Help I'm in a backward relationship

well have you asked her why she don't want to get married? me...I really wanna marry my boyfriend of 2 yrs. But I know for a fact that were not yet ready...financially. I wanna get married cause I want to keep our relationship sacred and official. so, i can't wait for that.

What are your reasons for wanting to be married?? Maybe she just doesn't feel its necessary and is perfectly happy as things are. You've said you have a great relationship and that you trust her completely so why change anything? Hope you have many more happy years together.

I think may be she has some reservation about marriage. its really sad thing to see. but still we can't help it. it is sad. try to talk to her and talk about what might be her reservations.

What are her reasons for not wanting to get married? If she doesn't really have any major reasons, maybe you could sit down with her and tell her why you want to get married and how much it would mean to you.

You have been together for a long time. So I don't see anything happening to split you up. Is this is what you are thinking of in wanting to get married. Remember that getting married doesn't assure a person that they will be together always. One of the things I would do is ask her why she doesn't want to get married. Ask in a time when both of you have time to discuss and not be interrupted. You two need to sit down and discuss. Even if you can not think of one she may have a legit reason for not wanting to get married. The biggest thing is to respect what she has to say. And another thing is in some states there is what is known as common law marriage which is after a number of years you are married under the law. I don't think all states have this but I do know that there are some states that this is true. I got to thinking about it and went to the search engine and this is a link to what I found. It is informative and may help ease your mind. http://www.nolo.com/article.cfm/pg/2/objectId/709FAEE4-ABEA-4E17-BA34836388313A3C/catId/3C3AF4CE-DB9E-48C4-8DFCFE2E47C91747/118/304/145/FAQ/

the cousin of my wife does not believe in marriage too. they have 5 children already and the guy wanted to get married but the girl does not want to. she said that their relationship is okay. she finds other relationship that when they get married it gets more complicated. there are people who believes in marriages and there are people who dont. some people say that marriage is just a piece of paper. but for my wife she would love to be called my wife rather than just my girlfriend. we are married for 5 years now and turning six on august. welcome to mylot zion happy posting

I am not in this situation so it seems kind of strange but I do know of people who are living together and are not married. They dont have any kids though. You should ask her why she does not want to get married. It might be she does not want to change last names.

hmmmm... I don't know the explanation to that as well but did you try to discuss this with her? And if you did, did she give you an explanation to why she doesn't want to get married? Here in our country when we get pregnant we want to have the guy marry us so the child would have the name under the father to make it legitimate. I got pregnant at an early age of 19 and got married right then.. We now have 5 kids and been together for 16 years. Maybe your wife doesn't want to change her family name or her kids family name..Do you think that's it? If I were her I would accept your marriage proposal. Or maybe you just have to make the proposal romantic..What do you think? I would never say no to a romantic proposal.

I know people like this, and the reason they are like this is because of coming from homes where divorce was common, they think they will do better if they don't get married, it is hard to reason with them, also I know some others who also don't believe in marriage and the reason why is because they think that it will cost them to much to get divorced if things don't work out, and it is very hard to reason with them to. I think it is better to get married, but it can be very hard to convince someone who is really afraid to get married.