Silly Question...

Hi there Julie, Your discussion comments certainly made me smile and hopefully I can use this one day when my son asks me something similar. I think you came up with a great answer. My question would be where did she hear that and under what context? could be worth investigating for peace of mind. I actually don't know what I would have said under the circumstances, but I know that I am going to have some moments like that in the future with my boy! You could have suggested that maybe she heard it wrong and they were saying something like Party or some other word. I think you escaped nicely though. Tim

it is like entering a public toilet when you have to pay first before you can put down your panties and pee..hehehe^_^

It all depends on child. If she is growing up with all information delivered at the right time and very gentle way, than it is OK to tell the true. Some kids still can be shocked and they may not understand the real meaning. I would make part of the true at comfortable level.

Wow that was really hard to answer a nine year old daughter. I may find it hard too finding for an answer to that but for me I would just say that is not a good term to remember and would remind her that if anyone would ask her to do it never do it for him. I think it is just to make her aware about it. But I do not know if you would be comfortable saying it but for me I might as well take that opportunity as an education that she needed to arm her for her welfare.

I would definitely not do so! Haha. But maybe I will add some learning points into it. For example, financial prudency. "Money down before panty down means that if you do not save up your money, one day if your money is gone, you will have to go without panty and that is very shameful. So child, you must save money okay?" This way you drive an important message to her too

Wow.. I'd have to agree with the rest of out friends. It may really sound ridiculous to us but it was very well said. I'd just have to say, that was really sweet. For me, the answer you gave shows how well you really know your daughter. I can honestly see your good intentions. Giving an answer such as that was at her level of understanding. It's simple but creative and constructive. I couldn't have had a better answer at that situation. Take care Julie! Happy posting!

depending on how she can grasp on it..but since shes already nine years old then i guess i had to give her the correct answer or interpretation on that phrases..

well thats terrific cause children ask some naughty questions attimes. immagine a child been given an assignment in school that how is baby formed. when the child reached home then he ask his mum "mummy how is baby formed" the mum was shocked and she was short of words then she told him to ask his dad. his dad also did the same thing he was confused on what to say he then ask the child to meet his mum again. they can not tell him such thing cause he is too small. if i was the one i will do the same i will not tell that child such thing.

if we go down deeper of what you suppose to answer her, it might sound so wrong to tell her that. that question is so mature, and it's not yet the right time to explain to her these things. but im glad you came up with that kind of answer while your daughter was waiting for a serious response. what you told her is right too. you cant have or you cant buy a panty if you do not pay first, like what we do in department stores. you know what, your daughter is so curious about things and expect her to ask some more questions while she grows up. if im the one asked by a little girl, i would answer the same. happy posting!

hi julie. i think you handled the situation very well. your daughter is too young to know things such as that. anyway, if i was in your shoes, i'll definitely make up an answer. of course, i'd also ask my child where she heard that question or how she found out about it. i'm not someon who would make a big deal of it but i'd be keeping an eye on the activites that my child is doing because i'd like to know where she picked that up and consequently make sure that she wouldn't be exposed to somethign similar at such a young age.

Hello juliefaye, What t.v. programme was she watching anyway to ask a question? it don't sound like any children show. Tamarafireheart

Hahaha! I like the way you answered your daughter. "Money first before I give you the panty you wanna buy." Hahahaha. Cool. I couldn't think of a more safe answer though. In our country, it's common to say "money down!" when purchasing any items in the store.

Before i'd answer a question like that id find out where my daughter heard that. I feel its completely neccessary to be brutally honest to your children when it comes to them asking you questions about life. Lying wont get you anything but an uneducated child. If your child cannot handle the truth, then she isnt mature enough to be asking the question. This day and age its like a bit of protection when your child knows certian things, it may become useful when there comes a time in her life knowing the answer to these questions will be better for her because she knew the answer, she can avoid being pulled into something because she was niave and had no idea what the hell that person was talking about...making any sense?

i would say in ancient times the greeks had a system of renting panties. but shortly after this system was used there was an extreamly large amount of people who would take the panties and leave without paying. so they made a law that you must put the money down (on the desk) first before they put the panties down. but i wouldn't explain it w/ all the big words and no i wouldn't explain the true meaning, cuz do u know how many diffrent topics you would have to explain so they could fully understand. you'd have explain hookers, why people like touching no-no parts. and alot of other stuff around that area. and plus it be a lil inapropriate for the kid

Wao! that would have topidoed my Pc,! That explains why I supervise the watching of the TV by my kids myself all the time! Dont let them watch eerything, there should some no go programs!

Very frankly speaking, I do not know the meaning of it myself.. you may laugh at me. its raelly something what you shoyuld explain if the child say so. its sitaution which is weird.

I could have not answer it better than you do. I will probably do the same thing that you did. At her age even if I tell her the true meaning of it I think she will not easily understand it and this will just lead to a series of questions and a lot harder situation for me. It just shows how influential are the media to our children, television shows, movies, etc. And I realized also how big is our responsibility to our children to guide them whenever they are watching these shows.

9 years old? hmmm...I doubt it..I may be love too but I am sure I will look for another way to explain it to her like that you did..Later, she will understand the real meaning of that or when you are ready, you can share to her also!

Oh, I don't have a daughter Juliefaye. I am still single. But If I have one, I probably ask her first where did she heard this? Then I will just make some story out of it. Like Kaezy_kulet said...It's like "getting what you want you have to pay first" Like, buying some candies you have to have pennies. Kids are really smart now and very advance, all we have to do is guide them through so their minds will not be exploit.

I know exactly what ive said ... Id have said 'Hmmm... Go ask mom'