Children of parents of mixed race!

How odd, and rude. Hmmm I guess I never thought of Mexican and white as a mixed race? To me a mixed race is with a white and black person. Guess I never gave it much thought. So maybe that means my grandaughters are a mix since my son is "white" and my daughter in law is asian? I've no clue and truthfully I never much thought about it. People are people to me regardless of their color. Its a shame you've run across people who are so rude, and so often. I mean there are thousands of families out there who adopt children of other countries and races. Do they get comments too I wonder?

I am of mixed race, my mother is spanish and my father is caucasian. I have never had any problems except people getting upset that I don't speak spanish. I have 3 mixed childeren. Their father is black. They don't have any problems in school . I think it depends on where you live. I live in a place where there are a lot of mixed relationships and therefor a lot of mixed babies. I have never felt the prejudice that you are expierencing. I am sorry for you. I never noticed color on a person and for that I am lucky. Just tell you children that not only did they get the beautiful traits of one race but of two races. So that they are twice as beautiful. And to be proud no matter what other people say and do they are thy ignorant ones. I know that is easier then said. Keep up the good work.

People of mixed blood are very common in my society. You see them everywhere in my country. I have friends who are Japan-Singapore mixed, Thailand-Indian mixed, Caucasian(White)-Hong Kong mixed and etc. Ultimately, we should not look at a person by their skin color. We should look at them for who they are. Ignore those people. They are just plain superficial and racists too.

Only kids placed around ignorant adults hear that stuff! Look for classes where you could meet some kinder and more positive people to be around. Like..yoga or something! The kids will be OK! The adults you have around seem mean and ignorant..not positive? Try a different group that's positive and supportive! Kids and adults can be mean! But you don't have to have your kids around them much, if at all. You'll find nicer kids for them soon and it'll be all good!

Color is in the eye of the beholder. And children repeat what they hear the adults in their lives say. My youngest son had never heard any kind of reference to people of another race, when he started pre-k he came into contact with a lot of children of different ethnic backgrounds. One day on way home from school he was telling me about his day, who he sat by, played with, etc. Suddenly he called the name of one little boy and then said 'he's my friend, he's of a darker color' my son was four at this time. Then he asked 'why is he of a darker color?' I was touched by the way he discribed his friend, he was aware of differences between them but didn't have any concept to use cruel tags. But when he asked me why; I was stunned and stumped...then I saw the answer up the road...I saw the sky on the horizon, the trees and all the different shades of green. So I told him the truth as I saw it. God loves color, everywhere you look you see color, so why wouldn't God make that which he loves different colors too. People are the ones who have tunnel vision when it comes to the color of folk's skin. And by us living in Ga there are a lot opportunities for prejudice. I've just impressed it on my kids that they better take care what and who they may be taking a shot at. God created that, and I wouldn't be making fun of any of his creations, you'll have to answer for it one day.

I'm sorry that your children have had to suffer the comments and attitudes of ignorant people who, by the way, are inferior, not superior, to your lovely children. Some areas of this country are more enlightened, more accepting of others for who they are...and more acceptance will come as men and women of different backgrounds continue to fall in love and create families. My best friend's niece, who is white, is married to a black man and they have two beautiful children, a boy who is 4 and a brand new baby girl. I live 1,000 miles away and her phone calls to me regarding this baby have been too funny and a testimony to the complete love and acceptance of this child by her extended family on both sides, as well as their friends and coworkers. These conversations relate to the color of the baby...who at first was pink so her daddy nicknamed her Pinky. But then her skin became the color of gold so he nicknamed her Goldie. Now, at almost three monts of age, she is a lovely cream color but he doesn't want to nickname her Creamy so he's stuck for a new one...and they're all laughing at his dilemma. I truly hope that she and her brother continue to find acceptance and love as they travel through life but their parents have the same concerns for them that you expressed in your post. While there may be more bi-racial children in the Maryland/Washington,D.C. area than in Georgia, there are still ignorant people who's word could hurt these children.

Yes, it is truly Sad there are many people out there that are still like this. In today's society it is becoming such a natural and acceptable thing to see, that I am surprised there are still people who feel this way. Actually to me, Race or Skin color should never count in whether or not a couple should be together or not. For me, it should be about Love. If 2 people really Love each other, than they should be allowed to be together, and no one else should be allowed to interfere. And when they choose to have kids, that should be no one elses Business as well. I still tend to think a lot of it is ignorance, and people just wanting to get involved.

I have four children (16, 15, 10, and 2) with my husband who is black and I'm white and yeah we go through a few changes but I think my kids are more than strong enough to deal with it. They can give it as well as they get it. My husband and I have both dealt with stuff just for being together, aside from the kids and we are stronger for it. I really wish that some people would just take off the idiot hats and learn to be human once in a while. The world is so full of diversity it is a shame to hold yourself back from being part of it.

There is so much ignorance in the world and it is often the children who bear the brunt of it. I have nephews, nieces and grandbabies who are all mixed......white and black. My sister married a black man years ago and she raised her kids in a mostly "black" world, but they didn't seem to have many problems wherever they went. The boys are all very intelligent and the oldest was given 2 full scholarships and went immediately into a 6 figure job. I'm sure they saw their moments of comments, but the city I live in is a mix of many races and I think they were not faced with as much as others might have been. My 4 year old grandson, who is mixed, has realized that he is not "like" his brothers, who are not mixed. He has not had any problems with it, but has mentioned something to his mother about being different. My son in law has tried for several years to get in touch with his daughter after the courts ordered DNA tests for paternity, in another state, but he still was not able to see her or get in contact with her. Just recently the child called him since her "father" is black and the kids at school were telling her that he was NOT her father, so her mother had to tell her about her real father and she wanted to know about him and has just met him for the first time this last week. We are in the BAD habit of calling my mixed grandkids the "brown" ones, which is not a good thing, but as they get older I know that they will not like it. I agree that there is so much ignorance going on and that it is about time that people accepted that it is there and it isn't going to go away. They are people, they are beautiful and they have hearts as big as ever. My sister always taught her son to say that he was loved if anyone asked him what he was!!

To your question:"Who am I?" Instead of telling children, you are white, or you are black, or you are mixed...shouldn't the answer be "YOU ARE HUMAN"??? We as adults teach children what to do and say, and when we tell our kids they are white, black, mixed, the sense of being human comes second. Why does it have to be this way? Being white, black, mixed, is not a race but merely a difference in the skin color. I am a human being and my skin color happens to be a beautiful brownish tan because my mother is a white colored human being and my father is a reddish/brown colored human being. Yes, you guessed it right...he is a mix between Sioux Indian and Black. And most problems colored humans have nowadays stem from not being able to see themselves as humans, but as something categorized by their color. I've had the advantage in my very early years to have parents who taught me to say " I am human" when the question of my race came up. And, viola, people accepted that and either asked if any of my parents had a darker skin color, or they just accepted my answer and kept treating me like they did any other human being. Sorry, but I have yet to experience anything negative because of my skin color. Hasn't happen yet, even so I live in the South. It's all in the attitude toward yourself and others. If one projects the image of being second grade citizen because he/she has a darker or different skin color, it shows in the face and people will treat you by the impression you give them. If you approach people with confidence and show them you are sure of yourself and can handle yourself, you don't have to worry about anything. People will accept you as what you are - a human being.

My opinion is that people should not be so damned insensitive' to children or to adults for that matter. There is nothing wrong in a white person marrying a mexican,nor in having mixed children. we are all brothers and sisters, even though our skins may be different colors. we are people, good or bad, but we are all people,You are so right, you should be proud of your kids and they should be proud of who and what they are.white is not superior, we are all brothers. good luck and god bless.

This is very very annoying to me. I am completely culturally American (ie 'white') but my ethnicity is Korean. This has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I have to state this clearly so my post makes sense. I am adopted and my entire family is dutch and german. People are ALWAYS asking me 'where are you from'. Because I am tired of answering, I usually tell people 'I'm from here, as in California, but I grew up in Washington'. If this doesn't stop them from asking more questions, sometimes I'll just answer the question but I don't understand why people have to be curious in the first place. I don't have an accent, I don't dress funny etc etc. It's honestly none of anybody's business. Onto my lovely little daughter and my step kids, who are all white (well tan) and naturally blond. I've had people assume that I adopted my older kids, not that I'm their step mom. I had somebody ask me if my younger daughter was mixed. To be honest, I looked at the woman squarely and then I asked her 'mixed with what?'. I remember being asked that on one other occasion and I believe I told that person that she wasn't mixed, she was stirred. =) I'm sorry that I have to make jokes but it's easier than having to deal directly with questions of this nature. I tell most people that if you wouldn't ask Jane Smith (the all-american) then you shouldn't ask me either. I very much dislike assumptions that people are any different because they look different than you. If they SOUND or ACT different, perhaps then there would be a reason to ask but just to base it on what somebody looks like? Sad. My daughter has asked me occasionally why somebody is darker or lighter but other than that, no other comparisons have ever come up. I honestly feel that so many people are 'mixed' anyway, it's just that not everybody appears that way. People who open their mouths and insert their feet would be wise to remember that. Most people have ancestors from several different places. That would make them mixed.

good day.. If I'm in your children's situation and they as me "What I am?" I'll tell them I am like you, a person. It's really sad how people can be very superficial, that they would judge you by the color of your skin than of who you really are. Deep down where made of the same stuff, muscles, fats and bones and lastly we all have a heart. What made "white" superior to others? It's just crossed my mind that if they ask, I'll say Mexican-american what's your excuse?

People are people, everone is a jerk to some one at some time or another, its unavoidable.As far as race, we realy dont get to choose what we are going to be do we . I would love to see the world if we did. I try not to be proud of anything, I dont mind other people being proud of me but inturnal pride only causes problems, i think anyway.

I'm a mixed raced woman (Polish and West Indian), raised in a white family (I'm adopted) and have heard it all EVEN from my so called family ...My children are mixed race as well (1/2 Polish, 1/4 Welsh and 1/4 West Indian) and they've heard some nasty things over the yrs too....AND ppl have made some rather rude assumptions as well (like I'm the babysitter)..It use to seriously anger me in the biggest of ways, especially when it came to my kids....and of course it use to upset them when they were younger (upset them in the sense that it would seriously hurt their feeligns and make them feel inadequate etc) but that was then...this is now..Both my kids and myself are very proud of who we are and our heritage and bottomline if ppl dont like it..they can p!ss off LOL I think the only time a child pays for the choice is when the parents or one of the parents/caregivers is the one doing the damage....i know that for me some of the cruelest comments were said right in our home when I was little...some of the strangest and cruels beliefs came from my 'mother' and still do actually...Another form of damage from the parent or caregiver is also NOT raising that child to BE PROUD of their heritage....Other than that though, I dont think the child/children pay the price...no more than they do or would if the parents are divorced or money is tight or whatever thing you can come up with....

How rude.So what if they're not white?That's what I want to tell my friends who want to move in the states.Racism is prevalent in that place(depending on the State I guess).I hate to hear about this.It makes me wanna freak out.

i am sorry for what your kids been through.... and i feel sorry for that rude people too because they dont look at thier selves first before critisizing others... well i am a filipina and my husband is australian... my son never experienced the same as youre kids do... infact he was being admired all the time for having a good look... they used tto say that my son is a perfect combination of me and my hubbys blood... but i do, i do feel the same with your kids i wa being critisized by other people... they got surprised once they know that i am a mother.... they always thought that i am the nanny or the maid...coz my son doesnt look like me... he look like a pure autralian... it hurts sometimes you know, but i think you just have to be strong and learn to deal with it.... coz thats what other people like.... critisize others i salute with your kids... coz they grown up strong and congrats to you... you raise them well..

I am from Ga. born and raised and people from other parts of the country automatically assume when they hear my accent that i am stupid (i am not) and they don't mind commenting on it, so i do understand how ignorance can make you feel. And as far as that being my children, it darn well better not be(i would hate to have to kill them for stupidity) because i wasn't raised that way and neither was my children.I do apologize for the ignorance that your children has had to face, it is not only unfair it is stupid of anyone to be judged on their race. Unfortunately there are a lot of prejudice people in my state and where as most of the time i am proud to be a southerner from GA. this makes ME wonder at our collective intelligence as a State.

I dont think so bc I am white/mexican and I have turned out just fine lol. Now adays who isnt mixed?

I am a forty year old mother with a four year old son. I am married for almost four years. We are all Caucasian. I am not faced with the same adversities that you seemed to struggle with in the past and into present day life. However, I can tell you that there is alot of ignorance and I don't see it stopping any time soon. Children are all precious that are born into the world no matter what ethnicity, religion, etc. It is a shame that a stigma continues amongst the mixing of the races and biracial children. I am not at all prejudiced especially of mixed children. Unfortunately they do seem to pay a higher price growing up in the world. But always remember what Martin Luther King had stated many years ago that it is not the color of one's skin but the content of their character. I believe it was him that stated that. Good luck and your children will be successful no matter what their ethnicity. It is just too bad that in the year 2008 we are still dealing with ignorance of this type.