Should I put myself first and then my husband / wife?

I think what they're trying to say is that in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first. I don't think they mean a selfish love here but a healthy love and appreciation for who you're. I think in a partnership you have to show sacrifice and put the other first because it strengthens the bond that you have. the bible supports both these views when it tell us to love our spouse as we love ourselves...

I think that the best thing to do is to grow together in satisfying one another's needs. I think that you should both work together to achieve the goals you set forth. Be it a new pair of shoes or something bigger. If you need space then allow him the same, have a day where you pamper yourself, but do not forget that of your husband and award him with something when you arrive back in his arms.

I think that in order for a person to be in a healthy relationship, they need to be independent to a certain extent. So I would say to satisfy your own needs first, and expect that your partner will satisfy their needs first. In a lot of situations, these things will be done together anyway. But if you're not happy in yourself, it's not like someone else can make you happy.

You need to look after youself and your partner, as well. You cannot ingonore either. Not caring about yourself would make you feel depressed. If you look after yourself, then you might feel more happy and contended and when you are happy inside, you can look after others, including your partner in a better manner. Best of Luck!

Whom you should put in the first place, is a different view for different person. I think that the last decision will be made from the person's thinking which affected by their background. Even you ask you opinion, will not necessary accurate to you own answer in heart. It's better to ask yourself from heart.

if i read your problem i think the true love is not just from your husband/wife first agod fells make our from man until earth and other in the world second your prophet..who was bring us from the darknees to the lightness parent,yourself and husband/wife

We are all motivated by self.... It if were not in our own best intrest to serve/promote another we would not do it we put our partner first because we choose to.. for resons that are maybe not even known to ourselves. but it will serve our own intrest to do so wheather this be to strengthen the relationship therefore reducing our chances of being left/alone. it is still in our own intrests why do you need to ask.... true selflessness happens so rarely.. the only way i could be truely selfless is for my kids..I would give everything and ask nothing from them.... my partner tho seems as much as I would like to think so if we truely examine our motivcation it is so they wont leave or they will ove us more or to tempt them to stay that we seemingly scrifice our need when in fact we just made a judgement call as to which need was greater even if this choice wasn't canscious.. Tez

certainly there will be cultural differences between Croatia and the US, but these things are often aregued here, too. Sharing requires compromise. That can't come about without equality. I believe it's more of a self-respect issue than self-love. Nobody has to come first in every case.

I keep hearing this expression too. And I don't fully agree with it. Even if you have luke warm feelings about yourself you will definitely be loved by someone. I'm not a selfish person by nature because I'd rather tend to others needs before taking care of my own. And you can show commitment in lots of ways.

I think this depend which need is urgent. People are selfish, but not always. Sometimes they 's like to share things with their paterner and friend.

You should put your husband/wife first because that is the reason why you married got married. But you should have some me time to... Like something you wanna do... Like for intense i go and get my fingernails and toes done that me time and than i go shopping for myself...