Are You A Mingler Or A Wallflower?

I'll mingle a little, as I know I'm "supposed to", but I'm really a wallflower. One of the reasons I got on myLot is that I'm learning to be quite a bit more social. It's about time, since shyness has negatively impacted my entire life, and I'm just about older than dirt!

I'm actually both. It really depends on the crowd and the atmosphere. With the line of job that I have, it's a must (and I mean must) for me to mingle with others. Actually, I used to be a wallflower. I wouldn't talk during parties. I prefer being all quiet and everything. I guess since I was able to develop my confidence in myself, I was able to open up and remove the "shy" gene from me. Hehe. Now, when I'm at parties or anywhere for that matter, I can actually go up and say hi to people. I have a lot of acquaintances and friends and they've helped me to become who I am now. =)

I usually do a little of both. It depends on the party and the people there. If I'm with a whole group of friends and it's a party where I am familiar, then I'll mingle well but if its a place I don't know or if its some people I don't know or like, then I will wallflower with some friends.

With me it depends on how many people are there that I know and what kind of mood I'm in. Most of the time though I usually don't mingle.

I'd have to agree with you, OP. I'm a fairly extroverted person in general, but I'm quite concerned about appearances and I don't want to look weird or stand out too much when I don't want to. When it comes to big gatherings, dances, etc., I'm more of a follower rather than a leader. At the beginning, I will hang back, just kind of walk around, maybe talk with a couple friends of mine who I already know. Once I get my confidence up, however, I will begin to feel more natural and at ease, and will begin to mingle more and reach out to people instead of expecting them to reach out to me. By then end of that social event, I'll have morphed form a fairly reserved wallflower to a mingler, for the most part.

I would like to think I'm more of a mingler. I will have many conversations with many different people. If I become a wallflower than there's really no reason to remain at the party, is there?

I am deinitely a wallflower, simply because I have a really hard time with rowds. I don't feel comorable in crowds o people that are moving all over the place, so for me it is saer to stay where I am sitting with a few like-minded people. My husband is the same way.