How persuasive are you.
By ketybhagat
@ketybhagat (4123)
India
July 7, 2008 8:19am CST
To be really persuasive, you need the gift of the gab. It is very difficult to persuade a person to think on your line of thinking, so you must be very glib with the tongue. Attitude also counts in this. A lot of self confidence goes into it. I am not very persuasive, though I get my ways sometimes with reasoning. How about you ??
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@vinaykiran28 (5149)
• India
7 Jul 08
I am a bit persuasive. I persuade people very easily but i dont have consistancy in this. Some times i do fail to persuade people. Well you need to have lot of patience and mind reading skills as well. What do you say?
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
8 Jul 08
Actually if you can persuade people even 5 times out of 10, then you are one of those gifted people. Patience, mind reading and logical explanations always are the right tools. Good for you. You will go a long way in life.
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@vinaykiran28 (5149)
• India
8 Jul 08
Thanks for your compliment. It also depends on whom you are persuading. If you try tp persuade elders, that is people about 70 years, you have real hell of a time. What do you say?
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
7 Jul 08
The gift needed to be truly persuasive is logic and a logical listener. And a semi-sane discusssion. Anything else ...
I've had conversations with people who had "the give of the gab" and, at the end of the day, I was:
1.) overwhelmed and worn out by their verbal diarrhea (sorry, spelling is wrong)
2.) just wanting to get away from these people
3.) never wanting to repeat that experience ever again.
Even if, in the first stages of a discussion with a "gab gifted", I have been enthralled by what was being said, when I then had time to myself, if what had been presented was flawed, incorrect, or just down right illogical, I dismissed it all as ... nonsense.
So ... persuasion by gift of gab? Not happening.
Give me logic. Give me reasoning. Works for me.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
8 Jul 08
You have made me laugh at your reply. I suppose you have had an overdose of persuasive people. You can always let your mind wander elsewhere and keep a smile pasted on your face when things get out of hand. To have a logical explanation is one thing, to have a logical listner is another. When both meet, sparks fly. Actuall it means, you have a firm head over your shoulders and cant be sweet talked. Good for you.
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
8 Jul 08
Actually, it means it took me a loooonnnnggtime to figure out why I was left feeling uncomfortable after I left a conversation or meeting with a "gabster". As I am a slow learner, it usually took me days to finally figure out it was because whatever was being said or done was not sitting well with me.
Eventually, I did learn. And my "figure-it-out-time" is down to minutes now. And this is usually because ... I'm still a slow learner. I'd like to get it "right away" when something feels off. But I'll get there ... eventually.
Maybe.
Maybe.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
hi kethy! 
i am not that persuasive. i don't have a good PR. that is why i don't even dream of going into the sales business. i wouldn't be able to sell one product. well of course except to my mother. ^__^;; i don't have the needed salestalk to convince a customer. i don't have the confidence. but when it comes to friends, i think i can get them into my line of thinking. they are my friends after all. and besides, they are my friends because we think alike. but to other people, i am not persuasive enough to get them into my line of thinking. and i don't like wasting effort to people who are hard to convince. i don't really care that much as to what they think. 
i am not that persuasive. i don't have a good PR. that is why i don't even dream of going into the sales business. i wouldn't be able to sell one product. well of course except to my mother. ^__^;; i don't have the needed salestalk to convince a customer. i don't have the confidence. but when it comes to friends, i think i can get them into my line of thinking. they are my friends after all. and besides, they are my friends because we think alike. but to other people, i am not persuasive enough to get them into my line of thinking. and i don't like wasting effort to people who are hard to convince. i don't really care that much as to what they think. @ketybhagat (4123)
• India
26 Aug 08
I feel that friends are the most outspoken and can oppose you no end. Thats because of the level of comfort one has with friends. So, if you can persuade your friends, then you can persuade anybody. Its just your lack of confidence in yourself. Im sure you can persuade anybody if you so determine. Good luck. You can always try it out sometimes for the fun of it.
