SECRETS...

I personally don't believe that anyone who is a serious relationship, especially married, should keep anything from each other. There should be complete trust and honesty within a relationship. From experience, it only takes one secret that is later discovered to totally wreck a relationship and ruin everything. If two people truly believe in their relationship and each other they should be honest about everything no matter how hurtful it might be to their partner. The secrets and lies will always be discovered eventually so I say get it out as soon as possible and deal with the consequence sooner rather than later.

i disagree with trig327..well, one should always be honest with his partner, no matter what the matter is, there is pleasure in sharing...things that are thought to hurt the partner if they are not disclosed should always be told coz it develops and maintains the trust and understanding between the persons...things that we think too small may add up one by one, and may cause a serious circumstances later...it is not that partners with good undertanding can really take in hiding things from the partners...coz, at some time or later, they ll understand that the magic in the relation is coming down... while telling each and every thing to the partners should be in a way of a healthy discussion sort of thing so that each can correct the others' mistakes, as the husband and wife already swear to protect the interests of each other, the faith wouldn't go..and it wouldn't matter if we let them know our worst weeknesses....moreover, every weekness that we disclose to them, becomes our strength later...:)

No they shouldn't. I totally agree with the first post. If you are in a serious reltionship, there should be nothing you would choose to keep secret. I suppose it's different if you're planning a surprise for your partner but that's a good secret but most other things it's important that your partner knows. of course, you shouldn't just go around telling every boyfriend or girlfriend everything about you but I think if you have been with someone long enough to know you can trust them and that they are the one you want to spend your life with then there is no reason to keep secrets.

no they shouldnt more secrets create more problems but dont tell someone to hurt them either

Trust is a key componant to a good relationship. How much trust can there be if one or both parties maintain secrecy? If the relationship is as it should be and the love exists, it should be able to withstand honesty, don't you think?

YOU KNOW UR HUSBAND ....SO U WILL ALSO KNOW THAT WHAT SHOULD BE KEPT AS SECRET AND WHAT NOT...I WOULD NOT KEEP A SECRET....BUT IF ANY BDY SAYS THAT IT SHOULD BE MAINTED AS A SECRET THEN I WOULD NOT SAY