What do you do when someone has nightmares?

I think your husband may need to get some counseling and especially grief counseling. He was obviously very traumatized by the incident and probably needs professional help to get some relief from his feelings. I dont think I could live if that happened to me.

when someone has nightmares, the best way to help is to wake them up. no matter what happens, just wake them up. it is very important that you have to stop his nightmare by waking him up. then ask me what he dreamed about. if he says that it's about your son again, i think you have to help him accept the reality that your son's already gone. i think the reason why he keeps on having nightmares is that maybe he was traumatized with what he saw, specially becuase it was his and your son. you can bring him to a psychologist, a counselor, or anyone that you think can help him. and always be at his side. it's you who he needs most.

That's awful. I feel so terrible for both you and your husband. I can't imagine how hard it is to lose a child, and suffering like that every time you close your eyes must be torture. Can you talk to his GP and see if his doctor can convince him to talk to a professional? Do you have a minister that he'd be willing to talk to? It sounds like he seriously needs to get some help to get him through this. My thoughts will be with both of you. I know when I have nightmares, the only thing I want is to be held, but I know it makes my guy feel a bit useless.