What do U Expect From your Children...?

This was one of the first advices my dad gave me even before I was married. Not to expect anything from my kids...especially that they will look after me in the later part of my life. Everytime we would discuss kids disowning their parents, I would tell my parents that I would never do it in my life. But they pointed out to me that being a girl, I would be married into another family and I might not be in a position to take care of them when they would be old...even if I wanted to. So, they have planned for their future. I have two boys but I don not have any expectations from them (though my older son who is 7.5 tells me that he will take care of me when he is older and gets a job). I want them to be happy and lead a disciplined life. I do what I have to do for him because of my love for him and it's my responsibility too. I do not expect him to take care of me when he is older. I expect him to love and respect me for what I've done for him.

Hi dear very true and heart touching discussion, though bit scary too well the situation u r describing is really scary and not welcomed at all. i believe if ur behaviour with ur parents is goods and ur kids are watching it, and u r giving proper relegious, ethical and moral education to your kids then i am sure ur future wont be THAT DARK, but if u r not giving due resect to ur parents or elders then u should expect same. Honestly i dont want to think that long, i will honestly try my best to educate my kids so that they can be better human and rest is up to Allah So hope for best Take care

I've been very blessed, my children love me and tell me many times that when I can't live by myself any longer I can live with them. They're 19 and 20 now and I suppose that could change but I raised them carefully to value their family as the core of their heart and security. Don't worry about it, you will do fine and your son will have the same values you do. He may deviate from them when he's a teen but he'll make you proud. That's the advantage of being a stay at home mother, you're their biggest influence!

I have seen this attitude towards parents and sometimes I wonder what does children know about LOVE. Didn't their parents teach them the meaning of this word. Don't they realized that to love is to forgive and when you does forgive that weight is so much lighter. My mother tried to give me what she would, but my father he loves and spent on the first and the last. I grow up knowing that he loves them more than me and when I was working and able to help him I gave him everything that I could. I love him yes but not as deeply as my mother. I forgive him for not trying to me but I get the reason why, while my aunt was visiting us. I don't used it against him no. There are parents who shows favourism amongs their children and the ones that they love never is the one who give back to them in their olden days. The ones that they spend less on are the ones who are suffering with them. Now these are the children who put them out of their homes and tell them to go and look for the favourite one. I would encourage parents to love but not show it. You never know when that table is turn and the lest one becomes one stellar. Do you know that saying that goes like this 'The Stone That The Builder Refuse Becomes The Head Corner Stone'. Nupats once you grow your child/children to love and forgive this will carried them through their lives. Always remember that children lives what they learn. Kerry

What do i expect from my daugther, to be a good girl afterall, good in studies, i feel i should not force anything upon her, but should guide her decisions so that she can be successful in her life, and more than anything i want her to be happy all her life along.

Let me tell you an old Chinses story. Long and long times ago,these was a son while his mother was very old. He and his wife dicided to take his mother to the romote mountains. One day,the son ,his wife,and their little child carried the old mother into the cage,and took his mother to the moutain by wheelbarrow. on the way home,they found the little child still carry the cage.they are very puzzlement.so they asked their little son the reason. the little son said:when you are old ,I still can use this cage! English is not my mother tongue.so there must be so many mistakes.Thank you for browsing

I always consider this on raising children: If you raise them and they become successful in life you have done your job right.

I think about this every day. Being a young mom I am able to grow with my children when my oldest daughter becomes a legal adult (18) I will only be 36 and when my youngest turns 18 I will only be 37. I wont be old but I wonder this all the time. I have gave up alot of things and sacrificed alot of things in my life to make sure they have the best that I could give them. If they do treat me like crap when they become teenagers there is not much I can do. I just hope they get alot of real life expericenes when they are young so they know what to apperciate in life as they grow. My children have experienced alot in their young lives that not many children have at their age and I think it will benifit them to the best.