does a single mom have a chance to get married?
@funtasticsakura (133)
Philippines
July 3, 2008 11:35am CST
Are you a single mom?Womens dream is to walk in the isle,but we can't avoid mistakes in our life.Like some of us been to early pregnancy.I am a single mom with one daughter.and i've wanted to have my own family but i'm afraid that i might get the wrong man for me for the second time around.Now i'm just busy with my work and with my kid.But i can't get rid of thinking.does a single mom have a chance to get married?
7 responses
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
I know a lot of single mom who were able to find great loves. I am not categorized as single mom since I am living with my hubby for 6 years now and we already have 2 kids but we are not married yet. I just don't believe that marriage is an assurance for being happy forever since married and family life is a life-long work that we must struggle on everyday.
I know a woman who has a son and now diabetic so she cannot give birth anymore because she is insulin dependent. But she is now happily married to a politician in our place and everyone in the man's family accepted her and her child unconditionally. Just learn from your past and make sure that your man will love you and accept you as you are and will never use your past against you. Good luck!
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
I am a not a Catholic but a Christian (a Protestant), I know it would be better if we will be blessed by the church but I guess its the relationship that matters and putting God in the center of your relationship rather than having a one-day wedding and have a daily fight. Anyways, I also dream of having a wedding someday and I do hope my marriage life would be as smooth sailing like our life now that we are not married. According to the Family Code anyway, a marriage license is no longer an essential of marriage once you've been living together for 7 years.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
thanks chrysz!!that's a very inspiring story.but as a catholic we need to be blessed by our parents and God.But you still have a point that we can't get assurance when we get married.but i think its the beginning of a foundation to start a whole new family.Hope that my past wont be an issue if ever i would meet someone who will love me and also my daughter.Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.
@pearl1003 (668)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
yes of course... im not a mom yet but i know a lot who are single moms, and they are all dating. meaning they hav the chance to get married again... my cousin was a single mom when she got married to her hubby now. See, it is very possible... but it might take a long while before you spot the right one... for my cousin, it took her 8 years before she got married to mr. right...
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
hi pearl!!sounds good when you've heard someone searching for her mr right and found it.I've been relieved because i thought i might not find someone who would accept me who i am and accept my daughter too.Maybe i should take a little more time.Thanks for your response,it reaaly helped.Goodluck on you!!!
@hellobaboo (59)
• India
8 Jul 08
Yeah. Definately You have chance to marry someone who wants you in his life. He will accept you and your kid. But one thing I would like to say...to get something you have to loose something. It is the law of nature.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Hi hellobaboo!!!I'm afraid that would happen,Really?Now i'm thinking of that something i could loose.I hope that if i've gone to this situation,i would'nt be separating my heart that i have to choose one.It's a thing that makes a single mother desperate.Hoping that accepting me would lead to accepting also my daughter.Thank for your thoughts!!
@ljforte1024 (150)
• Canada
8 Jul 08
Definitely. I had a child early and I've been married once to someone who loves my daughter although I'm divorced.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Hi ljforte!!!wow that sounds good.Does he treat your daughter nice?Because that's my biggest fear,thinking that she is a girl.I could'nt stop thinking that nowadays,in the news some of the married single mom having trouble with their kids together with their step- dads.Hoping if could protect my child for that.Thanks for your response!!
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
4 Jul 08
Certainly. I was a single mom for about a year then I met my current husband and we dated for 3 before we got married. There is a guy out there that will take your child or children in as your own and love them. Don't get to discouraged just take your time.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
thanks bailey!!i can't wait for that time that i would be in that moment that i would feel very special,not only me but my child as well.I will take my time and wait for that special person to come into my life.thanks for brightening my mind.
@witchsbrew (25)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Absolutely. Just remember you dont want someone that doesn't want kids and you will find that person.
I am a single mom, but by choice. I have met men and they just dont "mesh" with my son and myself together. So it just isn't meant to be. When it is, it will happen. No need to try and force it.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
hi witchsbrew!!That's the things i thought of so..that i might get a guy who loves me but not my kid.We cannot handle what's in his mind,and i'm afraid that my kid would suffer that.Well,i'm not forcing it to happen but now i'm taking my time for that to happen.For you maybe it's a not meant to be thing.We can't tell our future maybe tomorrow or next week or maybe next year it'll come to our hearts and knock on us.thanks for your response.
@funtasticsakura (133)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
hi galena!!i really want it to happen.Now i'm trying to make the most of being a mom.And i just want to give my kid a father figure.I'm just a little bit scared of what would be the outcome of this.That i could have a family of my own.thanks for your response.
