Courtship Styles. How did you court your wife, girlfriend (or boyfriend)?
By acevivx
@acevivx (1566)
Philippines
July 6, 2008 1:01am CST
In the past decades, courtship was usually done through very romantic ways, like sending flowers or chocolates, love letters or courtship notes, looking with lovestruck eyes at the one yyou love, sendimng love poems or other very romantic acts and gestures and later, dining and wining them out, going to the movies, staying on the phone for hours and just holding hands. In my part of the owrld, men serenaded the women of their affections and even enslaved (that's exaggerating)themaselves to the ladies family for a period of time doing chores. Nowadays, it seems courtship is not done as romantically as in the past. So how did you do your courting?
2 responses
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
I believe in courtship so much its one way of knowing the other person. but when my present boyfriend didn't court me and it just became us like magic! His point of view is that guys will not show their true self when courting, they will just show off their good sides. It will be much nicer knowing each other when we are on a relationship and he will court me forever haha cheezy! It really swept me off!
@drsparkle314 (529)
• New Zealand
6 Jul 08
hmmm I'm the traditional type of guy but I could say I didn't put my best foot forward while I was courting my ex gf because I wanted her to love me for all that I am... both my good and my bad side... I didn't want her to tell me at the end of our relationship that she doesn't know the guy she was with anymore... perhaps that's why though we're not together anymore as a couple we are still the best of friends...
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@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
Hi drsparkle314, at least your still best of friends =) its really rare to befriends with ex's
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
Courtship does not only refer to the period until you became a pair. It can go on even after marriage or during the realtionship which should be the case. While it appears you became a twosome immediately without your making your boyfriend court you first for a long time, still, you both are very romantic. Your boyfriend is right. You will get to know each other betterwhile you already have a relationship and so if and when you decide to get married, it is because you know each other well and that you are good for each other. He is still courting you girl and you are quite lucky to have a romantic guy for a boyfriend.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
6 Jul 08
We had a long distance relationship, it allowed us to write letters and talk on the phone so we finally did get together we knew a lot about each other. I still date her though, even with kids I have to keep it up. I didn't marry her so I wouldn't have to date her anymore.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
That's nice to know that yours was not a whirlwind courtship and you had enought time and opportunity to get to know each other which should be a must in a relationship to last. YOur continuing to date her shows your quite a romantic guy. Kudos!Keep the romance alive and you will be much happier.None everyone seem to think it is important to do so.
