I think my marriage is over, what do i do?

It's really hard to back out when your married already even to fall out of love is not that easy and hard to let it go easy. Why not think of it a thousand times first.Talk it out with him before it's to late try to talk about his sugestion and opinion for the sake of your son. The only thing I could say is go and talk to God to give you more strength and patience.Give everything to the Lord. God will make a way for you. God bless!

First I would try talking to your spouse rather than someone on the outside. Find the root of your depression and try to deal with that part also. Its easy for people to be listeners or talkers and they could end up being a totally different person once the comittment is taken to another level. If you put the same effort in your relationship with your spouse as you are with the other person that alone may cause some positive change. If your husband is still in love with you is an indicator that he still wants the relationship. You owe yourself the opportunity to make it work. What are you so unhappy about? This is probally where you should start.

I don't know what to say. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I only got divorced about two years ago and it is sad to hear about how people lose interest in their marriage. For me, I had a wife who suffered from borderline personality disorder. I think I finally had enough after two-years of violence. Your case seems harder to deal with. A case of just not being interested in being with the family. What can you do? Well, I think what you and your husband do need, seems to be a time-out from the marriage. If both of you spend a bit of time apart, things will hopefully be able to clear up for the both of you. I think you should be able to look at things from a more rational perspective once you have a bit of time apart. You can expect either one or the other to happen. Firstly, and I hope this happens, you and your husband find the magic that got you guys together in the first place. Sometimes, couples get too familiar with each other and a bit of time out helps them to discover the fun that brought them together in the first place. Otherwise, you might find that there's nothing there and for me, the best thing to do is to end the marriage. There's not much point being in a situation where both of you will not be happy. Of course, if you do decide to call it quits with your marriage, you have to work out the best possible deal for your son. He is an innocent party and his interest need to be protected above all else. However, if there really is nothing between you and your husband, its best for you to separate than "Stay together for the kid." Kids are more intuitive than we give them credit for - they can detect happiness or the lack of it and having lived through it, I think most kids would prefer two separated but happy parents than two unhappy grouches feeding of each others negative energies.

Maybe you should try placing more attention on your husband. I have always heard where you place your attention is where your heart is. I would definitely cut ties with this other guy because they lie. They make it sound all good, but he may just want one thing. I am sure your husband does love you.

if you still love him then i say make it work, before you go any further with this new guy. try counseling and if that doesnt help and you are 100% sure that you are not happy then you should leave. dont stick around just because.

sorry to know your story, tabithee. i do not know what to suggest you best. but i do think if you still have a little love to your current husband, then keep on for more time. maybe some days later your relationship will become better and better. at the same time, keep less contact with the new guy. at this situation, the more you meet the new guy, the more you will feel disappointment from your husband. i think so, just for your reference, tabithee!

Communication is the key here. I understand you don't want to hurt his feelings but you have to talk to him or else it is just going to continue to eat at you until you clear your mind. I suggest taking a night out, just the two of you. Maybe have a dinner at home. Sit and talk. Tell him that you do love him but you are not happy. If you want to make the marriage work, tell him how much you want it to. If he truly loves you and is in love with you, he will not want to lose you. I suggest bringing up the mariage counseling again. Let him know how much of a struggle you are having. Since you are sad and confused, let him know that is how you feel. You have to put everything out there on the table in order to reconstruct on a better foundation so it can work out. If none of that works, the last resort is to leave. If you aren't happy, then the relationship will not last anyway because he will start to pick up on that eventually.