Discipline is not a dirty word.

wow, great plan there SomeCowgirl, I have no kids but when I was growing up every time we will violate rules, dad and mom will talk to us and do valuing a lot! No punishment at all...and reward also is given every time we will do good things!

To discipline a child is a hard one depends on the child and what it has done.With my first family I would look at the child with a warning look and change the tone of voice.That used to work and then they would stop and behave themselves.You have to look at the lsws of the land and go from there, in England reasonable chastisment is allowed I would never hurt a child but a warning slap on the knuckle or the back of their legs if they persist. I always used to warn them nicely first,It never got that far, as I only had to smack them once and they remembered and controlled them selves. A star chart is another good way of doing it,if they got enough stars they got a packet of sweets on a friday worked like magic. Then there was the naughty step they hated that would do anything to avoid that.Take away their favourite toy for a while,Punshment is a part of child rearing as if they are never naughty how will they learn to be good,give and take is what it is all about.Just remember up to the age of about three they do not set about doing anything wrong they don't plan it it just happens.It is up to us to find a way of stopping or distracting or we will end up with an out of control teenager or worse.

It is if you hit your child. In the State of California if a parent is caught hitting their child, they are sent to prison and the child gets put into protective custody. One woman the other day, when I took my nephew to Chuck E. Cheese said to discipline my boy after he pushed another boy down the stairs. The woman gave me a nasty look after she said it, but the thing is that he is not my son and I am not going to hit him for fear that I will get put into jail. I did raise my voice to the boy after it happened, but I did not hit him. I am not the type to hit people. The only time a hit anyone is if they are truly asking for it, and I mean that this person really flat out wronged me. Raise your voice to the child, that is fine, put them in time out, that is fine as well, hit the kid, and face possible jail time if anyone sees it.

I say your grounded but never tend to stick to it.. Reason being he says he's sorry and he won't do it again, in which he don't.. I don't think kids like being grounded or punished when they know they did wrong.. When he does extreamly wrong I will take things away from him the ones he likes the best such as his Wii or computer games.. There are different ways to discipline a child...

To most people, there is quite a fine line between discipline and abuse. Well, when I have my first child, I'd apply what was taught to me when I was a kid. I find it successful in our family. I usually call it "consequence management". It is very much the same as what you have mentioned. As punishment, taking away privileges depending on the gravity of the action is effective. The child will learn basically what is wrong and gauge which action/s deserve consequence. Like playing video games for example, they usually play for an hour a day, depending on the action, I could cut them off for a day or even a couple of days. Going too far is to inflict severe physical pain to the point where the child is already seeing it as harmful rather than consequential. This goes the same with emotional consequence as well such as shouting and swearing. Nevertheless, there are lots of ways instill discipline. Some may or may not work per family but it is best to at least try and find an effective way. Have a great day!

Yeah baby,we did decide that taking away privileges as a form of punishment is a good idea,and that rewarding them for good behavior by giving them back one item that we confiscate,and I think that you go to far with discipline when it goes from grounding them to spanking them,or yelling at them,because punishments like that are just wrong.

I do discipline my kids in the ways you described because I do not agree with spanking my children at all. I do not view it as discipline. but that is not what this discussion is about so I will leave it at that lol

as has been mentioned on a number of posts,yes,it is always a good idea to look ahead,but you really will need to keep an open mind on physical punishment for serious problems. running out into traffic for one,this they must learn fast is somthing they must not do,and once they know that certain things brings certain punishment,it can take it's time to learn not to do it,but with the road,they need to know fast,so a good swat on the tail-end,and if it is done only with serious mistakes will hold. now for another area,have you discussed fully on the type of diapers you will use? If you wish to save money,use disposables for no more than one year and then go to cloth,this will help with potty training faster and save many thousands of dollars over the total time they are in diapers/training pants. Many Blessings to you.

Interesting conversation that you have started here. I think it is good that you are thinking of things like this even though you haven't had children yet. A lot of people just jump in, have the kids, and then are like oh what do we do when this happens. And I do understand there is no guide or instruction booklet when it comes to kids. Plus they are all different, just as we are all different in our own little way. But, like I said, I just wanted to said good for you for considering such things at such an early stage. I think you have some great ideas.

Usually I will give warning before they are grounded. They will do chores like wash their own cup after drinking and fold their own clothing etc. If they behave well they can sleep a hour later or watch cartoon for an extra hour.

You do what is effective for that child. While I don't agree with the opinion of some that spanking is abuse, it is not affective. I don't ground but I have taken away privileges. You never punish for mistakes or accidents. That is how children learn. You never punish for telling the truth or you will make liars out of your children. Discipline should only be done when the child knows it was wrong.

hi dear somecowgirl discipline is a good royal word. every thing is right which is disciplined. if the sun appears in away which can be termed indisciplined , like you and me used to arrive at my college missing classes, days on hiking , how it will be total anarchy. this is the importance of discipline in our lives. and one learns it earlier the better.

I have two little girls, one of them is old enough to be disiplined the other is not. One is three the other is two months old. I beleived the same way before I had kids. The truth is, I think that is a wonderful idea, but you'll have to roll with the punches. I said I would never spank my child, or put my child in time out, or do anything like that. Punishment is not always a one way street. I have taken away my daughters toys and she just laughed and played with something else. Don't underestimate the power of a young mind. If you take away their favorite toy, they'll just find a new one. I don't mean to rain on your parade, I'm just advising that it will take a lot of trial and error to figure out what the kid needs for positive or negative reinforcement.

Every family is a government. I am glad you are making your hay while the sun is shining :).

As a teacher I have seen so many parents who let their child run them. I was part a conference when a child (upper elementary) turned to his mother and told her to shut the hell up. I stopped the whole thing and took that kid on. I know it did little good though. My own kids are a little older so I like using 'natural consequences'. I told one of my kids that if the grades don't go up he has shown me he is not a responsible person and there is not way I can send him to drivers ed in the summer. So, here we are and he is taking his bike everywhere. We, as adults, have to face natural consequences for our choices, why can't kids do the same?

discipline is a good world, and its meanning is also very very nice ..

i dont need any childs