How often and why you fight with your love?
By Kevin
@excellence7 (3655)
Mauritius
July 7, 2008 1:36am CST
I often fight with my love. But when I fight I realise that she is very precious for me. And when she cries, I feel so guilty and express my love to the fullest for her. One reason why I fight with her is that in the very past she once had an infatuation for someone- it was before knowing me. Everytime I make him remind all this and I start a fight. I know I am very unfair because it was only an infatuation which is something common for almost everyone. But I don't know why I keep fighting over petty things. I am her first and true love. She loves me a lot and so do I.
Do you think I do right by evoking the past each time and try to seek a fight?
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8 responses
@andyel2023 (218)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
no...because past is definitely past...you can't go on with a good relationship if you keep on sticking with her past...accept her...because as you have said , you love her...so forgive and forget...i am like you before..but now i really changed..because i don't want to lose the one i love...all of us have pasts and it's better to accept it than always keep hanging with it
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@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
I totally agree with you and I will surely forget the past because my partner is pure like water and good like goodness itself. I trust her because I have known her since childhood.It's only that infatuation she had in her past which makes me feel sad..is it something common for all girls?
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
7 Jul 08
Evoking the past will only make you both unhappy, excellence. It's best to understand you start each new day on a clean page. If you love eachother NOW, that's the only important thing - and you have to let go of the past in order to move on. I fight with my husband because he's a grumpy guts. He's going to retire soon, but he's making my life a misery because he hates his job!
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
Thanks for your precious idea guybrush...but is infatuation something common- all girls go through this in life?
@sassygirlanne007 (4517)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I am very glad to say that me and my boyfriend so far have not had a fight. Me and him are both so much in love that we avoid fighting all together.
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
I wish you and your boyfriend a happy life ahead. Keep smiling both of you.
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
7 Jul 08
The past is called the past because it is something happened before and is now over. Why do you keep bringing it up? Leave it where it belongs........in the past! You are only causing damage to your relationship by continuing to bring it up. Leave it alone and if you love the one your with now, then show it and appreciate her.
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
Thanks a lot friends...you are all building a new change in me. Your messages have brings much confidence and understanding in me. I have even called my love and I have burst into tears while expressing my immense love for her.
You are all really good friends here :) May our friendship continues like this.
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
Thanks dear..I will henceforth forget the past- I will try..I will focus on the present which will make our future. :)
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
You are absolutely right dear...a conversation can be held when there is respect and dignity...it's at that moment itself that understanding takes place..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 08
excellence please trust your love to love you back and dont
fight with her over the past.she is with you now so be glad
and be fair to her.instead of picking a fight with her start telling her how much you love and like her, thats a much better way to do. be confident that you are her love and believe it.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
I think you should put the past behind you and start cherishing the present with your girlfriend. I admit that my girlfriend and I have petty quarrels and I think it's healthy in a relationship because you get to know more of your partner.
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
7 Jul 08
I really like your way of thinking, that is fights help us to better understand each other. I will try to put apart all past and live a wonderful life of love with her. She really loves me a lot and so do I. Thanks for your advice.
