what is the difference between mariage and wedding????

@MaeTsuen (257)
Philippines
July 6, 2008 9:35am CST
well one instance i never forgot a "B i t c h" which happens to be my BF ex-girlfriend told me as to why am i referring my BF as my HUSBAND, where in fact we are not yet married. I laugh and i told her well we don't need to have a grand wedding to be married or to become husband and wife... Right? Agree girls? I told that "b i t c h" that in the bible... Joseph and Mary never had a grand wedding nor did it ever mention in any part of the bible that they had a wedding to become husband and wife. She didn't reply. I still had the last laugh and untill now i still enjoy that simple talk trash victory hahahaha. i also told her that wedding is just for formality sake, what i have with my boyfriend is marriage where i have his 100% attention, loyalty, love and trust. well for me wedding is just a ceremony for formality sake even for my fiance, he sees it showing off people you are rich or you can afford to have a grand wedding. Just like Princess Diana and Prince Charles it was a fairytale wedding and she wore the most expensive wedding gown having real diamonds as beads on her gown. Sad to say, for the whole time She never had a marriage with Prince Charles. A marriage for me is when you have his 100% affection, love, loyalty. it shold be 100% if it's not you might be sharing it with someone else.... hmmmm...^_^ I am looking forward to have an elegant yet simple wedding as every girl's dream is to wear a wedding gown and walk in the aisle. Amid that ceremony the most important thing is to have a strong foundation where there is real marriage which surpasses any other grand wedding ever celebrated. I say wedding is important to give validity but marriage is far more important and i am proud to say that even we don't have the blessing yet but we have a marriage.=)
4 responses
• Puerto Rico
6 Jul 08
I guess you are on the right track - but a little off. Just because you and your boyfriend are great together, doesn't mean that you are married. I have been married twice and both times I never had a 'big, grand, wedding'. Marriage is a legal contract. It serves a purpose. When you and your boyfriend decide that you hate each other (figure of speech) then its easy to get out of the relationship. When you are married, it's not that easy. There are many legalities that come along with being married.
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
hehehe it's ok i just got piss when that person told me that. Until now it still gets in my nerves at times but not so much anymore
@Galena (9110)
6 Jul 08
I think you're right. we're getting married next year. I see the wedding as formalising the relationship we have, and swearing an oath to each other and to the Gods that we will maintain this relationship. the relationship we have will not change after the ceremony, so that must mean we already have the marriage. the wedding is the Oath to keep it that way.
• New Zealand
6 Jul 08
For me wedding is just that "ceremony" wherein you exchange your vows in front of the people who matters most to both of you... it is the ceremony of the start of a new life together... but marriage is the "life together" itself... it is the journey you take hand in hand... day by day... is it the life wherein you wake up each morning next to the one you love... the life wherein you learn to compromise and complement each other... I agree when you said that some people have the perfect wedding but not the perfect marriage... and for me the wedding is just the bonus... it is the marriage that would really matter until the day you die... the wedding is easy to perfect... you can even hire someone to make sure all goes as planned... but in a marriage it is different... you can plan about tomorrow but it can't be promised that all will go as planned and that there will be no problems at all... because in a marriage the only way you can make it almost perfect is by truly working together... and you can't hire anyone at all to fix your problems... even your children... because the marriage is not between you and your children or you and other people... because the marriage is just between the two of you...
• Japan
6 Jul 08
Marriage is between man and woman. Wedding is between woman and man. If you have doubt, dear Mae Tsuen, after marriage or wedding you will know both are same. I was like when I was bachelor.