Finding love through the internet?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
July 6, 2008 3:44pm CST
I don't mean to offend anyone who has successfully found love through the internet, but I wonder... Do you feel awkward explaining to people, such as your parents or friends how you met? Do you think it would be strange to explain to your children someday how you met their other parent?
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@littleone3 (2063)
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6 Jul 08
I found love through the internet and no i did not feel at all awkward telling my friends or my family.
My eldest four children already knew how we met as i was a single parent of four at the time.
As for my parents i told them that i was chatting to someone on the internet and that he asked me out. And that i was going to scotland with the children to see him.
My friends apart from one (but thats another story)where all really happy for me. They said that me and my partner were just meant to be together.
I will have no problem telling my youngest when he is older about how me and his dad met.
@littleone3 (2063)
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6 Jul 08
Forgot to add i was so happy and in love i just wanted to tell the world. Also when we tell people how we met they usually ask for the full story.
@littleone3 (2063)
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6 Jul 08
He moved down to England, which is where my home town is, to be with us. We have been together just short of three and a half years.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I am happy that you found love. Now you say you had to go to Scotland to meet him... do you live there with him now or has he moved to your hometown to be with you? How long have you been together?
@GreenMoo (11834)
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6 Jul 08
If I had met my partner via the internet, then I think i would feel a little embarrassed about telling people where I met them as people are so prejudiced against meeting people that way. People have preconceived ideas of what meeting people on the net is like.
If I met and liked someone like that on the net I'd want to meet up with them in real life pretty quickly. I couldn't fall in love with someone I'd never met I don't think, although web cams and the like do make it easier these days.
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@GreenMoo (11834)
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6 Jul 08
I don't think I could actually. I know that sounds shallow, and it's not because of how they look it's because any conversation on the net or by phone just isn't 'real' in the same way as face to face is.
I've never tried it though, so perhaps if I met the right person online my views would change!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Yeah, I guess you just have to try it to know, and that won't happen because you're commited.
So I guess you feel the same way about friendships over the internet?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Well, if you think about it, you don't fall in love with the person's looks, just their personality, which you can get a pretty good idea of if you speak to them through the internet frequently, so perhaps you could fall in love before meeting for the first time?
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 08
I have successfully found love, and am in very much so with him. He is my angel and my everything. We've been together a long time and when people ask us, we tell them how we met straight.
I'm actually quite proud i met him in an unusual way (i guess i see it as unusual). Obviously i didn't know if i could trust him but we met in a safe secure place.
I enjoy explaining how we met, it brings back happy memories of our first few days together... so... no, "i" dont feel awkward :)
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Congratulations to you. I hope you have many happy years to come.
@graceandowen (1637)
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6 Jul 08
have never met a partner thru the internet and dont hink i could do something like that, i would not know if i could trust the person etc
there are many people out there who have found love on the net and to them i suppose its just another resource to meeting new people
but i would be very sceptical about relationships over the net as there are so many horror stories out there.
@littlerayray77 (254)
• United States
6 Jul 08
But then there's all the horror stories of meeting people in person too. More commonly on the internet but still. Meeting someone for the first time your always complete strangers no matter where you meet. So you take a gamble getting into any new relationship not knowing a person. I suppose that's what dating is for but even then that could still be dangerous because that doesn't stop people from hiding their true intentions!
So more power to the people who find love on the net I suppose.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I have made friends on the internet that I have met in person, and I suppose it's really no different. The first few friends I met in person, we chose a public spot, such as the mall. There was a time a friend I'd known only through the net was invited to my house, but I'd been speaking to them for 2 years on the internet prior to that point. Another friend who I'd known over a year, I drove by myself for 4 hours to stay with her for a weekend. She has since become my best friend and we've both been to visit each other many times. I still speak with her over the internet daily.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
7 Jul 08
I wouldn't feel awkward explaining to people if I met my husband on the Internet. Actually, I met my husband on the train. We didn't know each other though our hometowns are close. We met on the train to the capital and the train was delayed and we happened to sit next to each other and we fell in love (To be exact, I fell in love with him while he just thought I was different from the girls he used to meet.). I don't feel awkward explaining to others how we met each other and I even am proud of it because we have a different way of meeting each other. This way shows that love comes anytime even when you don't notice. And this way also persuades some of my friends that there is true love in the world and they needn't be pessimistic about love affairs.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Yes it is true. Love finds you when you least expect it.
@Lavender_Breeze (373)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I met my husband online. I have no problem with telling people how we met. In fact, most people find it fascinating and want to know the details. It was unplanned and took us both quite by surprise. We've been married for a year and a half now.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Congratulations on your happy marriage and best of luck in years to come.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I met my husband online. It was weird when we were younger and it wasn't as common, especially for my age. But, our parents and friends already knew about it and we're not having kids and I really don't care what other people think, so it's not that big of a deal to me. I'm just glad I found him. I would have never met him otherwise.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I did meet my s/o through the internet, and when he flew down to meet me, and spend a week with me he also met my daughters, and my parents. My mom and dad never really asked how we met, but I'm sure my sister told them lol My daughters didn't have a problem with it either. When he told his mom and dad about flying down to meet me, they thought it was great. The only one we didn't explain the 'whole' meeting thing to was his daughter, she was 10 at the time. However, she did know that I lived in another state, and I even chatted with her from time to time before moving to where he lived. We eased into it with her as far as my moving in went because of her age. I was just coming for vacation, and needed a place to stay......after the first weekend we spent with his daughter with us, she asked how long I was staying, I told her I wasn't sure, and she told me she wanted me to stay forever.....that's when we knew she was okay with it. But, I never felt awkward about telling anyone thats how we met, most people think it's cool that we met online and we've been together over 3 years.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Congrats to you, and best of luck in the coming years.
@thinkbest (209)
• Indonesia
7 Jul 08
Yes, some people found their husband or wife through internet. A new example has just been experienced my my co-worker. She is 22 years old. Next month she is about to marry someone she met through chatting on the internet. I was wondering to hearing that, but it is a fact.
@iluvmyjames (84)
• United States
7 Jul 08
since datung online now is rampant, i guess there is no shocking moments when those couple who statrted meeting online, its all over the world, white, black, asian and any race joined the site, so means those people who joined dont have any negative views about falling in love thru internet.
im one of the product and i would like to tell everybody here that i am happy, contented and complete when we found each other, thru internet. we been 3 yrs now and we both still happy together. i wont be ashame to tell my kids how mommy and daddy met, but i will always love to tell them our love story.
the point here is, wherever u find someone in this world u could never really tell how the relationship will go and will end, look lots get devorce after getting married for atleast a yr and so, but try to look for a couples who is a product of LONG DISTANCE RAELATIONSHIP and compare who stay long to each other, u will be suprize since they more stick togther than others.
@iluvmyjames (84)
• United States
7 Jul 08
addtional. We are very much in love and happy now, the most important thing we need. what if we didnt met online? and what if im not w/him and his not w/me? would we both think we will feel this way. so now we never regret having each other thru internet line. it will just always depend on both person, not where u met him/her. relationship will always be in your hands, not on how and where u met.
@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Well, I don't have that problem but if I did, no I would not feel awkward. The internet is getting bigger and bigger and allowing people from around the world to meet and get to know each other in ways they never could have done before computers. I think that the internet has helped a lot of people find true love. They say there is someone out there for everyone and out of over 6 billion people, that is true. But, before I met my fiance, which was initially through the web, I didn't believe taht saying. Now I do and I think people just need to expand their horizons to find the one for them. They may not be in the same city, or even state, or even country, but they are out there and my generations children will most likely rely even more heavily on the net than we do now.
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@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
6 Jul 08
My husband and I i meet on myspace.. Yeah the first time that i meet is mother i felt so weird tell telling his family when they asked where did we meet... We got married 5 months after meeting... I think us meeting on the Internet had is fathers family weirded out about the whole situations... When we told them that we were getting married after five months his father was like make sure that she has a job and make sure she has a car and if she doesn't make sure she get s a job and puts the car loan in her name so if we divorce i will have to continue to pay for it on my own which i don't have a problem with it at all... I think they thought that we would divorce in a year which we both don't believe in divorce so I'm pretty much stuck with him for the rest of my life but yes it was very weird the first time that someone asked us where did we meet... What was more uncomfortable was when his friends asked me where did we meet.. I was so weird that i was telling Doug that we need to make up another story on how we meet...
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I am guessing from some of your other discussions you're still pretty much a newlywed.
How long did you talk on the net before meeting in person? Did you marry within 5 months of meeting on the net or within 5 months of meeting in person?
I think that would be pretty awkward, not just because you met on the net, but because you married so quickly as well. I hope everything works out for you.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Well I hope things continue to go well for you. You've not even known each other a year, so I think that's pretty quick to jump into things.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
6 Jul 08
WE meet a week after meeting on the internet, 5months from us meet in the internet... Yeah that could have something to do with it... I think we believe spending 6 years getting to know each other so we just ended up getting married. Yes we ae newlyweds... we have been married for 3 months.. Things are going great...
@littlerayray77 (254)
• United States
6 Jul 08
How could it be unusual? I've been writing and rewriting how weird I think it is but then I can't seem to really grasp how it's any different from meeting someone at a bar, a club, the store or a restaurant.
I mean think about it, if you met someone on the internet you don't get engaged or married right away. What do they do? That go on dates just like any normal couple. Yeah sure finding love on the net is more risky than going out to do it, more predators as much but even then think about all the people that find love out of the net that still get into abusive or dangerous relationships/situations etc.
So no I guess it's really not that weird. And this day and age is becoming more and more popular to do. I have a friend that has gone on few dates meeting girls from Myspace.
But on the other hand, I did know a lady once that met a guy on a dating site and they were apparently engage seriously within the next day. I thought that was EXTREMELY weird and unusual. I couldn't imagine telling people that with out feeling awkward.
My wife and I met at school. We talked about marriage with in the first week of dating, but we weren't married until 2 years later. But i told her, I don't get into relationships unless there is hope for a future. I asked he if she could see herself married to me. She said she could and I could see myself married to her so being in that relationship proved to be worth it.
So yeah I suppose it's really all a matter of opinion, and I think you've caused me to change my opinion of net dating, it really isn't that weird! :P
@littlerayray77 (254)
• United States
6 Jul 08
My wife pointed out that maybe you mean by dating online. I don't consider that dating if they're talking on-line with each other. That's not a relationship. There is no relationship if your not physically meeting in person and going on dates like that. That is also what I was trying to say.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I never said it was weird. I have made very good friends on the internet, but I've never had a romantic relationship on the net... unless you count when I IM my husband... but we originally met while working together. Some people have done it, and if it works out for them, then great. I just wonder how do you feel trying to explain that to others. Like you can tell your children that you met their mother at school. I can tell my children I met their father at work. If you met on the net... does it feel awkward to tell your children you met there?
@littlerayray77 (254)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Well then I suppose do you ever feel weird telling people people you've met your friends online? It's really no different, it's still a relationship but it's a friendship relationship. You can still meet people with bad intentions even with friendship.
Obviously to some extent to you it must be weird because if it wasn't then why would you think that it must be awkward to tell people where they met?
@munkysam07 (31)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I am sure that it is possible to find love online. I know a girl who is engaged to a guy she met on myspace. I believe that it does not really matter how you find your soulmate, as long as you find them.
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I did meet someone through the internet but I knew that we wouldn't be having children, but that is an interesting question. I think that in this day and age there would be little surprise unless the children were sheltered, since even the children are online. I don't think it would be strange at all since it has become so popular. I do think that my parents might not have understood, but I met both of my husbands through correspondence and one came from the other side of the continent and from Canada........I am in the US. (I did not meet my ex's from the internet but by snail mail.)
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Well there's an intereting twist, and probably is about the same as meeting someone on the internet. Thanks for your views.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Actually I don't find it the least bit odd. I found my current partner that way. My son found his wife that way so I guess he may have to explain it to his daughters some day. The world has changed, dating has changed. And to me it certainly isn't as weird as an arranged marriage or a mail order bride.
@geaa24 (23)
• Turkey
7 Jul 08
Well, i have heard a real event about finding love through internet..A women who is very shapeless finds a very very beautiful picture of someone else and put it as her avatar..She meets a man who is an academician and has an authority in a great university and they begin to date. Whenever the man wanna to meet her face to face, she always finds an excuse such as she is ill..She always wants monet from the man and the man sends:)) An astronomical amountt!!Then the man finds that she is not reall.So, finding someone through internet is sometimes very very riskyy
@littlepinoy (600)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
It's not awkward for me to tell my parents how I met someone online. It's just that, it's hard to explain. Why? Because I have to explain it without saying the modern jargons such as "internet" "networking" "websites" and "forums/chatroom".
Once I mention those words, their conventional mind would ask "What is that, son?"
Then I will have to explain in the most basic ways what internet is, or networking or websites or forums and chatrooms. That would be another long explanation.
I guess in the future, it would be easy to tell the kids because they grew up in the world of Internet.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 Jul 08
My mom was actually the one who got me hooked on the internet. She used to be in a chatroom all the time, and ended up giving me her old computer and I got on that chat room as well. She made most of her friends on the internet and I actually drove her 5 hours to meet some of them.
Now my husband's parents are more like yours. My husband gave his father a digital camera, and after hours of reading the instructions he asked my husband "where does the film go?" LMAO
@pukaprat2 (442)
• United States
7 Jul 08
i met my husband online- we chatted for a few months online then moved to talking on the phone. then i moved from california to georgia. got married. and have a kid.
but during that time, his parents thought that i had met him through his buddies at work. my parents thought i had met him in california. it wasn't until well after we were married that things started to slip on how we actually met.
but by that time, no one could say anything because well, we were married.
although it sound glamourous now, at the time it wasn't.
i lived in a motel with him. his parents just thought that he was camping alot or over at a friends house. a month after i moved to georgia, we got a house. four months after i moved to ga, we got married. there are just some things that were ment to be. and i know that we were ment to be.
i mean really who gets married after only knowing someone for 6 months or so?
ooohhh I do I do.. haha.
so it can be done, - but to answer your question about children and this-
their generation will most likely be doing the same thing if not, doing it becasue that is the way it is for them. we wont know until we get there but i am not worried. his parents love me, as i love them - and vise versa for my parents and my husband. like i said somethings are just ment to be.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Yes it is true, our children will be more excepting of it than we are because they will have grown up during the age of the internet, where as we know a time when we used to have "pen pals".