wife. it is the best way to avoid further problem,say, to avoid falling in love with the woman. if i were in the case, i would rather my hb to tell me at first.

For me yes it is already cheating because you did not tell her about your it.Because in a marriage husband and wife are oblige to be truthful to each other in many ways.Me i could not lie to my husband i always tell him everything that is happening so that there will be no fight in the end.

Hi Muelitz, For me, if they go out and they dont have an affair and if the wife knows about it, its not cheating, but the problem is that he didnt tell his wife and that for me is cheating, there is no reason to hide to your wife if you are just going out but unnless you have something in mind, thats really a problem. thanks and have a nice day my friend.

I think it is great for men to have women friends and women to have men friends, but should let your spouse/partner know.

That's a tough question. I think it really would have to depend on the woman and the relationship. My husband has female friends that he will hang out with sometimes after work. He lets me know where he is going, though, and I trust him so it's not a big deal. I know he wouldn't do anything naughty without me, anyway. :) Anyway, I can understand why some women would not tell their wives or girlfriends that they were having a platonic evening with a female friend. A lot of women get jealous and upset about things like that. However, if the guy knows that his wife is going to get upset about it, he just shouldn't go intead of going and hiding it from his wife/girlfriend. On a different note, I think some men might be more honest with their wives if they didn't fear the repurcussions.

If my girlfriend did that I'd be pretty mad. But if she told me i'd be a totally different ballpark

Of course it's not cheating. It may be decieving, but not cheating. think of it this way, atleast you're not lying to your wife by saying ''no i am not seeing another woman.'' But, you are hiding it from her.