I kissed a girl and I liked it?!
By fafinette79
@fafinette79 (943)
United States
July 3, 2008 9:55am CST
When I was about 18 years old, I had a girlfriend of mine hit on me. I was curious about it, so I went to her house. She invited a friend and told me that there was nothing to be afraid of. Seeing two girls kissing freaked me out and I ran out. Needless to say, she and I never spoke again.
Now, years later, I'm finding myself curious again. I've kissed a few girls in the past couple of months. This time it didn't freak me out or gross me out at all. Because of that, I want to bring a girl in the bedroom with my hubby and I, to see how it is. My hubby thinks I've totally lost my mind and says that I'm enough for him....which is sweet but I want to try.
I talked to my therapist and he says that this is completely normal. He says that it just means I'm becoming more open-minded and that I'm growing as a person. He thinks I'm great person and cool female (his words).
I still want another person's opinion on this.
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14 responses
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I have kissed girls and i really don't like it. there was this one time that i was 16 and were playing dirty dice with a whole bunch of people and i ended had to kiss a girl i even had to lick a nipple. But i really didnt like it.
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I think once you get more comfortable with yourself and your hubby, then you'll be more open to other things. I know that I like to be tied up and blindfolded, but that's a whole different subject.
@pheonixstar1982 (2307)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I have been with women on a solo basis and on with a male partner involved and i was completely okay with it, although i do have to say its alot more fun with a male involved too. I don't mind kissing girls. I agree that girls are more curious about it then men are. I think men take it as a threat to there masculinity.
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@pheonixstar1982 (2307)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Take me for an example, although i like being with women i prefer men. Just let him know that.
@pheonixstar1982 (2307)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Why is he worried about you losing weight?
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I don't even know if I like being with women because I haven't experienced it yet. I must make sure that my hubby is completely okay with it first. I think he's insecure about me being with another women. He's even a little worried about me since I've been losing weight.
@meholl (510)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I think your hubby might think this is all crazy because he isn't exactly sure what role he would play. And maybe that needs to be discussed.
Plus, this is a very touchy issue that requires a lot of commitment and trust in a marraige. Maybe your husband is just unsure of how he will feel about sharing you, or whether he may become attracted to your extra partner.
First things first, sit down with your husband and talk. Each of you have to have very clear boundries, what is ok, what isn't ok!
I speak from experience, and that experience destroyed the relationship, but I have now learned from it.
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I'm sorry for the lost of your relationship. I will be very careful before I decide on this. I want to thank the members for being so concerned about me.
@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
10 Jul 08
We live..we learn? LOL!
18 year plds experiment around a bit. It does nt necessarily mean anyhting. But you are curious now and will probably experiment again. You are not taht old.
Let things go naturally. I wuldn't blow a gasket over it? (Sounds like you have a neat hubby!)
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Yeah, I love my hubby. I want to experiment more and see what it is really like. Thanks for saying that I'm not "that" old! I feel really old.
@lieanat (1137)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 08
Wow, that's quite normal. But I kinda disagree that you want to bring the girl to bed with you and your hubby. I think it's better you sort out your thought first. I guessed the therapist said you are cool female is because he's dreaming about this thing happen to him!
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Nah, my therapist is pretty cool and showed me how psychology rates people on these types of desires. He did everything to make me feel that all my feelings, including those about denial of my father passing away, were normal and are just my way of dealing with something going on inside of me. Some people say that I shouldn't let my hubby participate, but he I should let him watch.
@yukiyoh1105 (289)
• Philippines
10 Jul 08
I'm open in this kind of activity but I haven't tried it to someone. Maybe because I don't have the chance. Lolz. I've read from a book that a guy feels more arouse when he see two girls kissing each other, I also asked my boyfriend and it was definitely true according to him.
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Yes, most guys do feel that way. I'm interested because of personal feelings. My hubby has seen me kiss another girl and he said it did something to him. So the book you read is definitely true.
@embattledsparkle (1072)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I see nothing wrong with it if you're both comfortable with bringing another woman into the bedroom. I've done some interesting things in my past. :)
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
6 Jul 08
It seems like it's becoming more accepting to do wilder things in bed. Thank you for your response. 
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
3 Jul 08
Well, i have done both before hooked up with a girl solo and with a partner, i think that you really have to trust your partner and feel 100% comfortable with them or wont spice things up and instead start a huge fight.
I think that girl on girl action is kinky and fun, i always enjoy it and they know what you like instead of just thinking they do.
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I'm glad that someone else feels the same. I think it'll be entertaining and almost adventurous. Maybe I'm just bored because I'm in this small town with nothing to do and no place to go. When I was in Florida, I had tons to do so I was never bored.
I'm not to sure about them knowing what to do. For a long time, I didn't know what to tell a guy to do to me. Plus, a lot of my female friends say that they get off on stuff that I have never getting off on. I think everyone is different.
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Thanks for your concern. But, as you said my hubby is sweet and I don't he would leave me.
@jasbir_pro (283)
• India
4 Jul 08
Of course this curiosity is the strogest of all, as you would never actually know how the other side feels. You would never be sure!
@kameleen (151)
• Belgium
3 Jul 08
if you feel comfortable with the idea, there isn't anything wrong with trying it. as long as your man hasn't got a problem with it and as long as it won't become a problem in your relationship.
it doesn't make you more great as a person if you do it or don't do it. It's just something you can explore in this life. And if you know your limits and keep them, it can be a great experience and you may learn from it.
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I think the biggest thing is getting my hubby to be okay with it. I think he's more afraid to do it than I am. He probably thinks that I'll accuse him of liking the girl more than me.
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I'm almost 30 and not sure if I'm confused about my sexuality or not. Thank you for your wishes. It's true that this will probably help me understand myself more. After all, I'm a woman and want to learn more about other women. Also, welcome to mylot.com!
@deegeesweetpea (5)
• United States
8 Jul 08
you know, i think you right!
a couple weeks ago i was at a friends house and i found myself actually kissing one of the girls there. it was not new to me, since i have done it a few times before.
i couldnt believe it aferwards because i liked it! even though i have a boyfriend, i believe i like it MORE than kissing him.
in my opinion, i think its GREAT you want to try new things, especially with your husband!!!
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thank you for seeing this through my eyes. Most women would do this without their significant other's knowledge. For me, that would seem like I was cheating. Even if my husband doesn't want to participate in the threesome, I would want him to at least be there to watch. This way, he can never say that I did it without his knowledge of approval. I'll let you know if it ever happends.
