What would you do, if you were the other woman???

Here is what I did. Yep did. I was involved for several months with a man who said he was going thru a divorce. I knew how that was since I too was going thru one. One weekend he stayed at my place. During that weekend a young girl called and asked me "will you please tell Daddy to come home, mommy misses him!" I was shocked. It seems the guy wasn't getting divorced, he just wanted an affair and even had the nerve to TELL his wife where he was spending his weekend! Needless to say I kicked him out on his @ss, and never saw him again.

Well if I were in that situation I'd back off. There are other men out there, many of them happen to be single and not liars. If you stay with a married man you are only hurting yourself. Even if he does leave his wife, which most of the time he won't, but if he does... whats stopping him from doing the same thing to you? Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I would veriify that this woman really was his wife and do exactly what she asked you to. . A man who is cheating on his wife is not a good man in my opinion. Sure, maybe he's not "bad" - but to be that dishonest with you and the wife signals something is wrong with him and that likely you're just going to go through a whole lot of pain for nothing, which isn't "real love".

First, I'm going to kick myself in the butt, for having fallen in love with such a louse. I'd hate it too, if my boyfriend or husband fools around behind my back. Next, I'd have to do what the wife said - stay out of their lives. I think before scooting off, I'd slap him around a bit, for having cheated me!

hey keep_onwatch, I am really not a big fan of this type of relationship where a guy could not control themselves and lie to a girl that he has never had any girlfriend before. I think if I am in your position, I will definitely leave him. However, I am not you and I do not know how much you love this man and how much are you willing to forgive him for lying to you initially. It is really up to you but the smart choice is leaving him.

I agree with all of you. But most women of the world just can't have their own men because in most places, men are outnumbered for so many reasons like wars, tons of bad habits, etc... Some women fell for married men and some on gays or what we call AC/DC. Which is worst?

See, I would never be the other woman because I am greedy. I have to have my man all to myself. I would never share him with any other woman. Honestly, I know that I might sound selfish, but I have known women who have shared their men with other women and it was brutal. Wondering if he loves you more than the other woman? Are you more important than she is? Does he love her more than he loves you? My mother was the other woman in all of her relationships, and I swore not to let that happen to me. I will be greedy with my man, and I do not care.

Obviously the smart thing to do is to dump the man. If the woman is telling the truth, the man is a liar and a very hurtful deceptive person. Who needs that in their life?

The only thing is to rectify the mistake as soon as possible, I will definately detach myself from the persons as a person fooling his wife can fool anyone. All these talks of love I feel are rubbish in such cases.Next time I would definately be careful about the man I start liking and will check if he is married or not.

That is really a difficult question. It is never easy to just walk out on a relationship like that. Anyway, the first thing that I am going to do is to talk to the guy and ask him if the woman was telling the truth. If it is true, then the three of us, will have to talk about the whole thing like matured people who are forced to deal with this kind of situation. Yeah, I may have to give up the guy and give him back to his wife if he wants to go back to her. If not, then, he will just have to ask his wife for a divorce.

Hello onwatch, how have you been? I think I would reverse this story and say if I were the other man..what would I do. If a man confronts me suddenly to stay out of his wife's life, I would firstly tell him the situation that I am not aware at all that his wife is his wife. Get what I mean. I wouldn't want him to get away knowing that I'm the one who is having an illicit affair, where in actual case, I am unknowingly being led on to believe that his wife is open property. So if he still insists that he is right, I would proceed to ask him to bring his wife, and the 3 of us would talk about it openly. I'm daring like that, ha! That's what I would do if I'm innocent in this case. I wouldn't start an affair with a marriage woman, that's like off limits, total totally.

That would be the most horrible thing to happen! I'm assuming the man had told me he wasn't involved with anyone, let alone married? I would tell the woman I had no idea he was married, and I'm really sorry. Then I would tell the man he was a lying, cheating toad and the relationship was over - even though I was in love with him.

I think I actually would. Stay out of their life I mean. I would feel betrayed thatthe guy didn't tell me he was married and he told me lies. That is not the right thing to do if you enter a relationship... And because I wouldn't want to feel more hurt bymore lies he would probably tell me to justify the previous lies. SO yeah. I would leave and tell him not to call me.

hi friend: If i were the woman,i will ask the man whether or not she is his wife and how is the relationship between them. If the man said yes,and they are in good relationship, i will leave the cheater without a thought. If he said yes,but they have been aparted or divorced with broken feeling.I think I just did what i should with the man. My opinion is if no love any more between a man and a woman,why not leave? good luck to you.

i know it would be very difficult if it will happen to me but i think i know what the right thing to do is. i would leave him behind and move with my life. knowing that he betrayed his wife will make me feel bad for breaking up a family.

I would leave her husband alone. And I would be very angry at him for being so deceitful. Usually once a cheater always a cheater. How would I ever trust him? Women really should have more respect for themselves and for each other and not mess with married men once they find out the man is married.

First I wouldfind out for sure that this woman is indeed marriedto my fellow, then I would kick him to the curb so fast he would notknow what had hit him, dont let the door hit you in the behind, goodby and do not come back.

Well, once I was over the initial shock, I would tell her to 'Come on, lets go confront him.' and watch him squirm while he tried to explain.

i have a friend who is like that and shes the other woman, until now their are still seing each other and having a baby is very ideal for them..they have one daughter who is 2 months old..but the boy don't stay home with the girl, he still stay with his original wife..

I have to admit I was 'The Other Woman'. It is not a good thing to get involved with a married man or woman. If they tell you they have a void in their life that needs filled....tell them to get a puppy!