Does your mom call you a lot?

it does help in a way, my mother has always been the controlling type though so maybe it is because she makes me tense that some things get on my nerves a lot, she asks me over and over the same things especially about a particular subject that I can't answer, and I have told her I will tell her as soon as possible.

My mother does me the same way some times ... i just don't pay her any mind she soon forgets what she asked me any way.... Maybe she just needs to know more than ever that you are always going to be there for her... And that to hear your voice comforters her and she feels better just taking to you.... Maybe it is that she feels closer to you that way too.. J.M

You are probably right, and I should not mind that she wants to play twenty questions over and over and over and over and over again. Even it it does get nerve racking at times, I do try to be nice and not hurt her feelings but sometimes she really does upset me with the things she says, so I just need to remember that she has spent a long time getting to where she is now, and it is unlikely she even is aware that she does cause me grief at times because of the way she acts or says things. Maybe she will be blessed with lots of close friends when she moves, that will help her have an outlet for some of the things she wants to talk about to me that I really do not want to talk about.

That would be hard for me to do it is unlikely I could get her in to see a doctor and I don't know her doctors, maybe she is just liking to talk I don't know.

I don't believe she has a hearing problem, she likes to ask the same questions over and over and over to see if someone will say something different. She has always been manipulative, and she has always been a very controlling person, she has always caused me problems when I have ever disagreed with her in any way over any thing, So now I really just don't say much to her, I just let her talk, and talk, and try to not say anything that I know she will find offensive, she disagrees with me on everything from marriage to child discipline, education, to bills, jobs to welfare, staying home to going places, doctors, hospitals, medical care, religion, politics, etc, etc, The one main thing she wants to know right now is when there will be a trial for the person who killed my son, and I have told her every single time I have heard anything and I have told her exactly what I have heard, but still she asks me the same thing over and over, and asks me if I think the courts will do anything, and I have to just keep telling her that I don't really know because I don't and her asking me a million times over will not make me know something I don't. She also wants to talk to me about the feelings of the person who killed my son about how he is suffering and all kinds of things like that, and she just wants to keep on and on. and it is not good it makes my husband angry, he does not say anything to her because he knows she is just upset but it causes him a great deal of grief, Then she calls me up and tells me that she someone (an unnamed someone) called her and told her I was crying, when i wasn't. Then she even called my doctor and told him that all I did was sit around and cry, and I don't I never cry, she even called me the other night and told me she heard I was crying because one of my children is fixing to go to Iraq, when that is not true, I was not crying and I have not been, she over exaggerates many things and she tries to make people thing that I just cry all the time or something, I am more likely to go to sleep or just stay home away from people when something bothers me than to cry because I don't cry like she seems to think, and it bothers me sometimes that she wants to constantly try to say that I do, I mean the one time I let her come with me to have a baby, she was constantly asking me if I was hurting yet or if I did not think I needed something for pain, and I was not even in labor yet, the doctor was trying to induce labor, after she finally went home though I did go into labor and I had the baby within a very short period of time, and no I did not cry during labor either, or afterwards, instead my lungs started filling up with fluid, I could not of cried if I would of wanted to I was too busy trying to breath,Lol not really funny it was very difficult, but I was fine after the doctors gave me oxygen and turned the bed upside down or at least that is what it felt like. lol My mother is just a really difficult person at times, and I over look a lot of things she does because I know she had a very hard life, and she really does not know any better, also my mother never finished school, and when I have suggested that she might take a class or two at the college, she has said that she would not want to do that, she is very superstitious, and that is another point of contention, Anyway, I just have to accept that she can get to be overwhelming at times but she has always been, I do wish though she lived in a better area, than she does, and that she had a good friend or two that she felty comfortable talking to, it would be good if she would just get married to someone who would be good to her I think.

Hopefully your mom will be okay. Maybe one of these days you will have enough income to help your mom more. I can not help my mother because that I have no income at all,

my mom is the same way she cant hear you very well at all .. But she can not afford hearing aids.... It makes it very hard on her .. If I had the money I could help her myself but I'm on disability myself and she makes more than me ... I pray for help every day for her.... J.M

My mother is depressed I am sure, and she has already allienated most of her family and friends, but she will not agree to see anyone about it, because she does not think she has a problem she thinks it is everyone else, also thateveryone else is the reason for her problems, she can be difficult, I wish she were not so spiteful, but she is, and she does try to make you feel guilty over things that you have no control over like things that happened years ago that can not be changed things that can not be changed or anything done about that are recent, anyway maybe she will get better one of these days but I don't know she has always been sorta like this.