Woman who wants my husband...

It could be that since she is going through a difficult time in her life, she is looking for hope that there are still good guys out there and that there is hope that she might find someone who loves her and she will get remarried and have a "forever" marriage. I think that what you should do is sit down and talk to your husband about your own feelings of insecurity about this woman and the potential impact that she has on your relationship with him. Also, getting to know this woman could really help with that in that you would get the chance to get to know her and where her intentions lie.

No, you're not crazy, Fafi. Your man needs to put his foot down, flash his wedding ring and tell girlfriend to back off. I kid you not. He is the only one who can put a stop to this. If you strong arm his coworker you'll end up looking like the bad guy. With that being said, don't be afraid to make your womanly presence known. Spray his car seat with your perfume. He won't be able to tell, but when he sits back against the seat, the fragrance will get onto this shirt. And when he's around the other woman, she will smell your fragrance. Call him on the job during his lunch break. Make sure that he keeps your pic in his wallet. Stuff a love note in his jacket pocket, he'll find it when he's hunting around for something. Worse comes to worse, call her and tell her to back off. She is moving in and probably pretty lonely. Don't give him time to think about her drama. Create home drama of your own. I don't mean coddle him, just make him remember that your drama is the stuff he needs to be thinking about. Best of luck. BeautyQueen

In truth, I wouldn't be too concerned about this. If your husband is telling you about it and says they're just friends they probably are. Divorces are hard on people and she may be seeking out friends outside of her old relationships. My advice is to approach the woman (you said she goes to your doctor) and try to make friends. Most likely you'll be able to tell if something is up, but if you get annoyed at either her or your husband you come off looking like more of a jealous b-word (mylot won't let me say that) than a concerned wife which I think is not what you want.

Nope..I wuld have nothing to do with her. In the end, you can trust your husband or not. ALOT of people/ladies want my husband. But he goes to work, comes home to me and I can trust him. He lets me know where he is. I do the same with him out of respect. Your issue is not with this woman. It is with your husband. Ask him nicely NOT to discuss you or your private realtionship you have with him with her. He will respect that or not. Otherwise, if he is in the military, he does have to work wiht her. But if she is sexually inappropriate with him or sexually harrassing him, he needs to report this. She has no right on the job to ask abut his personal marital life or hit on him. And she has no right to STALK you to the doctors office. If she continues, find a different doctor and/or you AND your husband should talk to her commanding officer. But NOT to her. Stay away from her. If you are mature in the way you handle this and follow the chain of command if she is not appropriate, then you will be fine. In the end..you trust your husband or do not. If not..leave. If you do, then he should be by your side to resolve this. If the military does nothing..that is what JAG is for. -Make an appointment and get it taken care of by them.

good day.. Trust your husband until you've proven otherwise. Observe and be alert, don't push your husband away because of jealousy, if he still loves you he'll stick by you and you'll stick by him. Be careful in dealing with this thing specially dealing with a mentally questionable woman on the same office/work with your husband. People tend to believe woman than man, she can make up stories to discredit your husband first when she sensed that your husband is going to take the matter to the higher power. Gather pieces of evidence such as text messages etc that would stand and pove that she's flirting with him before making any administrative actions.

I think if your husband had any plans for cheating, he wouldnt be telling you about her in the first place. Obviously your husband talks about you at work, probably whenever she tries getting close to him. I think you should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. You should be able to trust your husband to handle the situation if it gets to where she is making abvious passes at him. She might just be lonely and looking for a friend and he's willing to listen to her. I hope this works out for you! Hugs, Tianna

Hi fafinette, I am sure this woman is very desperate and eager to find someone who will listen to her and be her good friend...But, this is not also safe especially if your husband will really feel for this girl and we know man sometimes can be soft...ANyway, If I am in your situation, i will talk to my husband and tell him what I felt about the girl and the situation.. DO not meet the girl first,she might be so eager instead to do it...We don't know how depressed she is!

Maybe she does just need someone to talk to. Maybe she just wants to be a friend. If your husband works with her it is really difficult to avoid. Unless there is any real evidence of betrayal, you should just accept the fact that your husband has a female work friend.

She could be crazy, but do you have any reason not to trust your husband? Yes, her behavior is a little strange, but the behavior is coming from the woman, not your husband. Until she really steps over the line, I wouldn't say anything to her. Technically, she hasn't done anything wrong. If she starts to go beyond her current behavior, then you might think about telling her to step off.

Have you discussed this with your husband to get his take on it all? Its possible the woman is just lonely and in serious need of a friend. For instance, I had been working a part time job for awhile and I made friends with one of my male co-workers. I have no "romantic" interest in him at all and certainly hope his wife doesn't think I do. I call him occasionally on his cell phone (now that I can no longer work) and he even calls me as well to chat. I've told his wife hello several times and always ask him how she is doing, what their holiday plans are etc. I don't have alot of friends here myself. I would rely on what your husband says, but I would also take it a step further and make a point of stopping by and meeting her. Tell her your husband mentioned her divorce and see what she says at that point. If she is truely wanting your husband, she won't be friendly to your interest in the situation.

i understand your concern but i would be more worried if she were trying to be friends with just my husband. if she is wanting to be your friend i would take her up on it. like they say keep your friend close and your enemies closer.

No. Dont talk to her, talk to him. Tell him that the way she interacts with him makes you feel uncomfortable and ask him to tell her to back off. Your husband probably isnt cheating, but it does sound like she is trying to steal him. You need to be able to trust him though, no matter what the people around him are trying to do in order to have a healthy relationship.

I would feel the exact same way. But I wouldnt approach her...at least not yet. Right now all she is doing is running her mouth. I think the problem starts when they start hanging out outside of work. Going to dinner, movies, etc. That's typically what friends do. Obviously this woman really isn't looking for just friendship. I can see it. I wouldn't trust her but there is really nothing you can do at the moment. You just have to trust your husband to make the right decisions. When she starts trying to push herself up on him in complete obvious ways then you have the right to tell her to leave your husband alone.

you know what hun you should go with your gut instinct. Believe me i have been there and should have went with my gut. Maybe you should meet her and then have a talk with her. And try to see what her real intentions are. I hope everything works out for you.

I am sure that there are many feelings going thru your mind right now. But until you know this womans intentions you would be making a mistake if she is really just needing Friends due to being in the process of a divorce as well. If she truly would like to meet you, then I say go for it, and give it a shot, and see how things go. At least then you would be able to get more of an idea what she is wanting and if you need be worried. It is best to check things out first than do something stupid that you might end up regretting later.

I would find something fishy going by the details you mentioned. I can say that with certainty because I went through a similar incident. I wouldn't think your husband is cheating on you...but the woman might be trying to get friendly with him so that she can get him. That's what happened in my case. My husband's 'friend' (He claims she was just an acquaintance) would keep calling him and trying to find how our marriage was going. She was going through a hard patch in her marriage and would call up my husband like she would call a friend. And in the end, my husband was the one who had to tell her parents (she 'requested' and I was then mad at my husband for being involved). As a woman, I could intuitively feel what she was trying to do (take my man away from me so that she could have him) but my husband never understood that. I guess men cannot read between the lines in such situations.

just be glad that your husband had told you about this woman...you can once in a while drop at their place of work and find out what really is her intention although in a subtle way..i mean just observing and befriending her and try knowing what really is her intention to your husband in the process..no use of confronting her or same to that effect since you have no evidence whatsoever on this...

It is possible that your husband showed her a picture of you. Now, one thing I have learned is keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer. If you tell your husband to not be so friendly with her, it could cause problems between the two of you, he might stop talking about her completely. Maybe she is looking for a friend and you could be it instead of your husband. Become her friend and set her up with every available male that you know.

Do not say anything to her unless she actually crosses the line and even then you should let your husband handle it. Confronting her will only make you look silly and insecure, and it will embarrass your husband and make a bad situation for him. From what I am hearing (reading) here, it does not sound like she has made any moves on your husband nor has she expressed any affection for him. From what I have read it sounds like this woman is going through a divorce and probably needs someone to talk to. It also seems like she does not really have any friends, and your husband is kind enough to listen to her so she talking to him, because she needs to talk to someone. She may want to become friends with you because your husband has made you sound wonderful and she sees that the two of you may have somehting in common, and she is in need of friends. If she has never said anything negative about you, then this is probably the case. If you are truly suspecting she is after your husband, call her bluff. Invite her to your next cook out or gathering. Be genuinly friendly though and give her the benifit of the doubt. Then watch the interaction between her and your husband yourself. See how she behaves with you. You may find that she has no interest in your husband what so ever other than having him as a nice co-worker to talk to. Then again you may see something that confirms your suspicions, but at least that way you will know. Inviting her to your party will show her that you are not the least bit threatened by her and that your relationship is very secure. This of course only works if you are really nice to her. It will also help her to see that your husband is part of a loving relationship. The old saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer applies here. If the woman steps up to actually blatantly hitting on your husband, or if you see her in action and truly feel she is hitting on your husband, then it is your husband who needs to blow the wistle. Something tells me though that this woman is just really lonely and needs a friend. However, if there is more to it you will be stronger and classier and ultimately more impressive if you play it cool.

It's called intuition and it's real. You should let your husband know that you are uncomfortable with the woman's conversations to him and ask him to discourage her from talking about their personal lives. Point out to him those things that don't make sense. Tell him how you would go about it, if you were trying to get next to a man. Maybe then he will see clearly what she is doing.