Could you date a person who has the complete opposite political views?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
July 6, 2008 11:26am CST
For me it would have to depend on how passionate he is about being a Republican.If he passion Is politics, then I couldn't. We would argue about everything except the weather. But if he isn't that passionate and we can agree to disagree, why not?If we had at least two other things in common, it could work. What about you?
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@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
good day... why not as long as we can respect each others point of view then there's going to be no problem about it.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jul 08
" Respecting each others point of views". That is the key to making it work.But that is the main reason it wouldn't work with me. I don't respect the Republican point of view on most things.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
6 Jul 08
Dear friend,
As long as she or that person loves or likes to date with without any uncomfortable to me I hope each persons has their own views and opinions and it might her view to express her part to particular political party. I hope that may not effect our relationship. More than that I would consider other thins like loving reach other and trust we have to go on with a smooth happy relationship. Having their own views is subject the possession of an individuals character. I hope until she loves me and trusts me I do carry on my dating if I get one.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
6 Jul 08
Neither my husband nor myself could ever date a person with the total opposite political views. We are of one mind when it comes to politics, which is nice, since I can legally vote in Canadian elections and he can legally vote in American ones. If we agree, and we always do autmoatically, we each have a say in eachother's elections./
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Aug 08
I don't think it's a problem. At least it's not my problem. Isn't the political issues much more important than love? If it'll lead to serious fight, then just ignore it and don't talk about it. Political issues aren't something I am interested in. It's silly to spoil your relationship because of it.
Sometimes it'll be interesting since we are different from each other. My husband and I have many difference, actually. When we just met, he said Mandarin and I said Cantonese. He said I come from Mars:)
I love China
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Oh wow. Was Cantonese your first language?I am not a political zealot but I can see where far different political views could make the love die. The first that comes to mind is abortion. If one partner is pro choice and the other pro life, it could really damage the relationship.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I agree. Here the politicians lie All the time. It isn't worth it to fight about.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Aug 08
Yes, Cantonese is my first language. So when I met my husband, during our dates. We could understand each other, but it's funny that we spoke differently.
I am not interested in politics. If we can live happily, who cares about it? Sometimes the politicians are full of lies, so why we have to argue for them to spoil our relationship? It's not worth. Marriage can be damaged by affairs, lies, hot temper etc. As to politics, it just doesn't make a sense to me.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I personally think politics and political views have nothing to do with a relationship,unless you are dating a politician or something,if my fiance had the exact opposite political views then me,I honestly would not care,because it is her choice if she chooses to support the democrats or the republicans,and even though I have always supported the republicans,now I really do not care about either side.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Since you are not into either party really, it shouldn't be a problem.But I could see where one person is hardcore,really passionate about the opposite party could be a problem.For me, there are a few points that define my point of view of life. So unless he is a moderate republican or agrees to disagree, we would wind up fighting daily.
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
9 Jul 08
Yeah that is true since I am sorta of neutral it will not cause any problems,but yeah if one person is hardcore about their,it could end up causing a problem, which could lead to fights,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
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@wagster41 (210)
• United States
28 Sep 08
well im a republican, and ive seen my democrat female friends i know have been more emotionable that i get. but they are still friens of mine and we seem to get along just fine as long as we dont get into the politics talk.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Sep 08
As long as you have more things in common. Would you date a democrat?
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@wagster41 (210)
• United States
28 Sep 08
of course i will, i sure wont let our political differences get in the way of my life. the daggone politicians now, both sides, do enough damage to my life lol. i dont need that in my lovelife too,
yes yes yes lol
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@tentwo67 (3382)
• United States
28 Jul 08
First, I am glad that I am no longer dating! But I remember when I was, and I think you raise an interesting question.
I do not believe in restricting a person based on their politics. I have friends who are Republican, one who even has a signed photo of "W" in her home, and though I strongly disagree with their politics, I am still able to be friendly with them and just avoid political topics of conversation.
My husband's political views are not diametrically opposite of mine, but not identical either, and we get along just fine. I wonder, though, with extreme political differences if not the label of Republican or Democrat would spell the end of the relationship but the inherent differences between the two philosophies would mess things up without labeling anything. I mean, with these friends of mine I am able to just avoid those kinds of conversations. In an intimate relationship I think that too much would have to be excluded to be truly intimate. I'm sure that there are couples who have made it, but I suspect that one or both of them strictly labeled themselves as one party or the other and didn't really feel that strongly about it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Jul 08
There would be so many things that we couldn't agree on that we either would just be friends with benefits or have to completely break. I believe that you have to agree on the main issues and your viewpoint is defined by your political party. so the relationship could be doomed unless there is a lot of communication and deep understanding.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 Jul 08
well since I am a liberal I could not marry a many that is a different view we as you say would argue about every thing, and the you are supposed to be marrying a person that is your soul mate or as close to it as you can get.
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@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 08
I think so. Opposites; differences can attract. It is not uncommon for people to be irresistibly drawn to people they would never have dreamed they could ever fall for. Challenging though; especially when the initial honeymoon period wears off.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
8 Jul 08
If they are against the programs that sustain my life, obviously not. I wouldn't like to either because I need politics in the way some people need air; it's one of my big passions. They could be a republican in name only, but if they were vocal about their beliefs I couldn't date them and I also wouldn't like to date anybody who wasn't strong and vocal in their beliefs either, so we wouldn't get along in any case.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
28 Sep 08
Yes I can date another person who belongs to a complete political party. Since I am hot headed about local politics I would ask her not to discuss politics at home. We are never going to agree and no one is going to "convert" the other party. So it's best to leave the political issues out of the house.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Sep 08
With that rule, it could work. It sounds what I would do if I had the bad luck to fall for either a Yankees fan or a Cowboy fan.We couldn't discuss that sport and I would make sure we had two t.v.s so we could see the games separately.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
6 Jul 08
What a great question! I'm not really sure how it would work for me if I hadn't married young and met someone who was a die-hard conservative. I think if two people had opposite political views but politics wasn't a major thing in their life for either of them, it probably could work unless or until something came up in their life that would make it an issue. For me, I met my husband when I was just 16 and he'd just turned 17. I come from a politically engaged family and he did not, although our family backgrounds were similar and his family was for the most part all Democrats, they just didn't eat, drink and sleep it like mine did. We were both still too young to vote when we got married but as soon as the age got lowered my dad went and got us both voter registration cards to sign. After 38 years of marriage I'm still the political junkie in the family but my husband and the rest of his side of the family have gotten more engaged through the years and we all agree on the biggest issues.
One couple that absolutely amazes me is James Carville and Mary Matalin. They've been married for years now and it seems like they have a great marriage yet they both earn their livings from being political advisers, him for the Democrats and her for the Republicans and they seem to be on the opposite side of every issue.
Annie
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jul 08
They must have a "no politics at home" policy at home.I can see it working if you agree not to agree.Otherwise it would be WWIII.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I guess it could work if there was some common ground, like a hobby you both like doing.
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